Moms to be Part 4

[Mrs. Charming]

DD is still sick. Her fever fluctuates from 99-103. UGH. She didn't sleep very well last night so neither did we. She practically lost her voice, which is just so sad. I know it's just a virus but I hate seeing her sick I have plans to have dinner with a few friends tonight and I have been debating backing out. I feel guilty going when she's sick but then I know my DH is more than capable of caring for her for the few hours I am gone. One of the girls I am supposed to meet tonight just miscarried her twins at 15 weeks and I feel like I want to go to make it a fun night for her.

I hear ya... DD was sick not too long ago, it broke my heart. I'd be the mom that sat this one out, but that's me. I'd feel too guilty, lol. I feel guilty about everything, though. haha.

 

[kpm76]

I hear ya... DD was sick not too long ago, it broke my heart. I'd be the mom that sat this one out, but that's me. I'd feel too guilty, lol. I feel guilty about everything, though. haha.

It breaks my heart to see her sick. Of course, right now she's running around but she had Motrin 45 min ago so the fever is down. I feel bad going and I feel bad not going. I don't want to leave DD but I also don't want to insult DH, who is a really awesome dad and more than capable of taking care of her. Ugh, I am thinking WAY too much into this.....pregnancy hormones...haha.

 

[Pollito916]

Has anyone ever been kicked/punched in the ribs by their little one? Hard enough to make it hurt to breathe or move side to side? I'm debating whether or not that was a kick I felt at 5am that's now causing this pain or if I just moved to fast rolling over and pulled a muscle. My OB isn't in the office today so I don't want to call and try to talk to another one and I hope one of you ladies had any idea as to what this pain might be and what I should do about it....

Oww, no I never have felt that way before. I would call the office even though your OB is out. The NPs and assistants often know just as much about that kind of stuff and may be able to help you out, or at least refer you to the other OB. Let us know how you are feeling!

Oh my goodness, I am so wiped out!!

I went to that Community Baby Shower with my best friend today. There was sooo much going on!! They did 3 games and if you won you got extra tickets for the raffle. The had cake, water, tea, chips galore... it was insane.
There was like 25 vendors (hospitals, childcare places, etc.) that each gave you a ticket for the door prizes if you went around and met with them all.

That sounds like tons of fun - wish I had something like that near me.

Things have calmed down a bit with DH's work. The union meeting for Monday was cancelled for now.. phew. They actually fired a driver today, but that's been a long time coming, he's really lazy. So that's a little sigh of relief, I don't want DH to lose his job... the poor man just wants to feel appreciated and be slightly less underpaid.

I'm on the hunt for training pants that fit like panties for DD. I guess we're just not at the regular panties stage right now. Some days she's perfect, but others... are a little soggy. Haha.

That's good that your DH's work has calmed a bit. I think many people feel under-appreciated and under-paid - not a good combination, but not many alternatives in the current job market.

I have no advice on the training pants, I've never seen anything but pull-ups and easy-ups, maybe check online websites? Maybe underwear with a pull-up over it so she still feels the wetness but doesn't leak onto furniture?

DD is still sick. Her fever fluctuates from 99-103. UGH. She didn't sleep very well last night so neither did we. She practically lost her voice, which is just so sad. I know it's just a virus but I hate seeing her sick I have plans to have dinner with a few friends tonight and I have been debating backing out. I feel guilty going when she's sick but then I know my DH is more than capable of caring for her for the few hours I am gone. One of the girls I am supposed to meet tonight just miscarried her twins at 15 weeks and I feel like I want to go to make it a fun night for her.

Aww, I so know how you feel. When DS got sick last month, I was in LA for work, and DH called me telling me what happened and even sent me a heart-breaking picture of DS laying on the couch crying with a cool washcloth on his forehead. I just felt so awful and wanted to leave immediately and hop on a plane. But I was scheduled to leave in a few hours anyway, so I probably wouldn't have been able to catch an earlier flight anyway, and would have just been stuck at the airport and not able to finish the job I went out there to do.

