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[TandT]

Heard back from my Dr. Not good. No IUI this month. She wants to do surgery to try to clear out the scar tissue. I'll need to be knocked out for the procedure, which freaks me out because I've never had that done before. It is outpatient, though. We can't do it until after this cycle is over because we can't squeeze it in this month. They are going to try to do it early next cycle so that I can do IUI next month hopefully.

I don't know if my insurance will cover the surgery. If not, I can't afford to do it soon because the nurse said it would be at least $5-6K.

I'm so upset. I was so happy, having the IUI stuff going on. And now it all came crashing down today.

I can't even do the clomid this month because of the chance of eptopic pregnancy due to the scar tissue. So I'm stuck until I have the surgery.

I'm so frustrated that this wasn't discovered sooner, but I understand that they didn't have reason to think there was something wrong with me since I've already had a baby and then my DH's results came back funky.

I'm frustrated that this has been so difficult. I thought for sure we'd proceed along with IUI, which I was super excited about. And now this.

Then she said if she can't get all of the scar tissue out with surgery, then we'd have to be referred to an RE. So I could go through all of this, and it STILL not work. I'm starting to wonder if this just wasn't meant to be.

Sorry to hear about the crappy news Skuttle I gotta have outpatient surgery too...Uterine septum removal before I can even get on clomid. Sooo frustrating.... Hang in there!!!

 

[skuttle]

Thanks everyone.

I think the nurse did say hysteroscopy. I was in such a daze when she was talking to me. I had just pulled up to DS's after care to pick him up when she called. I just sort of listened and just, I don't know, I was just in a daze. I'm pretty sure that's what she said, though.

I just don't know what the scar tissue could be from. They asked me if I ever had a D&C, which I haven't. Initially when we scheduled the HSG, my dr said I may have scar tissue from when I had DS since my water broke 4 weeks early. I'm not sure if that's it or not. I also thought that it may have been the reason for my chemical pregnancies.

I told DH that it was a good thing he didn't have surgery since I"m broken, too!

The nurse made it sound like I could have the surgery towards the end of the month, and still do IUI right afterwards if my Dr thought she was able to clear it out. But it sounds like I may have to wait out another cycle. I'll have to confirm. I have a consult scheduled for the end of the month, so that's definitely something to ask. IF my insurance covers it!

 

[skuttle]

So I now have some hope. I just got an explanation of benefits in from my insurance company for my two follicle scans at my Dr's office and also the scan I had done at the hospital. I have a high deductible insurance plan, so I have had to pay for everything so far because i haven't met my deductible yet. But when I look at my account online, everything I've paid so far is listed under "deductible" and not under the "not covered" column. So to me, that sounds like it's all been counted towards my deductible, which would be a good sign. Also, on the statement, where it says "amount satisfied 2009" it shows all of what I've paid so far under "deductible." So I have a little more hope than I had a few hours ago.

 

[NEM]

Heard back from my Dr. Not good. No IUI this month. She wants to do surgery to try to clear out the scar tissue. I'll need to be knocked out for the procedure, which freaks me out because I've never had that done before. It is outpatient, though. We can't do it until after this cycle is over because we can't squeeze it in this month. They are going to try to do it early next cycle so that I can do IUI next month hopefully.

I don't know if my insurance will cover the surgery. If not, I can't afford to do it soon because the nurse said it would be at least $5-6K.

I'm so upset. I was so happy, having the IUI stuff going on. And now it all came crashing down today.

I can't even do the clomid this month because of the chance of eptopic pregnancy due to the scar tissue. So I'm stuck until I have the surgery.

Hi there,

I am jumping in even though I dont normally post on this thread. I had the same thing happen with me and my insurance did not cover "fertility" treatment, but DID cover this hysteroscopy to remove an abnormality on the uterus - my doctor did not code it under fertility...just be open with your doctor on that. They want to be paid too!

I also completely understand your disappointment....it feels like another delay. My RE said to think of the abnormality as a built in IUD that is preventing successful implantation...I sat out 1 cycle after and still did not get pregnant on the first round. But I then switched to injectables to get more better quality eggs for the next round and got pregnant. If you dont make "enough" eggs...you may want to think of that too.

They knocked me out too but only sore for a day or so. And it was like a nice nap.

If you are going to spend the money on the IUI, just think of it that you want the best chance possible and this will help that. Also, I know you said if this didnt work you would be "done", but my RE also advised me that they say it can take up to 6 IUI's for a positive result, so be gentle with yourself and your limits. I can tell you it was ALL very worth it.

I am again pregnant with my 2nd, and again had the HSG (hated it), but this time everything was clear....and with good results.

Good luck on your journey and I hope to hear good news from you in the future.

Michelle

 

[D&DDisney]

Oh, and I love the stupid holiday coming up this weekend. Can't even stinking go to church, which should be the most comforting place, since they almost all do baby dedications or other equally difficult things. Ugh ugh ugh.

This is the WORST weekend. Hang in there. Stay home and chat w/ us. We won't even mention MD.

Skuttle - I had 2 laparoscopies and had to be put on (forget the hormone name) shots to put me in menapause for 3 months to get rid of my endo. That was horrible. However, though the surgeries made me sore and the shots were horrible, it was the IUI after that where I got my BFP. And the surgery was covered as it was due to a medical condition. Keep thinking positive.

