My sister's wedding issues

[*Fantasia*]

I'm thinking someone just wanted to start a thread to see how long it would get and get everyone riled up!

Michelle

hmmm... maybe someone whose already posting here on this thread is the same person who started this thread. maybe she wants her thread always on the first page and wants her thread with tons of pages and this thread would be popular.

my suggestion to the original poster.. just invite your sister's children. just make them happy. how can you enjoy your wedding if your sister will be upset and her children will be dissapointed and sad. they are your family. there are always exceptions to the rule (your rule). it is not going to kill you or your wedding. it is not going to kill your guests. besides.. the children can't stay out that late anyway.. they will only will probably be there until 8pm.

 

[C.Ann]

I am getting married next year and I do not want kids present at the ceremony or reception. I just want a very trendy, adults only party and I do not want anyone to have to worry about taking care of kids and not paying attention to the party. I did not tell my sister my plans because she has three kids and I knew she would get upset. Her kids are really excited about the wedding and she keeps telling me how they cannot wait to see me get married. Since my mom is helping with the planning she knows i do not want kids there and she let it slip to my sister and my sister got mad. I told mom to tell her that the site will not allow kids to come, though that is not entirely true. Now my sister is saying her feelings are hurt. Finally I let in and said they can come to the ceremony, but not the reception. Now she says she is not sure she can make it to the reception since the wedding site is hours from her house. She cannot be pleased and it is making me stressed!!

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Have not read any of the other responses, but I must say that while you are well within your rights to chose whether or not you want children at your ceremony or reception, the problem arose because you didn't tell your sister (or her children) the truth right from the very beginning.. They were all led astray by your silence and now you're paying the price for not being upfront..

Unfortunately your "silence" has resulted in your sister now saying that she may not attend the wedding at all.. I'm sure that makes you sad, but I don't see why you feel as though her actions are the "cause" of your stress - when it was clearly your inability to be truthful right from the very beginning that caused this rift..

I'd say this is a case of "natural consequences" - and it's unfair of you to try to blame your sister for the stress you are now experiencing as a result of your own actions..

Hopefully the two of you can work something out, but if not, you'll just have to do your best to enjoy your special day without her being there.. Sorry..

 

[*Fantasia*]

Originally Posted by mvazul
I'm thinking someone just wanted to start a thread to see how long it would get and get everyone riled up!

Michelle

hmmm... maybe someone whose already posting here on this thread is the same person who started this thread. maybe she wants her thread always on the first page and wants her thread with tons of pages and this thread would be popular.

Here's a bump for ya! We'll keep this thread going for ya..