I am also confident that DH knows what to do, and could always call me if anything changed or he wasn't sure what to do. And I called my mom and told her what happened since she only lives 6 miles away, so if I couldn't get there, she could.

I would probably go out to support your friend, and just make it an early night. It's not like you can stay out drinking all night anyway.

 

[WDWorBUST]

So can anyone give me any firsthand experiences with the nuchal scan? Last year my doctor had told me that she would send me for one due to my age right before we found out the baby had quit developing a month earlier. Well you might remember that my doctor is also closing her practice in June so I had to find a new one. Well I called yesterday to make my first appt with my new OB and they schedule the first visit for 4 weeks from when you were last seen (which was this past Wednesday by the RE). Well I asked if I needed to be seen earlier because my other doctor was going to send me for that scan and they said they just do the blood screening. Well I have read the blood screening alone has a higher indicator of false positives. Well my appt is when I'm 13w5d and the latest they will even do the scan is 13w6d which I think would be highly unlikely I could get in for. I'm not sure yet that I even want it - but I do know that I don't want the blood screening without the scan.....and honestly I would like to talk to her about it more before deciding that I do or don't want the screening. I do need to go in and get bloodwork before my appt and will ask the nurse about it then.....but I just thought this was so odd. Either way I'd love to hear any firsthand experiences having the scan done.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

It breaks my heart to see her sick. Of course, right now she's running around but she had Motrin 45 min ago so the fever is down. I feel bad going and I feel bad not going. I don't want to leave DD but I also don't want to insult DH, who is a really awesome dad and more than capable of taking care of her. Ugh, I am thinking WAY too much into this.....pregnancy hormones...haha.

I know exactly what you mean... DH is the same way. Very hands on, very capable. It's just that mom guilt thing!! lol.

Follow your heart on this one. I had one other thought... I guess I don't know how to say this.. but after I m/c'ed I didn't want to be within 3 miles of another pregnant woman. How is your friend doing? Is she ok around other pregnant women? I'm probably overthinking this too. Gosh I really hope I'm not offending you, I'd feel so badly.

 

[WDWorBUST]

I know exactly what you mean... DH is the same way. Very hands on, very capable. It's just that mom guilt thing!! lol.

Follow your heart on this one. I had one other thought... I guess I don't know how to say this.. but after I m/c'ed I didn't want to be within 3 miles of another pregnant woman. How is your friend doing? Is she ok around other pregnant women? I'm probably overthinking this too. Gosh I really hope I'm not offending you, I'd feel so badly.

I have to agree with the above....and also hope I'm not offending.

I just have to add that under the circumstances I would probably cancel to take care of a sick child. Not because DH isn't capable of caring for her, but because although I was truly happy and excited for friends etc that were pregnant, I did not want to be around them right after my miscarriage. I would have been relieved in that situation that you had something come up. (Now if you just cancelled to not hurt my feelings I would have been hurt.....I know it doesn't make sense.....but nothing did for a very long time after having had my m/c.)

 

[LaurenLC]

So can anyone give me any firsthand experiences with the nuchal scan? Last year my doctor had told me that she would send me for one due to my age right before we found out the baby had quit developing a month earlier. Well you might remember that my doctor is also closing her practice in June so I had to find a new one. Well I called yesterday to make my first appt with my new OB and they schedule the first visit for 4 weeks from when you were last seen (which was this past Wednesday by the RE). Well I asked if I needed to be seen earlier because my other doctor was going to send me for that scan and they said they just do the blood screening. Well I have read the blood screening alone has a higher indicator of false positives. Well my appt is when I'm 13w5d and the latest they will even do the scan is 13w6d which I think would be highly unlikely I could get in for. I'm not sure yet that I even want it - but I do know that I don't want the blood screening without the scan.....and honestly I would like to talk to her about it more before deciding that I do or don't want the screening. I do need to go in and get bloodwork before my appt and will ask the nurse about it then.....but I just thought this was so odd. Either way I'd love to hear any firsthand experiences having the scan done.

