My daughter was beaten up at school Another UPDATE PAGE 15

[DISNEYFANRI]

Jenny - sending from Northern RI to you and your DD - I am so sorry that she has had to endure this - I am continually amazed how many kids turn to violence - girls included.

 

[Laurajean1014]

Unfortuately, this is what happens in intermediate and high school. Especially with girls. This is a way to make themselves known or popular. This happened in my school often enough.

It did happen to me in 8th grade. My mom pressed charges, she was expelled and I did not get in any trouble (I did defend myself by hitting her in the esophagus and stopped her breathing). Not proud of it, but no-one messed with me after that. And for that, I am glad.

This may crush your daughter's self esteem for a few days or weeks, but she will bounce back.

I had a black eye for a week or so - a constant reminder of my encounter with the ghoul.

Good luck to your daughter.

 

[Dan Murphy]

So very sorry, Jenny, that is so sad, so terrible. Hope she is okay.

 

[mommaU4]

I purposely stayed away from this for awhile because I didn't know if I could stand to read about another kid getting beat up at school.

And I haven't read throught all the replies, but I had to let you know I am so sorry that happened to your DD. Poor dear. It makes me sick to my stomach the way kids are today.

Why oh why can't something be done to protect our kids when they are at school? It's always been an issue but it seems to be getting worse and I hate it. I hate it for all the kids who have ever been on the recieving end of such attacks. I hope she is okay.

 

[mom23boys]

I am so sorry this happened to your DD.

It is utterly disgusting how some kids can be so mean and hateful.

I hope she feels better soon.

 

[DisneyDotty]

This is horrid. I have no patience with this kind of behavior. Given they have a history of bothering your daughter, these girls should be expelled. Why should your daughter have to live in fear?
to you and your daughter.
(And are you getting a warm fuzzy with the outpouring of support you're getting? The Dis Board rocks!)

 

[tiggger1]

Here's another thought...witih all of the talk about myspace.com, you may want to see if the girl (is it one or two?) who beat her up has a page, and if she has posted any negative comments about your DD--if she has, that's fuel to the fire--print it out and take it in to the school.
Hope all goes well!
Robin M.

I have a myspace account if you want me to do some digging for you. Just send me your daughters school name and ill see if i can help you out

 

[DisneyDotty]

And Anne/ducklite--I'm hiring you if I need a Child Advocate! You rock!

 

[ducklite]

And Anne/ducklite--I'm hiring you if I need a Child Advocate! You rock!

Thanks. Not to hijack the thread, but I had issues with my sons school (very different circumstances), took them to court without an attorney, and won. It cost them a boatload of money because they couldn't see the floor past the end of their noses.

Anne

 

[Disney Doll]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I would make an appointment to speak to the principal tomorrow. Tell them that you will be coming, s/he will be there, and also in attendance will be a guidance counselor, the schol psycologist, the school police liason (if there is one), and a representative from the Superintendents office there. Do not give them a choice. Let them know that you would like to handle this nicely, but if they will not work with your daughters best interest, they will be speaking to your attorney instead. Do not let them blow you off, say people can't make it. They can rearrange their schedules to accomodate you. If you get there and some of those people aren't there, sit back in your chair and let them know you'll wait until they arrive. Then be quiet and make them squirm--which they will do. It's an old sales technique and it works every time, even in instances like this.

Put an action plan IN WRITING as to what the school will do to protect your daughter, and how they will manage this situation moving forward. Get a copy.

Follow up with the police department. Call your DA, and let them know that this was premeditated as part of an ongoing series of events. Ask them to consider filing charges against this girl as an adult.

The school has a DUTY to safeguard your daughter. They knew from previous events that there was an issue, and were negligent in their duty. In all honesty, I would strongly consider hiring an attorney.

You might also want to file a report with your state Child Protective Agency.

I would strongly consider getting an order of protection, even if it means the attacker has to change schools. Your daughter is the victim, do not let the district try to bully you inot making her change schools.

I would NOT accept a phone call of any type for any reason from the girls parents or insurance company. If they call, refer them to your lawyer.

The squeaky wheel gets the oil. Start squeaking and good luck!

Anne

This is very good advice.

 

[SamIAm21]

And Anne/ducklite--I'm hiring you if I need a Child Advocate! You rock!

Totally rock!! I wish I knew someone like you back when I was in high school! Girls are actually meaner than boys at that age. All boys want to do at that age is play sports!

Still hoping for the best for your daughter Jenny!

 

[VSL]

It did happen to me in 8th grade. My mom pressed charges, she was expelled and I did not get in any trouble (I did defend myself by hitting her in the esophagus and stopped her breathing). Not proud of it, but no-one messed with me after that. And for that, I am glad.

Similar thing happened to me when I was 6-8yrs old. Stabbed her in the head with a pencil. No words passed between us since. It was the first time I 'cracked'.

There's only so much a person can take sometimes.

*is also hiring ducklite if anything like this ever happens to my future children*

 

[nliedel]

I am watching this thread to see what happens. I am so terribly sorry that this happened to your child. Keep us all informed. Go after this punk with the law. A change of shoes to beat her up? What the heck is going on in this world?

 

[paigevz]

That's horrible. I'm sure you're just sick. Poor kid. Whatever is those girls' problem with yours? Is there anything else you can do to make sure they don't do it again? I guess I'm wondering if the suspension and cops are going to stop them or not. They seem like really ill kids.........to want to do that to begin with, and then to plan it.......even change shoes. So sorry you've had to go through this (again)!

 

[Kitty 34]

I'm so sorry your DD had to go thru this horrible experience.

 

[HayGan]

I'm so sorry to hear that this happened to your precious DD! Adolescent girls can be so terrible. I had to face a few bullies in middle school and they were the worst. As if the teenage years weren't hard enough!

Anyway, I hope she is ok and that the school district really takes a stand and protects your daughter!

 

[kdibattista]

I'm so sorry

 

[mtemm]

(((HUGS))) I'm so sorry. I can't understand why anyone would do something like this. Hopefully your DD is okay and the girls responsible are punished accordingly. And hopefully they figure out violence is just plain wrong.

 

[kc10family]

RI Info (Fun Filled Facts For Family and Friends)

http://www.bullypolice.org/ri_law.html

 

[sweet angel]

Unfortunately, it seems that the majority of kids these days have no respect for themselves or anyone else. The small group of kids that DOES have respect for themselves and others seems to be the group the endures the bullpoop.

My son has been suspended this year for punching a boy who consistently bullied him. The punch came when the bully came at him swinging a piece of wood in shop class. Unfortunately, my son didn't want to document earlier instances, so he was suspended along with the other boy. Not sure what's happened since, but my son tells me that the other boy is no longer in school.

I don't normally agree with Anne/Ducklite, but I think she has given you excellent advice. The MySpace idea is also great.

I hope your daughter is okay and will not have to deal with this in the future.

I thought you said "girls" in your OP, but followup posts just mention "the girl" -- what happened to the other one?