 

[Pollito916]

Skuttle - I had 2 laparoscopies and had to be put on (forget the hormone name) shots to put me in menapause for 3 months to get rid of my endo. That was horrible. However, though the surgeries made me sore and the shots were horrible, it was the IUI after that where I got my BFP. And the surgery was covered as it was due to a medical condition. Keep thinking positive.

Skuttle - I haven't posted here for a long time, but I've still been following everyone's stories. I also had endo and a laproscopy followed by Lupron shots to put me through menopause for 6 months twice, and then got pregnant on the first try, without any other treatments. Pixie dust to you and everyone else here!

 

[KiKi Mouse]

Skuttle,
hang in there honey. I am thinking of you and all the others on here.

*hugs* to everybody for this weekend. I know it is bittersweet. I thought maybe I would be able to celebrate it a bit more but alas evil AF found me on day 33. Like what the heck is that all about? I did a HPT this morning and there was nothing even imaginary on the test. Tonight AF showed. I feel so defeated and have found myself becoming more angry and apathetic.

Off to cuddle with DH on the couch. He had his hopes up too.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Sorry Kiki.

 

[skuttle]

Kiki I'm so sorry. It is so hard to get your hopes up like that only to have af arrive.

Thanks everyone for the support. It so great to me able to talk to others with similar experiences. I did talk to the nurse yesterday about how the surgery would be coded.

I am willing to do multiple iui. We just won't do ivf. I also feel like I am running out of time since ds will be 6 in July.

 

[D&DDisney]

Skuttle,
hang in there honey. I am thinking of you and all the others on here.

*hugs* to everybody for this weekend. I know it is bittersweet. I thought maybe I would be able to celebrate it a bit more but alas evil AF found me on day 33. Like what the heck is that all about? I did a HPT this morning and there was nothing even imaginary on the test. Tonight AF showed. I feel so defeated and have found myself becoming more angry and apathetic.

Off to cuddle with DH on the couch. He had his hopes up too.

To you Kiki.
Those late AF visits are soooo horrible cause they toy w/ your hopes.

 

[allie_to_you]

Oh, and I love the stupid holiday coming up this weekend. Can't even stinking go to church, which should be the most comforting place, since they almost all do baby dedications or other equally difficult things. Ugh ugh ugh.

I soooo hear you. I am skipping church this weekend too...it's hard enough each week seeing all the cute babies, but I just can't it this weekend. When you want a child so bad and can't have one, it's ten times harder when people around are celebrating being a mom.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

*hugs*
Yes, this weekend can be very difficult and it is not something a lot of people can understand. There's a book out there called "But inside I'm screaming". It has nothing to do with fertility but it sure is how I feel sometimes.

Do what you need to do and if that means avoiding some people or places then so be it. You have to take care of your own well being. Most of all be thankful for your Mom

 

[skuttle]

to all of you ladies today. It's days like today that I feel guilty for even being on this thread! I know every lady on this thread will be a wonderful mom one day!

Courtney, extra hugs to you because I'm sure this day is even harder for you considering your mom's condition.

 

[boltfans]

I've been really busy at work this week, and we had family come in for an event at the kids' school so I haven't had time to get on here, but Skuttle, I'm sorry to hear the test didn't work out the way you'd hoped. At least it seems that the surgery will be covered and that so many others have had great successes after it so here's hoping you have the same results soon!

I've had general anesthesia for sinus surgery and my husband is an anesthesiologist so have a lot of confidence that you'll be perfectly fine. It's always scary to endure, but try not to worry too much and just focus on the positive outcome of the surgery.

Regarding the bleeding being from anovulation, that has been my suspicion about my own body but the dr totally blew me off when I mentioned it. I had been using OPKs during some cycles and never got a positive a few cycles and I told her that and she said I probably timed it wrong since I had irregular cycles. They were only different by 3 days (26-29 day cycles, as opposed to my former 28 day cycle) so I highly doubt I missed ovulation as I had a decent idea of when it would occur. So I'm definitely mentioning this at my appt.

I did get a blood test last week for FSH levels and they came back in the normal range so maybe my dr was right and I am ovulating, but then I think, maybe they're just not good quality eggs so that's what the bleeding is from? I hate not knowing and having to wait so much without any prospects.

For the first time over a year, I seem to be having a normal cycle so far (granted it's only 7 days in...) so I am getting my hopes up again, even though my mind is telling me not to. My neighbor suggested I take a B6 supplement to help with the random spotting (she's from Norway and she said that's a common remedy there) so I did about 2 weeks ago and I haven't been spotting since. Now, my husband thinks it is just coincidental but I'm holding out hope that it might actually be helping me.

 

[D&DDisney]

on this day! Hope the day goes by fast.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Hi everyone. Hope you all are hanging in there today.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Hi everyone. I hope everyone is doing okay and just wanted to send you all good wishes.

 

[D&DDisney]

Made it through MD but now I keep hearing announcements of others who are pregnant. So hard to fake that smile.

 

[boltfans]

Made it through MD but now I keep hearing announcements of others who are pregnant. So hard to fake that smile.

I understand that completely. I swear that everyone I know either just had a baby, is due soon, or is newly pregnant. When I hear their due dates it really hits home when I think "Wow, that would have been my due date had we conceived x months ago..."

 

[D&DDisney]

I understand that completely. I swear that everyone I know either just had a baby, is due soon, or is newly pregnant. When I hear their due dates it really hits home when I think "Wow, that would have been my due date had we conceived x months ago..."

That is the exact same thing I am thinking when I hear that. That should be MY due date.