I didn't have a nuchal scan (I actually had to look up what it was prior to posting), but I did have a two part sequential screening, which I think is pretty similar (at least based on what google is telling me.) Prior to having the test done my husband and I met with a genetics counselor so that she could ensure that we understood exactly what the test entailed and what it would and wouldn't tell us. The counselor actually had to give the okay for us to even take the test.
When I had mine done I had blood work drawn and a very extensive ultrasound done, they wouldn't do either part of the test without the other.
At no time did my doctor or a nurse go over the test or test results with me. When the results came in we had to meet with the genetic counselor to go over the results. This particular test is done twice, and both times we met with the counselor. I would strongly encourage you to talk to your doctor about this, and if you really want details, ask if they have a genetic counselor for you to speak with.

This is not a test that I would want to go into without having all the facts because the results are so ‘un-specific’.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

So can anyone give me any firsthand experiences with the nuchal scan? Last year my doctor had told me that she would send me for one due to my age right before we found out the baby had quit developing a month earlier. Well you might remember that my doctor is also closing her practice in June so I had to find a new one. Well I called yesterday to make my first appt with my new OB and they schedule the first visit for 4 weeks from when you were last seen (which was this past Wednesday by the RE). Well I asked if I needed to be seen earlier because my other doctor was going to send me for that scan and they said they just do the blood screening. Well I have read the blood screening alone has a higher indicator of false positives. Well my appt is when I'm 13w5d and the latest they will even do the scan is 13w6d which I think would be highly unlikely I could get in for. I'm not sure yet that I even want it - but I do know that I don't want the blood screening without the scan.....and honestly I would like to talk to her about it more before deciding that I do or don't want the screening. I do need to go in and get bloodwork before my appt and will ask the nurse about it then.....but I just thought this was so odd. Either way I'd love to hear any firsthand experiences having the scan done.

I declined it because of all of the false positives. I asked to do the NT scan without the bloodwork, but they said no. Sorry I'm of no help!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Oh, and now I feel like I have a foot lodged in my cervix. Ouch!!
I can't remember who said she had that problem the other day, but OWWWW!!!

 

[kpm76]

I know exactly what you mean... DH is the same way. Very hands on, very capable. It's just that mom guilt thing!! lol.

Follow your heart on this one. I had one other thought... I guess I don't know how to say this.. but after I m/c'ed I didn't want to be within 3 miles of another pregnant woman. How is your friend doing? Is she ok around other pregnant women? I'm probably overthinking this too. Gosh I really hope I'm not offending you, I'd feel so badly.

I ended up going to dinner and got home about 45 min ago so it was certainly an early night No offense taken at all and I actually thought of the very same thing earlier in the week when we found out about my friend's m/c. I emailed another friend and asked if she thought I should back out based on the circumstances and she said no. I decided to check directly with my friend though because really she was the only one who could make the decision. We all have a very close relationship, she knows I m/c and I told her that it was hard for me to have to face my sister who was only 10 days ahead of me in her pregnancy so I completely understood if she preferred that I sit this one out. She was adamant that I come and I think it was good for all of us. We spent a good deal of time sharing stories about our toddlers and laughing about other things.

DD is doing better. Fever is down and she's sleeping....let's hope she sleeps the night

ETA: My friend was carrying mono mono twins so the pregnancy was extremely high risk and the likelihood of them both surviving free of any health problems was slim. She actually had just met with a high risk OB who gave her some grim stats. Though she and her DH are very sad about the loss, they do realize that these little ones may have had a long road ahead of them so she is at peace with the situation.

 

[EmALee]

Oww, no I never have felt that way before. I would call the office even though your OB is out. The NPs and assistants often know just as much about that kind of stuff and may be able to help you out, or at least refer you to the other OB. Let us know how you are feeling!

I'm feeling better now. Still sore but it's nothing compared to what it was. Must have been a pulled muscle although I'm not sure how I pulled it

I hope everyone has a good weekend!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Ahhhhh my hips and lower back are killing me tonight, I feel like I'm coming apart at the joints. Ouch. Even my belly is bugging me, I might get one of those support belts or something, because this is for the birds!

