Moving away from kids...

[mom2AidanAndEli]

Okay.....waiting for the "gotcha" post. This can't be real. Can it? Really? Please post a "gotcha".

 

[HHSTigerFan]

Wait if she doesn't know he's coming how is she footing the bill for this?

She paid for the ticket for me after Christmas, her birthday is in early Dec, they are having a surprise party for her, I have enough SW point for that airfare...

This trip this weekend is with a few friends, booked it in the spring, guys football weekend... So really not to see her, but will..

 

[HHSTigerFan]

I think you missed the post about 50+ southwest flights this year also on another board. Something was *sparking* (no pun intended) a memory for me and you found it. I think we all see what is reality here, including the soon to be ex. OP wants us to think something else entirely because it is, or at least should be, all about him!

I fly a lot for my summer weekend job, but thanks for jumping to conclusions..

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I don't know; story keeps changing. First he was paying in November, then he used his wife's debit card by mistake and new honey was paying December. Now new honey doesn't know he's coming....... Really, really praying for a troll!!

I think it is a matter of not being able to keep "the story" straight. However on the boards it is all quotable with a timeline.

It seems pretty clear he was having at least an emotional affair and was kicked to the curb. Although with all the "visits" I am going to say that it does not appear like "nothing happened".

 

[HHSTigerFan]

I think it is a matter of not being able to keep "the story" straight. However on the boards it is all quotable with a timeline. It seems pretty clear he was having at least an emotional affair and was kicked to the curb. Although with all the "visits" I am going to say that it does not appear like "nothing happened".

All these visits??? I have been there once, 5 months after I moved to my moms..

 

[HHSTigerFan]

My story is quite straight, problem is others jumping from point A to point D... And then everyone else taking it as the gospel

 

[Granny square]

I fly a lot for my summer weekend job, but thanks for jumping to conclusions..

Lol, there are only so many weekends in a summer....

 

[mrsklamc]

My story is quite straight,

Yup. We got it. Your "friend" in TX is more important to you right now than your kids and you're going to abandon them for the possibility of a new life with someone with plenty of problems of her own. Pretty straightforward.

 

[HHSTigerFan]

Lol, there are only so many weekends in a summer....

4 flights a weekend, that's only 12 weekends..which is about every other weekend, which is what I do... Can you not grasp that??

 

[RitaE]

4 flights a weekend, that's only 12 weekends..which is about every other weekend, which is what I do... Can you not grasp that??

Oh, I think nearly everybody here has a pretty good understanding of what you do.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

My story is quite straight, problem is others jumping from point A to point D... And then everyone else taking it as the gospel

Regardless, the bottom line is you want to leave your kids to stay with your new girlfriend, and you used a lame excuse of a job opportunity and being miserable to try and justify it.

 

[aaarcher86]

Yup. We got it. Your "friend" in TX is more important to you right now than your kids and you're going to abandon them for the possibility of a new life with someone with plenty of problems of her own. Pretty straightforward.

Sums it up nicely.

 

[kate_wdw]

And maybe I need to mention the other part of the equation...

My friend that I can live with in Dallas is a college girlfriend that I have remained friends with for 20 years... The last 2-3 years she has been a great help as I worked thru my problems, went down to visit her and there was a huge spark still there..

You could find a woman in the Chicago metropolitan area with whom you have a spark. Your kids can't find another dad.

Ok if we aren't being catfished.... Go ahead and tell yourself your kids are going to accept that excuse someday.

I hope we are being Catfished. If we're not, OP, if your reasons sound like nonsense and excuses to us, that's exactly how they're going to sound to your kids too. The difference is that your kids are going to blame themselves for not being worth your sticking around.

 

[js]

I wish you good luck since you will definately need it, maybe not right away but you sure will with your kids in the future, although I hope I am wrong.

 

[HHSTigerFan]

Oh, I think nearly everybody here has a pretty good understanding of what you do.

Going around being a message board blowhard, talking about stuff I know nothing about??? Oh no, that's you

 

[bellebud]

4 flights a weekend, that's only 12 weekends..which is about every other weekend, which is what I do... Can you not grasp that??

this is confusing... it sounds like you're saying you fly 4 times each weekend.

So in that case, when are you actually "working" on the weekend. You can't be a flight stewart, because you wouldn't gain miles that you said you have.

what is your weekend work??

 

[marlynnp]

This thread has more scum than a stagnant pond in the middle of august....

 

[htmom]

Lol. You opened up yourself to the message board. I seriously think you should go. Your kids can get on with their life and hopefully find a new daddy. One that loves them and reminds them everyday they are wanted. Truthfully it happened to me when I was a kid. My step dad is my dad. My real dad. My sperm donor can rot. I know my twelve year old feels the same way about his donor. Its sad. I never wanted to see my son go through what I went through. But he found a real dad too. And I am so happy for him.

 

[RadioNate]

I actually wonder if guys like this do ever regret it. I mean he's set himself up as so self sacrificing. None of this is his fault (in his mind). I have to wonder if he would ever realize the damage that will be done to the kids is his fault. My guess is he will get a victim mentality and blame the ex for turning the kids against him and their problems from his leaving on her parenting skills.

ding ding ding.

My horrible ex wife poisoned my kids against me. It had nothing to do with my 2+ year emotional affair with my college girlfriend who I then relocated 1000 miles for so I could play Daddy to her kids.

Good riddance.

 

[htmom]

Radionate you hit the nail on the head. He will go around telling everyone his sob story when the kids say they don't want to see him.