New TTC Thread

[skuttle]

Just heard from my Dr's office and my surgery will count towards my insurance deductible!! I already have my deductible amount saved in my HSA, so it looks like everything is in place! I will call the office when AF arrives to schedule the surgery because they want to do it before O to make sure there's no pregnancy (Ha! Like I would be on my own! ). Not sure if I'll have to sit out this cycle or not. I have my pre-op appt the Tuesday after Memorial Day. I'm excited, but nervous because I've never had any type of surgery. I'm so afraid something will happen and I won't wake up and I'll leave my DS without a mom while trying to have another baby. I know, I'm such a Debbie Downer!

 

[D&DDisney]

You'll be fine Skuttle!
It is scary - especially waking up from the annesthesia. I had a rough time - really jittery and shaking.
We'll be praying for you!

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Hi everyone. Well here we go again, tonight starts another round of injections. It's on to the next step I think if this time doesn't work, so I am REALLY hoping this month is a BFP.

I hope you all are doing okay, and as always, babydust to everyone!

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Made it through MD but now I keep hearing announcements of others who are pregnant. So hard to fake that smile.

I totally hear you. I got hit with another one last week, it was not easy to hear.

 

[skuttle]

It's never easy to hear.

 

[WDWAurora]

AF is back. Yippee Skippee.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Hi Aurora. That's how I feel, yippie skippie.

Another month, another try. I'm going to have to give serious consideration to moving on to the next step if this time isn't successful. I'm am so ready for a BFP.

 

[tink_n_pooh]

Can I join too? Is there a cliff notes version of this thread? I tried to start at the beginning, then I realized the thread is over a year old so I skipped to the last few pages, I'm a little inpatient

 

[D&DDisney]

Can I join too? Is there a cliff notes version of this thread? I tried to start at the beginning, then I realized the thread is over a year old so I skipped to the last few pages, I'm a little inpatient

No cliff notes, but I'll try to fill ya in. We're a group of women of various ages either trying for our first or second/third. Some of us are in various stages of medical help while others are just praying for something to happen naturally.
Regardless, we're here to listen, share stories or just offer a shoulder from someone who understands what you're going through.

Hope your stay is a short one!

 

[tink_n_pooh]

Thanks!

I'm hoping my TTC time is short as well. We haven't been trying for long but I'm just so excited to be trying and trying not to get my hopes up but its just so hard.

Is it ok to ask questions on here, like I'm wondering about implantation bleeding

 

[WDWAurora]

Hi tink n pooh. I'll do cliff notes on myself, and hopefully others will follow suit. It's me, 26, DH, 27, and we've been TTC our first for 2 yrs, 2 months at this point. I've been on Femara, injectibles, and tried IUI, with no success, though all that's really wrong hsa been irregular ovulation. DH is fine. We were told after our failed IUI that it was time to try invitro, so we're in a process of waiting to save up enough money. I'm starting clomid on Monday (maybe tomorrow, I'm still deciphering my body) because my doctor wanted me on something to keep my cycles regular while we wait. So that's basically us.

The minorly good news is that DH's side job has earned us a decent portion (10% ish) of the total we need for IVF. It's nice to see a big chunk whacked away in one day, although I know that we won't whack away a chunk this large again for a while. My dad is going to give us some money, even though I've told him no repeatedly. We've been putting all of my mileage/reimbursement checks in there, so hopefully we'll see the total come soon.

This money stuff has been stupidly difficult for me, and I should be so grateful that we both still have jobs, etc. with the economy the way it is. We got married while I was in grad school, so for the first couple years of marriage, I felt guilty every penny I spent (not DH's fault). So, I've been working, and we basically make the same amount now, so I haven't felt that way in a while. Now-it's back. Ugh.

Anyway...done ranting for the day. Going to go get my clomid at Target with my coupon for a free $20 gift card with new prescription purchase.

 

[skuttle]

Courtney, do y'all have a goal for when you will try to do IVF? Or is it just whenever you get the money together?

Hi Tink-n-pooh! Welcome to the TTC thread. As D&D said, you are definitely welcome here, but we do hope your stay is a short one! Feel free to ask any question(s) you may have!