Just venting

 

[EmALee]

Ahhhhh my hips and lower back are killing me tonight, I feel like I'm coming apart at the joints. Ouch. Even my belly is bugging me, I might get one of those support belts or something, because this is for the birds!

Just venting

I'm sorry your joints are bugging you! Hope it gets better soon

 

[dizluvah]

Ahhhhh my hips and lower back are killing me tonight, I feel like I'm coming apart at the joints. Ouch. Even my belly is bugging me, I might get one of those support belts or something, because this is for the birds!

Just venting

Mrs. C - I am so sorry you are having pains. I wake up sometimes with my hips aching - I didn't realize that was regular part of pregnancy - while I am sorry you are pain I'm glad my aches and pain are "normal".

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I'm sorry your joints are bugging you! Hope it gets better soon

Thanks

Mrs. C - I am so sorry you are having pains. I wake up sometimes with my hips aching - I didn't realize that was regular part of pregnancy - while I am sorry you are pain I'm glad my aches and pain are "normal".

Haha yes, unfortunately I think this is normal. I think it's the progesterone loosening our joints. Fun!

How's everyone doing this morning? We're up early, I had to go potty and couldn't fall back asleep, and DD had a leaky PullUp, so it's been a fun morning.

 

[WDWAurora]

I was having a TON of hip pain earlier on in this pregnancy! Definitely normal (because I google everything). Mine has mostly gone away, but is back now at nearly 38 weeks. It did go away after I had been up a little while, but now they hurt pretty much constantly. Not unbearable, just a nagging pain.

I'm heading in to the doctor in a few minutes for an ultrasound to check out this guy's size! I'm hoping they'll say he's big enough and let me schedule the c-section for Friday!! I want to meet him so badly!!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I was having a TON of hip pain earlier on in this pregnancy! Definitely normal (because I google everything). Mine has mostly gone away, but is back now at nearly 38 weeks. It did go away after I had been up a little while, but now they hurt pretty much constantly. Not unbearable, just a nagging pain.

I'm heading in to the doctor in a few minutes for an ultrasound to check out this guy's size! I'm hoping they'll say he's big enough and let me schedule the c-section for Friday!! I want to meet him so badly!!

OMG!! Cool!! Let us know how it goes!!

 

[irisbud]

Mrs. C: Hope you are feeling better! I have the hip pain too, and the kicking in the cervix. Not very plesent, but oh well...

WDWAurora: Good luck at your appt!

This is petty, but DH made me really irritated this morning. His mom has one of those cricut things and wants to cut out vinal wall hangings (I guess) of Mickey Mouse for us. No offense at all to anyone who has them, but I do not like those things (just personal preference) and the samples she e-mailed me were blah...they did nothing for me.

I am not exactly sure how I want to do baby's room yet, but I don't think they will fit in. I told him to tell her there was nothing exactly right, but thanks anyway...blah, blah, blah...plus the cartridge is $$$ and I don't think she has it, so I hate for her to spend on it when I don't like the stuff anyway. I told DH if she does have it and really wants to make it just let her and we can decide if we want to put it up or not (she doesn't live anywhere near us and we could always slap them up when she was coming over).

DH was sort of pissy about the whole thing...he said they were okay but he wasn't thrilled by them either, so I'm not sure why the attitude. He said if they were made they would have to go up and stay up otherwise it would be rude (there is no way she would EVER know, trust me!) He seems to think this will be a big deal. They really don't go with what we want at this point...I guess it just irritates me because this is OUR baby, not everyone else's... I appreciate anything anyone gives us, but I don't think we should have to use things we don't want just because...

Ok...hormone induced rant over. IDK why it made me angry, but I still am a little, I',m ashamed to admit.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Mrs. C: Hope you are feeling better! I have the hip pain too, and the kicking in the cervix. Not very plesent, but oh well...

WDWAurora: Good luck at your appt!

