My daughter was beaten up at school Another UPDATE PAGE 15

[VSL]

I thought you said "girls" in your OP, but followup posts just mention "the girl" -- what happened to the other one?

*was also wondering about this*

 

[RitaZ.]

Unfortunately, it seems that the majority of kids these days have no respect for themselves or anyone else. The small group of kids that DOES have respect for themselves and others seems to be the group the endures the bullpoop.

Unfortunately, this is so accurate. Trashy and delinquent kids are "in" right now, decent kids that have manners and respect others are now the outcasts. It's totally messed up!

 

[missypie]

I'm so sorry for you and your daughter.

Interesting that this should come up. I ran into a guy today who I used to work with. Our sons are both in the 9th grade at the same high school. I asked him how HS was going for his son and he said that his son and "a friend" had gotten in a fight (mutual - not bullying) and both of them (first offense) had gotten (1) three days of out of school suspension, (2) seven days of in school suspension, AND (3) the police came and gave each of them a ticket for disorderly conduct.

The guy was ticked that they came down so hard on his son, but I was delighted to hear that our school has a tough policy on fighting. I was especially pleased to hear that the police were called.

Once you get over the immediate pain you're going through, I hope you be come a big pain in the you-know-what to your school distict until they adopt a zero tolerance policy that involves both suspension/expulsion AND police contact.

 

[Disney_1derland]

Oh Jenny, how awful I hope she's okay, physically. I know the emotional pain is so hard to deal with, I hope she's okay there too. Is it possible to file a restraining order or something to make the school keep them away from her? Something similar happened to me in school and the girl lost all her priviledges permanently, she could'nt eat lunch at the same time I did, she couldn't have classes in the same building as I did etc.

 

[Wish I lived in Fl]

That stinks- sending a hug her way.

 

[snowwite]

I fell so bad for your DD. My DS was having similar trouble. I enrolled him in Tae Kwon Do classes. The classes teach self control and encourage kids to turn the other cheek. But it has given him a lot more confidence knowing that if it happens again he could defend himself. Luckily he has not needed to I think in part because the bullies are not in any hurry to se what he has learned. It might be worthwhile to check with local martial arts school. O cant believe they only got a week suspension.I dont think that is enough.

 

[SunFloridaDisney]

So sorry, it is so hard being a parent and having to deal with such stuff. Hope your DD is ok.

 

[PrincessKitty1]

I am so appalled! I'm glad to hear you will be pressing charges. The girls should be expelled. Perhaps you will consider seeing an attorney to find out if it would be worthwhile to sue the school district, not to make $$$ but to make them get it in gear with ZERO TOLERANCE. I am outraged at the 5-day suspension.

 

[vital]

I agree with martial arts training. My son is 6 and is in karate. He is as nonviolent as they come but I want him to be able to defend himself if the situation ever arises. He is taught to NEVER use his karate unless it is to defend himself. I can already see his confidence growing. I'm sorry you've had to go through this. Unfortunately, it's becoming more of the norm than not. Makes you wonder where the parents are.

 

[JennyMominRI]

Unfortunately, it seems that the majority of kids these days have no respect for themselves or anyone else. The small group of kids that DOES have respect for themselves and others seems to be the group the endures the bullpoop.

My son has been suspended this year for punching a boy who consistently bullied him. The punch came when the bully came at him swinging a piece of wood in shop class. Unfortunately, my son didn't want to document earlier instances, so he was suspended along with the other boy. Not sure what's happened since, but my son tells me that the other boy is no longer in school.

I don't normally agree with Anne/Ducklite, but I think she has given you excellent advice. The MySpace idea is also great.

I hope your daughter is okay and will not have to deal with this in the future.

I thought you said "girls" in your OP, but followup posts just mention "the girl" -- what happened to the other one?

I was told that there were 2 girls involved, but apparently,only one girl punched her and was suspended/charged.. DD is fine. We took her to the ER
she's a tough kid. I would have let her stay home tomorrow,but she wants to go..There will be a meeting tomorrow

 

[MELSMICE]

So sorry this happened to your DD. There is nothing worse than bullying. Keep us all posted.

 

[SunshineOR]

When the girl (s) comes to you looking REALLY sorry and apologizing and asking forgiveness... Say, "Thank you and I accept your apology, but we will still be pressing charges." I HATE it when kids like this get away with this all the time because they look sorry and contrite and people let them off with a warning. The only way this girl will learn (and the one with her should have a harsh punishment even if she didn't throw a punch!) is if she has harsh consequences that really make her think before she does anything like this again.

 

[kilee]

I am so sorry this happened to your dd . I hope she's okay. Those girls need to be expelled for the entire year. Let their parents deal w/ that.

 

[JennyMominRI]

I wanted to add Ducklite.I'm taking all of your advice and printing it out.. There will be a meeting tomorrow.. I still haven't reached my brother . I have a feeling he is at the doctor himself. I'm sure he will have advice..I'm sure I'll have some more info for everyone tomorrow.
I went through a LOT of buuly as a kid,and you can rest assured that I won't sit back and let it happen with my child. . Over my dead body

 

[Alice28]

I'm glad your DD is doing ok physically- how awful for her! Please update us tomorrow after the meeting and what your brother says...

 

[DVC Sadie]

So sorry about your dd. Please let us know how it goes tomorrow at her school.

 

[scoutsmom99]

I'm sorry to hear that about your DD. I will be sure to keep you guys in my thoughts. No one should have to be treated like that at school or elsewhere.

 

[mommytotwo]

I'm so sorry to hear about what happened.

 

[luv2nascar]

kids today ughhhhh
I just don't know what they are thinking. Best of luck.

 

[declansdad]

Why are people in the US so quick to suggest a lawsuit. Why not punish the kids that attacked this poor girl. There has to be a better way of helping the schools deal with bullying than sueing them and being confrontational.