I'll follow Courtney and give a cliff notes version of my story. DH and I have an almost 6 year old DS. He was a surprise, so TTC #2 has been a new experience. We've been TTC #2 for 3 years now. I've had two chemical pregnancies (April 2007 and October 2008), but that's it. Since I already had a successful pregnancy and my periods are regular, my doctor took things a bit slower, I think. We first tested my insulin because my mom and grandma are diabetic and I had a history of insulin problems with my first pregnancy (my water broke 4 weeks early). I was found to be insulin resistant and put on Metformin. That's all my Dr was willing to do until DH got tested.

So DH had a sperm analysis done last spring (08) and his counts were wacky. So then my Dr said DH had to follow-up with a urologist. That took forever for DH to finally agree to. DH hates doctors. DH followed-up earlier this year. Urologist said his count was fine, but had low motility and morphology. After more tests and ultrasounds, DH was found to have Varicocele which may or may not be affecting our TTC journey. Urologist said he could correct with surgery, but there was no guarantee that this would get us a baby.

Before surgery, we decided to go back to my Dr to find out if there was anything else we could do before surgery. My last cycle we had my follicles monitored by ultrasound with the hope of doing an IUI. Follicles never grew to a good size, so no IUI. Doctor decided to put me on Clomid and try IUI this cycle. Before that, I had an HSG done to check my tubes. Found some scar tissue, so no clomid or IUI. My next step is to have surgery to remove the scar tissue. Just found out that this will be covered by insurance, so I hope to have this done by the end of the month or early next month, depending on when AF arrives.

Ugh...it's very depressing to write all of that out. It shouldn't be this difficult!

 

[boltfans]

Chloe - Lots of positive thoughts going your way this month!!

Aurora - I really hope you get the money together sooner than you anticipate. I know how much the waiting stinks and when you finally have a solution, but money is standing in the way.

Skuttle - I was just thinking this week about how this process shouldn't be this difficult too. It really takes the joy out of planning a baby and that gets depressing. Honestly, 'trying' each month has become a chore for both of us, a point I never thought my husband would come to! I am so hoping for a positive this month as AF is due the day before my birthday, plus next month makes a year of TTC.

Anyway, my bio. Tink n Pooh, I recently joined this thread but my husband and I have been TTC #3 for nearly a year now. Our kids are 5 and almost 3yo and both were conceived on the first try so this whole process of trying is also very new to me. The big difference, I think anyway, is that about 15 months ago my cycles got a little wacky. I used to be every 28 days like clockwork, plenty of fertile CM each month, no spotting ever, etc. Then suddenly I started this weird mid-cycle spotting and have little to no fertile CM each month. As the year went on, the spotting progressed to not just midcycle (and at that, often several days midcycle to the point of needing to wear a liner), but also in the days preceeding AF. I saw an OB in my regular group (the the one I've seen for 6 years was out on medical leave) and she was very unconcerned with my issues, totally downplayed them, said I was young (I'll be 29 next month) and have 2 kids so I shouldn't stress about it. She tested for STDs (which I knew I didn't have), did a pap, and a thyroid blood test. All of the tests were clear and that was that as far as she was concerned.

I just had an FSH test done this cycle and that came back fine too, so I guess that means I am ovulating, but I'm not sure on the quality. I went back to the dr yesterday and she said the next step is to get blood work done on days 20 and 21 of my cycle and see what my hormone levels are and go from there. She was very vague about next steps but I guess I should wait to see what the blood work says before I start worrying about it.

So that's about it for me. I am still holding out hope for this month as I haven't been spotting at all yet so I'm hoping that means my body is working right for a change. I did start a vitamin B6 supplement (a suggestion from my neighbor) and I have no idea if that is the cause, but since I started it the spotting has been gone. Seems like a weird deficiency to have though. I still have just about 2 weeks before I'll know anything, but here's hoping!


ETA: Tink, what exactly did you want to know about implantation bleeding? I didn't have it with either of my kids, but I have heard a lot of women do get it and that it's totally normal.

 

[tink_n_pooh]

Thanks everyone

I guess I should probably tell my story too...

