Okay...I've Called the Late Night DISers, Now I'm Calling the Single DISers (Part 2)

[Pin Wizard]

Thank you, SSB!

 

[bizybea]

OMG...wait until I tell you what has been going on! So, ok, after telling this guy that I would go with him to the ball, he really started being assertive, asking me to lunch/dinner, wondering what I was doing in July because he was going to Louisianna for weapons training and I could visit him, etc. and I started feeling that he was interested in being more than a friend, and I'm definitely not ready for that yet! So, I tried calling the cell phone number he gave me yesterday and today so I could tell him things were moving too fast and that I would understand if he wanted to take someone else to the ball instead, someone that he was interested in being "more than friends" with. Well, when I didn't get a hold of him, I got his email from another email sent to us both. I wrote him just what I said, that I didn't feel comfortable going to the ball as his date, etc. So then I gave him my email and IM name.

So, about 15 mins later...I got an IM from someone that I didn't recognize, and it was a woman. She told me that she WAS HIS WIFE! I was like, OMG...I am so sorry, I had no idea. And she was like, I'm not mad at you, and this isn't the first time. We've been married for 8 years and he has a 7 year old and a 15 mo. old here at home!! I told her I totally wasn't interested in a relationship with him, or anyone else, for that matter and she was really nice. She asked me how I knew him and I told her from school, that we are in an organization together, and told her that I most definitely was NOT going to the ball with him, or wouldn't speak to him anymore for that matter! She told me that he told her the ball was ONLY for Navy men and women, no spouses allowed! She asked me if anyone at school knew he was married, and I told her I didn't think anyone did, but that they would now!! I felt so bad for her, and I offered to her to IM me whenever she wanted to chat, and also told her she could email me.

I feel so duped! I'm so glad that I wasn't interested in this guy, but I never thought he was lying to me. His wife said that he is a very good liar, that he's had a lot of practice. I just kind of feel like I can't trust anyone now, which is sad because I'm an extremely honest person. And I'm mad that he thought I was stupid enough to prey upon. I'm glad I had reservations and wrote him that email, I thanked his wife for IMing me, I still haven't gotten the email she said she sent, so if she hadn't IMed me, I probably would never have known! What is wrong with men?! ARGH. She said she called and told him that she talked to me, so he knows I know. I dare him to try and talk to me now! How can I trust someone I'm getting to know ever again? I am talking to a few guys online, now I'm going over and over correspondence to see if I can pick up on anything weird. Does this ever get any better?

 

[Pin Wizard]

Wow, Bea! I'm so sorry!! Unfortunately, there are many out there that will lie to you. You would never suspect a thing to look at them. Every now and then I get an e-mail from someone at militaryfriends.com. (I like a guy in uniform!!) I have to say that three of them that contacted me are married. And coincidentally, they're all Navy!!! They seem to be honest in their profiles. They do say they are married, kids, etc. But they're looking for something any way. Been there in the past, not ever going there again if I can help it. Unfortunately, these days I question everything a person tells me. I just don't take it as gospel because they've told me something. You learn as you go.

I think you're right to just not have any correspondence with him at all.

 

[bizybea]

Pin Wizard~I know this guy from school!! He lied to me, straight in my face. I assume that guys online may not tell the truth, but a guy that I'm having a face to face conversation with, ? I'm usually really good at picking up when someone is lying to me, but I could not tell with him.

 

[SideshowBob]

YOWSA!

I am really sorry to hear about that bizybea... Thank goodness though, that you were able to find out about it before any real involvement. Good for you for taking the offensive when not comfortable, as surely did pay off in exposing him.

SSB is pretty happy, as have my kiddos for both nights this weekend (usually only one), which will be lots of fun! Kinda' chilly here in Orlando today... but I think to not last too long. Hoping for doing lots outdoors, including baseball and some hiking and such.

I hope that everyone has a nice Friday... and nice weekend plans ahead!

 

[bizybea]

I'm taking my DD to see The Heffalump Movie this weekend!

 

[floridaminnie]

SSB you call this chilly? It was nice out today. I guess my blood is thicking up some!

 

[legs22]

I'm taking my DD to see The Heffalump Movie this weekend!

Same here

 

[SideshowBob]

SSB you call this chilly? It was nice out today. I guess my blood is thicking up some!

I had on jacket tonight for certain, for DS's game... was in low 50's... cold enought for my thinned blood... haha!!!

We have only seen previews many times... shall have to check out now that it has opened. Let me know what you think!

 

[Pin Wizard]

bizybea...Yes, even they will lie to you while keeping a straight face. The GOOD part is letting them know when you've caught on!

We're chilly here! Went out today with jeans, tee-shirt, sweater, jacket on. Brrrrrrrr! There were others around here without coats of any kind!

Nothing special...DYING to get my first paycheck!!! I do get money for this fun called "work" right?

 

[bizybea]

Pin Wizard ~ I haven't spoken to him, nor do I have plans to. He's emailed me 3 times and I've deleted them all. I'm going to a party tonight for members of the organization that we're in together and I told the hostess all about the situation, and told her that if he showed up, that I'd have to leave. She told me that I wouldn't be leaving, that HE would! LOL.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Good luck!! Hope it goes well. Check in and let us know how it goes.

 

[TigerBear]

Bizybea, that is almost hard to believe! Do all of his co-workers know he cheats or do they not know he is married?!?

Yep Sandy, the paycheck makes it worth it!

SSB, I hope you are enjoying your kiddos!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Looking forward to it!

Any hot dates this weekend, Deb?

 

[TigerBear]

I had a hot date with my honey last night! On Wednesday we are going to Austin to get his medical license. I am so proud of him.

The other good news is that my realtor put up a sold sign today at my house. The closing isn't until the 28th so I hope she is not jinxing me.

 

[SideshowBob]

So cool about that first check, Ms. PinW!

Did have wonderful weekend with the rascals! We did a lot of hiking, the games and more. The leaving after church on Sunday's always hard, especially after lots of time together, as get into such a great routine of life.

GREAT news about about license next week... congrats to him!

bizybea... good to steer clear o' that rascal... kind o' surprised about how open he is about it, or how known. Hope it will catch up to him... and can maybe straighten out one day, but doesn't look good.

Tried to send to you all (as I could) Oscar ballots from my contest at work that I have been doing over the years... all for fun, and any welcome to join if you like. Does make watching even more fun.

Hope that everyone having a GREAT weekend!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Congrats to your honey, TB!! And congrats on the hot date!

Thanks for that, SSB. I took a stab at it. LOL!

We're headed out for a while. Getting a bit stir crazy. Took a drive yesterday to find an alternate route to work...FORGET IT!!! I think I was closer to NC than I was to work!

 

[TigerBear]

The only movie I have seen nominated for best picture is Million Dollar Baby. I definitely hope it will take home some Oscars.

I'm going to a bridal shower for my cousin this afternoon. She has told me that she will be inviting me to all of her showers and to not feel like I need to attend/bring a gift to each one. I'm helping to give her a family shower next month. I wonder how many there will be? They are inviting 600 people to the wedding.

 

[TigerBear]

Sandy, how is your lunch hour going? Do you think it might be possible to cut it down to 30 minutes so you could leave 30 minutes earlier?

 

[bizybea]

Wow, it sounds like everyone had good weekends. I just got back from taking my DD to see The Heffalump Movie. It was cute, but I still like Piglet's Big Movie better. The party was fine last night, he didn't show up. And no, nobody knew that he was married! It's snowing over here in Ohio! Argh...will spring ever come?