Michelle Duggar miscarries

[Coconut36]

Even though I don't agree it what they do, this is a tragic thing for anyone to go through. I really feel for her.

Maybe her bodyjust isn't up to it anymore.(And I am in NO WAY blamming her for a miscarriage)

I agree. What a tragic thing to happen and my heart goes out to them.

It is by no means Michelle's fault but I do have to wonder after her health issues with Josie and this 2nd trimester loss if her body is trying to tell them something and I wonder if they will listen or not.

 

[MEG&MINNIE]

How far along was she in this pregnancy...if under 20 weeks then it is a miscarriage . If over 20 weeks gestation it's a stillbirth and treated as a fetal death.
I think she has just pushed her body too far at this point.I feel she should take the time and enjoy the 19 children she already has.I think it's irresponsible of her to put her life and that of another infant's life in jeopardy.

 

[Conservative Hippie]

How far along was she in this pregnancy...if under 20 weeks then it is a miscarriage . If over 20 weeks gestation it's a stillbirth and treated as a fetal death.
I think she has just pushed her body too far at this point.I feel she should take the time and enjoy the 19 children she already has.I think it's irresponsible of her to put her life and that of another infant's life in jeopardy.

One article said she went in for her 20 week ultrasound and found no heartbeat. Another article said they plan to have a funeral service.

Honestly fear of miscarriage is what keeps me from wanting a third baby. I feel like I've already defied the odds by having two perfectly healthy pregnancies and babies. Nearly all my friends have had at least one miscarriage.

I too believe that they actively try to get pregnant, not just not try to not get pregnant (wow, does that make sense?). I have one friend who is Quiverfull, and she has three boys - the oldest just turned 3. Getting pregnant over and over that close together is NOT healthy. Any doctor will tell you you need at least a year between pregnancies, preferably two years. Pregnancy is hard on your body, and she's very blessed to have been able to have so many children, but I can imagine she has health problems she doesn't parade in front of the camera.

 

[EmmaBrault]

This most likely was due to her being 45 rather than how many children she's birthed. Chromosonal abnormalities are related to egg quality,which declines with age.

 

[minkydog]

My heart goes out to anyone who sufferes a miscarriage. It happens to about 1 in 5 births, so it's pretty remarkable that she has carried 19 kids and only lost 2. At her age, the risk of miscarriage and serious pregnancy complications soars astronomically. I agree with the other poster--if she plans to continue getting pregnant until she undergoes menopause she may be in for a rough few years. I'm 55 and my cycles are still going strong. But that doesn't mean I'd want to have a baby~! in fact, that would be a disaster on the scale of nuclear warfare.

I wish them the best. I don't believe quite the way they do--we didn't use BC either and just accepted that God would give us the kids he chooses. We were fortunate to have 3 live births & only 1 miscarriage, but my last one was born when I was 40. And he is severely handicapped. After he was born we took that as a Cosmic Calling Card and decided we were done. It was very upsetting to make that decision at the time, but 16 years later i can really see the wisdom of stopping the Baby Train. God be with them all.

 

[Cat0727]

So sad

I wonder if this negates their belief that birth control causes miscarriages?

 

[ead79]

I don't agree with the Duggar's viewpoint on the use of birth control, but all I feel for them right now is heartbroken. I am in my third trimester, and I can't imagine having lost the baby at 20 weeks.

To be honest, sometimes miscarriages just happen. I don't think it's important to try to ascertain why this one occurred. Maybe it had something to do with her age or with the number of children she's had, and maybe it didn't. But either way, it's a tragedy for anyone to lose a child that they already loved and longed for. May the Lord give them comfort and a peace that passes all understanding.

 

[Tinijocaro]

This most likely was due to her being 45 rather than how many children she's birthed. Chromosonal abnormalities are related to egg quality,which declines with age.

I absolutely agree with this. Having a miscarriage or premature birth in no way means a woman should stop having kids by themselves. I do believe her age is the biggest factor.

 

[RachaelA]

I've never read any article where her doctor said she should stop having children. Was it ever mentioned on the show (I stopped watching it before Josie was born)?

Sorry, I find her behavior (in getting pregnant to begin with) to be reckless. She's ignored direct medical advice to stop having children, and indirect physical advice (the very premature delivery of her last baby) that her body is just not up to the task any more. So, while she may not have directly caused the miscarriage, she certainly deserves some blame in my book for created a dangerous and unsustainable situation to begin with.

This entire comment is just terrible. No one should have to go through a miscarriage or be blamed for it.

I think they actively TRY to get pregnant.

There are people who don't believe in "medical" birth control, but are pretty successful with "natural" birth control methods.

Yeah she is definitely actively trying as in charting and knowing exactly when its her fertile time, etc.