DH (30) and I (28) held off on TTC until we bought our own home (we were living with his parents for about a year). We are moved in now and I think I have worked DH down enough to finally start trying We both want kids, it just took me awhile get DH motivated that now is as good of a time as ever

This was our first month of what I would call trying, as in knowing when we were 'supposed' to do it and actually doing it. I'm trying not to get too excited but its so hard not to be

My question about implantation bleeding started out as, 'hmm never heard of it before' and has moved onto 'still trying not to get my hopes up'. So here is the story... 5 days after our attempt I had some very dark brown blood. My first thought was disappointment and then a friend of mine (who is also TTC) said you know what that could be... so of course I spent an hour googling implantation bleeding. I think its still to early to test yet so I'm waiting waiting waiting

 

[DznyLvr2005]

Hi tink n pooh. I'll do cliff notes on myself, and hopefully others will follow suit. It's me, 26, DH, 27, and we've been TTC our first for 2 yrs, 2 months at this point. I've been on Femara, injectibles, and tried IUI, with no success, though all that's really wrong hsa been irregular ovulation. DH is fine. We were told after our failed IUI that it was time to try invitro, so we're in a process of waiting to save up enough money. I'm starting clomid on Monday (maybe tomorrow, I'm still deciphering my body) because my doctor wanted me on something to keep my cycles regular while we wait. So that's basically us.

The minorly good news is that DH's side job has earned us a decent portion (10% ish) of the total we need for IVF. It's nice to see a big chunk whacked away in one day, although I know that we won't whack away a chunk this large again for a while. My dad is going to give us some money, even though I've told him no repeatedly. We've been putting all of my mileage/reimbursement checks in there, so hopefully we'll see the total come soon.

This money stuff has been stupidly difficult for me, and I should be so grateful that we both still have jobs, etc. with the economy the way it is. We got married while I was in grad school, so for the first couple years of marriage, I felt guilty every penny I spent (not DH's fault). So, I've been working, and we basically make the same amount now, so I haven't felt that way in a while. Now-it's back. Ugh.

Anyway...done ranting for the day. Going to go get my clomid at Target with my coupon for a free $20 gift card with new prescription purchase.

I have a good feeling about you taking clomid, I don't know why I just do. I've just heard it work for so many people (me included) If you have irregular ovulation, again, I feel like this clomid is going to be good for you.
Is you doctor going to monitor you on clomid?
I can't believe they'd only do one IUI. I thought you have to do 3 in a row and then if nothing happens, then go onto the next step.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

Thanks everyone

My question about implantation bleeding started out as, 'hmm never heard of it before' and has moved onto 'still trying not to get my hopes up'. So here is the story... 5 days after our attempt I had some very dark brown blood. My first thought was disappointment and then a friend of mine (who is also TTC) said you know what that could be... so of course I spent an hour googling implantation bleeding. I think its still to early to test yet so I'm waiting waiting waiting

Hi
5 days I think would be too early for implatations spotting. That would mean that the egg traveled down and implanted in only 5 days. From what I've read and experienced, it would be bright red spotting 8-10 days after O.
I had implatations spotting at day 10 with my second pregnancy (ended in m/c though) but with my first pregnancy (m/c again) and last (have a 10 month old) I didn't have ANY spotting at all!
Hope this helps

 

[allie_to_you]

Hi Everyone,

I've only posted a few times on these boards...my DH & I started trying to have a baby about a year ago...we were going to go the IUI route. We had done all the blood work and preliminary tests and stuff and I had even had the HSG done and found out that except for not ovulating regularly, all was okay.

However, the doctor did tell me he wanted me to lose some weight before he wanted to do the procedure. I've struggled with weight all my life and I have worked really hard at trying to lose the weight but just haven't had any real success.

I am planning on doing the lap band surgery at the beginning of next year, so I am hoping that I'll be able to try again for a baby later next year. For now, we are soon to be foster parents to infants. All we are waiting on now is our final approval...hopefully we'll have a baby within a month or 2 and of course I'd love to eventually adopt through the foster care program.

 

[tink_n_pooh]

Allie congrats on your fostering parenting, you will really make a difference in someones life

As for the lapband - I worked with a woman that was told she was not able to have children. She later had the lap band procedure done and got pregnant (she wasn't even trying) about a year after the surgery. She was pregnant with her second child when I left that job

 

[boltfans]

Allie - Welcome and congrats on fostering! What a truly wonderful thing you'll be doing for those kids. 2 of my cousins hav lap bands and the results have been incredible and they haven't had one regret. I hope that works just as well for you.

No real news on my part. I get hormone levels tested this Friday and Saturday, but other than that nothing. Of course, I'm hoping that they find HCG when testing me as I'll be 7 DPO on Friday, but I'm trying not to get too into that theory as I know the likely scenario. Ugh, I just don't understand why after all these months of trying I still get my hopes up each month.

 

[D&DDisney]

Ugh, I just don't understand why after all these months of trying I still get my hopes up each month.

We all do. Its a curse I think.