My daughter was beaten up at school Another UPDATE PAGE 15

[Cthia]

Your poor daughter. I hope she is doing better.

I am shocked to hear that the girl only got suspended. Sounds like the school system needs tougher rules for things like this. No kid should go to school worrying about being bullied, threatened or hurt. They should know they are going to a safe place.

 

[DLBDS]

Those girls haven't received any home-trainin' (as my DH would say). This is the kinda crap you have to put up with in public schools. We chose a small private school for our DD. We gave public a chance for K and we hated it. DD liked it fine but we as parents thought it was severely lacking. Anyway, if it were MY DD, I would stick it to them as much as I could. Apology or not. Teach'em a lesson they won't forget in this lifetime...or the NEXT!

 

[kmp1191]

Keep us informed....maybe by pressing charges and the girl being taken in will open the parents eyes that they have a delinquet (sp?) on their hands!! a week in juvinile hall might bring her around!

 

[FergieTCat]

There appears to be a charge called "Premediated assault with attempt to do bodily harm."

I'm with JSG, this is no longer bullying.

Be sure to keep us updated.

Hugs again!

Jenny -
So sorry to hear about this! Hope your sweet DD is OK!

This is no longer "bullying", this is "Assault and battery". I know our district classifies bullying as things like name calling, intimidation, behaviors designed to isolate a particular staudent, etc. Anything that involves an ATTACK is much more serious! Even for THREATS a student here would have to go through a "risk assessment" to determine what sort of action needs to be taken to protect the other kids.

Call an attorney to find out what sort of things you can do. Those girls need to be sent to an alternative school, sentenced to community service, etc.

 

[TammyAlphabet]

Oh boy would I be steamed!!! Press charges!!! I say get a posse together....

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

How awful, hugs to you and your DD. Please keep us updated.

 

[ChristmasElf]

Sorry to jump in here so late! I am glad to hear you are pressing charges.

 

[CEDmom]

Those girls haven't received any home-trainin' (as my DH would say). This is the kinda crap you have to put up with in public schools. We chose a small private school for our DD. We gave public a chance for K and we hated it. DD liked it fine but we as parents thought it was severely lacking. Anyway, if it were MY DD, I would stick it to them as much as I could. Apology or not. Teach'em a lesson they won't forget in this lifetime...or the NEXT!

I went to private school and I hate to break it to you but this kind of thing does happen in them as well. Bad kids and parents come in all shapes, sizes, color and socio-economic background.

Jenny - How is your DD doing? I can't imagine how much you must be hurting for her.

 

[MsDisney23]

This is so hard on you as a Mom to know what happen to your baby! I hope your DD is going to be ok, give her a hug for me! Here is some and a

I do not think 5 days is enough punishment for these two girls. I hope the school can do more. Good for you for calling the police!

 

[Briarmom]

Sorry your dd is going through this.

 

[VSL]

Big for your DD

 

[BelleMcNally]

How awful!!!

I can't believe how lenient schools can be with this stuff....imagine if someone had come into their WORKPLACE and done this--the person would be fired! Should a child's "workplace" be any less secure?

to you and your daughter.

 

[hiwaygal]

that just really stinks!!!

I hope your DD is doing better...I know your support of her means more than she can even tell you right now!

What really stinks, though, is that these girls (or is it one girl?) probably won't be phased by suspension, expulsion, or arrest. The only thing that might REALLY teach them a lesson is if they were the ones being bullied and assaulted...but that's such a sad way to learn that lesson.

 

[MerryPoppins]

Shame on them! I just can't imagine what bullies get out of doing things like this. Sorry you are all having to go through this. 8th grade can be a tough time under the best of circumstances.

 

[declansdad]

Hooray for you!!!


More people need to press charges against these bullies and then maybe both the bullies and their parents will get the message and school will be able to back to places of learning.

 

[summerrluvv]

I'm so sorry Hugs to you and your daughter. How horrible!

 

[ducklite]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I would make an appointment to speak to the principal tomorrow. Tell them that you will be coming, s/he will be there, and also in attendance will be a guidance counselor, the schol psycologist, the school police liason (if there is one), and a representative from the Superintendents office there. Do not give them a choice. Let them know that you would like to handle this nicely, but if they will not work with your daughters best interest, they will be speaking to your attorney instead. Do not let them blow you off, say people can't make it. They can rearrange their schedules to accomodate you. If you get there and some of those people aren't there, sit back in your chair and let them know you'll wait until they arrive. Then be quiet and make them squirm--which they will do. It's an old sales technique and it works every time, even in instances like this.

Put an action plan IN WRITING as to what the school will do to protect your daughter, and how they will manage this situation moving forward. Get a copy.

Follow up with the police department. Call your DA, and let them know that this was premeditated as part of an ongoing series of events. Ask them to consider filing charges against this girl as an adult.

The school has a DUTY to safeguard your daughter. They knew from previous events that there was an issue, and were negligent in their duty. In all honesty, I would strongly consider hiring an attorney.

You might also want to file a report with your state Child Protective Agency.

I would strongly consider getting an order of protection, even if it means the attacker has to change schools. Your daughter is the victim, do not let the district try to bully you inot making her change schools.

I would NOT accept a phone call of any type for any reason from the girls parents or insurance company. If they call, refer them to your lawyer.

The squeaky wheel gets the oil. Start squeaking and good luck!

Anne

 

[Susan-Storm]

My DD has been having problems with 2 girls at school. She's in the 8th grade. These girls were suspended a month ago for throwing food at her..Today they attacked her and hit her.I have to take her to the emergency room to make sure she doesn't have a concussion. I've called the police.The school advised me too. My borther is a Captian on the PD Here.I would have called him but he has pnuemonia.. This is the kind of crap that happened to me in school and I feel so bad for her..The girls have 5 days suspension and yes,I'm prepared to press charges.
Edited to add that this was premeditated.These girls brought a change of shoes so that they could beat her up in the proper shoes

that is dreadful..and i thought i had it bad

 

[Rock'n Robin]

Here's another thought...witih all of the talk about myspace.com, you may want to see if the girl (is it one or two?) who beat her up has a page, and if she has posted any negative comments about your DD--if she has, that's fuel to the fire--print it out and take it in to the school.
Hope all goes well!
Robin M.

 

[ducklite]

Here's another thought...witih all of the talk about myspace.com, you may want to see if the girl (is it one or two?) who beat her up has a page, and if she has posted any negative comments about your DD--if she has, that's fuel to the fire--print it out and take it in to the school.
Hope all goes well!
Robin M.

EXCELLENT idea!

Anne