 

[marcemc]

My heart goes out to them on the miscarriage. However, I saw a show recently where a team of doctors talked about various medical issues. One of the doctors was asked about the Duggars. The doctor, who was an obstetrician, said that Michele Duggar came very close to dying during her last pregnancy and that getting pregnant again was extremely risky to both her and the baby.

I understand that they don't believe in birth control, but there comes a time when one needs to make a decision. Should she continue to risk her life having additional children, or stop before her current children lose their mother. Tough call.

Very well said, it's sad that she had the miscarriage but it's time for them to maybe consider natural birth control.

 

[Ember]

I have mixed feelings. On one hand, my heart goes out to them. Regardless of the circumstances or any other issues, losing a child is a heartbreaking thing.

On the other hand (and this will likely get me flamed), the woman is deliberately putting herself at risk. If she dies due to complications as a result of her many pregnancy there will be 19 children left without a mother. Michelle's compulsive need to procreate is, at this point, incredibly selfish. She and her husband know the medical risks, yet they keep wanting more kids. They are perfectly willing to depend on medical science and doctor's when it matches their agenda. Without medical science Josie would have died, but that wasn't against God's plan. However, they ignore that same medical science when it says something they don't want to hear, because that is against God's plan.

 

[tinkerdorabelle]

The whole thing is so sad. Sad to lose the baby, sad to be having another baby putting her life and the baby at risk again. My initial response to this whole thing besides sadness was anger. Anger particularly at her husband. Show some kind of care and love for your wife and realize she needs a break from all these children for her sake, and for the sake of her children who need their mother. You can't expect the older girls to do all the work. She seems like a very beautiful kind woman, who I hope is smart enough or takes this as a sign to end the pregnancies. I hope her husband loves her enough to do the same.

 

[robinb]

I seem to remember that Michelle miscarried in her second pregnancy while on the pill and she thought that it was god telling her not to use contraception and to leave “up to God” the number of children they would have. I hope that maybe she feels that god is talking to her again and that it's time to start using contraception again ... but I doubt it.

 

[jodifla]

I can't believe the misplaced sympathy for these people! The two adults are incredibly selfish -- she has 19 children that depend on her. She's been told not to have more children by doctors. She blatantly disregards that advice. She should put her CHILDREN FIRST, which would mean no more pregnancies.

 

[MrsDuck]

Wow, a miscarriage is a death. I'm sorry she's had that. But she can look at her beautiful 19 kids and say they're healthy, especially Josie. Her body is probably done birthing kids.

Agreed.

 

[EmmaBrault]

There is no evidence she is at any more of an increased risk than any other pregnant woman her age. Why is she getting more criticism than the many Hollywood celebs who give birth into their 50s?

Also, going on the pill at her age would put her at an increased risk of a heart attack or blood clot.

 

[kidshop]

There is no evidence she is at any more of an increased risk than any other pregnant woman her age. Why is she getting more criticism than the many Hollywood celebs who give birth into her 50s?

Also, going on the pill at her age would put her at an increased risk of a heart attack or blood clot.

When you announce your pregnancies on the Today show, you get more criticism than someone who doesn't. The number of pregnancies you have does increase your risk of complications, as does age. check and check.

did this just happen today, what did they call from the office?

How many weeks was Josie when she was born?

 

[Goofyluver]

There is no evidence she is at any more of an increased risk than any other pregnant woman her age. Why is she getting more criticism than the many Hollywood celebs who give birth into their 50s?

Also, going on the pill at her age would put her at an increased risk of a heart attack or blood clot.

Maybe she'll go on another TV show and talk about it.

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

I have mixed feelings. On one hand, my heart goes out to them. Regardless of the circumstances or any other issues, losing a child is a heartbreaking thing.

On the other hand (and this will likely get me flamed), the woman is deliberately putting herself at risk. If she dies due to complications as a result of her many pregnancy there will be 19 children left without a mother. Michelle's compulsive need to procreate is, at this point, incredibly selfish. She and her husband know the medical risks, yet they keep wanting more kids. They are perfectly willing to depend on medical science and doctor's when it matches their agenda. Without medical science Josie would have died, but that wasn't against God's plan. However, they ignore that same medical science when it says something they don't want to hear, because that is against God's plan.

You won't get flames from me, I completely agree with your opinion. I will also say that I'm sure the family is greatly saddened by this loss and my heart goes out to them. No one should have to feel the pain of losing a child.

EmmaBrault, I just saw your post. Which "many" Hollywood women are giving birth in their 50s? I'm not being snarky, I'm genuinely curious.

 

[kimmar067]

Also, going on the pill at her age would put her at an increased risk of a heart attack or blood clot.

...how about abstinence, or a condom?