This is petty, but DH made me really irritated this morning. His mom has one of those cricut things and wants to cut out vinal wall hangings (I guess) of Mickey Mouse for us. No offense at all to anyone who has them, but I do not like those things (just personal preference) and the samples she e-mailed me were blah...they did nothing for me.

I am not exactly sure how I want to do baby's room yet, but I don't think they will fit in. I told him to tell her there was nothing exactly right, but thanks anyway...blah, blah, blah...plus the cartridge is $$$ and I don't think she has it, so I hate for her to spend on it when I don't like the stuff anyway. I told DH if she does have it and really wants to make it just let her and we can decide if we want to put it up or not (she doesn't live anywhere near us and we could always slap them up when she was coming over).

DH was sort of pissy about the whole thing...he said they were okay but he wasn't thrilled by them either, so I'm not sure why the attitude. He said if they were made they would have to go up and stay up otherwise it would be rude (there is no way she would EVER know, trust me!) He seems to think this will be a big deal. They really don't go with what we want at this point...I guess it just irritates me because this is OUR baby, not everyone else's... I appreciate anything anyone gives us, but I don't think we should have to use things we don't want just because...

Ok...hormone induced rant over. IDK why it made me angry, but I still am a little, I',m ashamed to admit.

I know what you mean. Sometimes you want what you want, and that's that. DH, like most guys, probably doesn't get what all the hubub is all about anyway. Oh, and sometimes, I'ev had to use things or make DD wear things that were absolutely horrid. Oh well.

 

[Pollito916]

I ended up going to dinner and got home about 45 min ago so it was certainly an early night
We spent a good deal of time sharing stories about our toddlers and laughing about other things.

DD is doing better. Fever is down and she's sleeping....let's hope she sleeps the night

Glad to hear your DD is feeling better! I hope she continued to improve over the weekend. And that you had a good time when you went out the other night, even if it was an early night. We just can't party all night like we used to, can we?

I'm feeling better now. Still sore but it's nothing compared to what it was. Must have been a pulled muscle although I'm not sure how I pulled it

I'm glad you are feeling better and the pain went away on it's own. Who knows how anything gets injured when you are pregnant?

Ahhhhh my hips and lower back are killing me tonight, I feel like I'm coming apart at the joints. Ouch. Even my belly is bugging me, I might get one of those support belts or something, because this is for the birds!

Just venting

sorry you're feeling crappy, so much to look forward to isn't there!

How's everyone doing this morning? We're up early, I had to go potty and couldn't fall back asleep, and DD had a leaky PullUp, so it's been a fun morning.

Ugh, I hate mornings like that, especially when it happens on the weekend when I should be able to sleep in a little! One day last week, DS had crawled into our bed early in the morning, then leaked through his pull-up so we had to strip our bed. Then he leaked through another pull-up during nap time, so I had to wash his sheets too! And I had just washed them all 3 days before!

I'm heading in to the doctor in a few minutes for an ultrasound to check out this guy's size! I'm hoping they'll say he's big enough and let me schedule the c-section for Friday!! I want to meet him so badly!!

Yay! Wishing you a big healthy baby and a date for your c-section!

This is petty, but DH made me really irritated this morning. His mom has one of those cricut things and wants to cut out vinal wall hangings (I guess) of Mickey Mouse for us. No offense at all to anyone who has them, but I do not like those things (just personal preference) and the samples she e-mailed me were blah...they did nothing for me.

Ok...hormone induced rant over. IDK why it made me angry, but I still am a little, I',m ashamed to admit.

I think we've all done something similar. Sometimes you just have a picture in your mind of how you want something to look, and even if you're not sure of exactly how it is going to come about, you still know what you DON'T want or like. Most men generally don't care much about decorating the house, especially a nursery, while many women dream about it. So it's understandable that you would get upset about decorating the room a way that neither of you particularly likes, just to please someone else. We can't always please everyone in our lives, and you have the right to decorate your house however you want. It was nice of MIL to offer, but I would politely decline and tell her you have a different theme for your nursery.