Moving away from kids...

[Disney Doll]

With your new revelations, I say go.

Your soon to be ex wife will hopefully find a new male who will be able to show your how a man behaves and handles responsibility.

It'll be much easier for your kids to attach to him and gain a positive role model with you out of state being supported by yet another woman in your life.

Maybe you can move to Canada. I hear its a popular spot got Internet trolls.

 

[okeydokey]

And maybe I need to mention the other part of the equation...

My friend that I can live with in Dallas is a college girlfriend that I have remained friends with for 20 years... The last 2-3 years she has been a great help as I worked thru my problems, went down to visit her and there was a huge spark still there..

So the reality is that you are leaving your children for the new girlfriend. That actually makes it worse.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

Job wise, this is where I am... During the warm months I work a lot, normally 7 days a week and about 70 hours a week, cold months I scrape up whatever I can.. Until April 1, don't have much lined up.. I have an offer down there to work a few temp jobs... Which is why I asked earlier about going down for 4-5 mos.. Mom has made it clear she doesn't want me here, no friends have asked me to stay with them.. So the thought was to go work down there til April 1

now this really makes no sense. Earlier you said you could work with a financial temping agency, now your job is weather dependent. I didn't know finance guys couldn't work when it's cold.

 

[mrsklamc]

Where did I say any of that??

You said you were going to find a job through a financial staffing company, then you said you work a lot in the warm months.

 

[mnrose]

Go back and read his old threads. The college girlfriend's husband killed himself this summer. Her kids are from her first marriage. This is a Dr. Phil episode waiting to happen. Bottom line, the OP is being selfish, knows it, but came to the boards to try and get people to justify what he is doing.

Ooooh. Good catch. And, that was in July. So apparently, this "relationship" goes back a little farther than we though.

And, it just makes my opinion even more strident. This "new fling" has been married at least twice before. Her first husband is the father of the children. Her second husband committed suicide in July in front of the new kids. Oh hell yes. This is exactly the kind of woman I'd be looking to hook up with. Neither the OP nor this "new fling" is in ANY emotional shape to be exploring a new relationship. Disaster waiting to happen. Go OP. You deserve what you will get.

I still feel sorry for the kids, but now because they have such a poor excuse of a man for a biological father. No mystery to me why your wife moved on. Smart woman.

 

[delyrium]

Her kids dad committed suicide in July, and she's moving a new guy from across the country in with them in October. This is just stellar parenting all around.

 

[delyrium]

Sorry, November.

 

[Granny square]

Her kids dad committed suicide in July, and she's moving a new guy from across the country in with them in October. This is just stellar parenting all around.

She hasn't got a great track record for picking guys.

 

[RitaE]

Okay Dude.

This whole "I can't get my own apartment because I left all the money and possessions for my wife so she can support our poor innocent children blah blah blah blah blah only jobs are in Texas and the fact that I have a girlfriend there willing to support me.......etc etc etc"

Martyr pretend self-sacrificing and really I'm doing it ALL FOR THE KIDS thing?

It is just not playing well. Please try something else because I kind of feel like I'm covered in feces with all the bad smelling "stuff" you are throwing around here.

So the real question. Is that Disney vacation that I saw in your Signature still a go? This being the DIS that's what we all really want to know, still going to Disney?????

 

[htmom]

Go for it! Move. Be a "real man". And no offence, but you will be paying child support, your "spousal support" won't be anything after that's factored in. I hope your soon to be ex wife sees this and realizes you were having an affair. Lol. She can take that to her lawyer and hopefully get out of paying anything anyway.
I'm sure she is an amazing woman. She will pick herself up by her bootstraps and move on and have a great life with her kids. You are just a check in the mail to her then. Congrats on your affair working out!

Oh and by the way, my son was abandoned by his donor. He is 12 now and would be pissed if his dad ever showed up. His dad was one of those "I will promise to see my kid every week" guys. My son is amazing. Its a shame his dad could never get over himself to do the right thing.
Hey, may be you could all start a club! The "I want society to see me as a caring father but I really don't give a crap club"

 

[mnrose]

Okay Dude.

This whole "I can't get my own apartment because I left all the money and possessions for my wife so she can support our poor innocent children blah blah blah blah blah only jobs are in Texas and the fact that I have a girlfriend there willing to support me.......etc etc etc"

Martyr pretend self-sacrificing and really I'm doing it ALL FOR THE KIDS thing?

It is just not playing well. Please try something else because I kind of feel like I'm covered in feces with all the bad smelling "stuff" you are throwing around here.

So the real question. Is that Disney vacation that I saw in your Signature still a go? This being the DIS that's what we all really want to know, still going to Disney?????

He answered that a page ago. Claims the ticker was from last Christmas.

 

[Caradana]

By all means, go! I imagine it'd be a huge relief to your ex, whom it sounds like really kept the train on the rails all these years, and you're sitting in your mother's attic making no money and texting Texas Hoochie Mama. I don't think you're doing anyone any good here. Go to Texas, get laid (I think I'd be scared to know how much of your time in the attic is mentally devoted to that right now. The euphemism you used was "huge spark" and I think I know biologically where that spark is, um, sparking) and hurry up and get yourself dumped, and start putting cash in an education account for your kids so that you have at least some decent legacy for yourself.

 

[RitaE]

He answered that a page ago. Claims the ticker was from last Christmas.

Ah, thanks.

Blech. I feel depressed just reading this. Hopefully he is at least 1/2 a troll but the sad thing is I've seen so many people struggle emotionally after their parents have done this kind of thing to them as kids that I can so easily believe it.

 

[HHSTigerFan]

You said you were going to find a job through a financial staffing company, then you said you work a lot in the warm months.

Yes, here I work outside, but would like to get back into the finance/acct field... Not sure what was so hard for you to understand there..

 

[Granny square]

Yes, here I work outside, but would like to get back into the finance/acct field... Not sure what was so hard for you to understand there..

What is so hard to understand is a guy who ditches his kids to satisfy his own "spark".

 

[mnrose]

Her kids dad committed suicide in July, and she's moving a new guy from across the country in with them in October. This is just stellar parenting all around.

If its any consolation, it appears the children are not those of suicide husband, but her FIRST husband. Suicide man was number two (that we know about...).

So these kids have a father, a step father who committed suicide this summer, and now mom is moving in a new guy in October. Sure, this is all going to end well.

 

[mrsklamc]

Yes, here I work outside, but would like to get back into the finance/acct field... Not sure what was so hard for you to understand there..

Well, that was at least something I could directly question as part of my larger part of my suspicion of this thread....what really has me wondering is how any parent would really think it's ok to abandon their kids cause they think an old flame might work out in another state, but you're choosing to ignore that line of questioning.

 

[RitaE]

Oh you want to get into Finance and Accounting?

Well My Stars do I have some just awesome and fantastic news for you! Up here in Chicago (the third largest city in the nation), we have just oodles and oodles of Finance and Accounting thingies that you can do. And if your money skills need some fine tuning, we even have these things called Schools that can help you out with that.

Whew, I know I probably just lifted a big ol' load of angst off your shoulders with the news that you DON'T have to move to Texas to follow that dream.

 

[lizabu]

You're about to make the biggest mistake of your life. Divorce is hard. There's always a period of transition. When my ex and I split up the kids and I slept on the floor at my parents house for 6 months while I got us on our feet. You think the easy solution is to leave. Maybe it is but it's the decision you will regret for the rest of your life.

 

[jrmasm]

Yes, here I work outside, but would like to get back into the finance/acct field... Not sure what was so hard for you to understand there..

No finance or acccounting jobs in Chicago?