Message to MY Daughter in Law: UPDATE!!

[Bluestars]

That, AND I know how to boil water AND bake brownies! (She has asked me those things as well! )

She asked you if you knew how to boil water? Wow.

 

[wdwfan16]

That, AND I know how to boil water AND bake brownies! (She has asked me those things as well! )

WOW!!! You are at a 35 year old's cooking skill!

 

[AKL_Megs]

WOW!!! You are at a 35 year old's cooking skill!

I know, I am pretty darn gifted.

Shall I tell my MIL that my DH prefers MY cakes and brownies to her homemade (chalky) jobs? She just LOVES to rave about them!

 

[Bluestars]

I know, I am pretty darn gifted.

Shall I tell my MIL that my DH prefers MY cakes and brownies to her homemade (chalky) jobs? She just LOVES to rave about them!

At the very least you should ask her if she knows how to bake a cake.

(kidding, of course)

 

[jemgumby]

Men aren't stupid and i think we do them a disservice when we assume they are, think they are or make an excuse for them.

If a man is not contacting his mother enough, it is not because he has his head up his butt or anything else...it is because he is choosing not to contact his mother. He ought to have the decency to tell her why.

I'm with you Disney Doll! Sorry OP but you do seem very bitter in your attitude towards your daughter-in-law. Maybe you need to have a talk with your son and quit assuming things....You know what they say about assume.....

 

[quentina]

Ditto!

Yeah....same here!

 

[DisneyLover83]

My inlaws actually had one of those giant painting made from a photograph. It is a 'portrait' from our wedding. Guess who ISN'T in the photo! It is DH, SIL, FIL and MIL. Their little foursome.

LOL, she must be related to my MIL! They have what I call their shrine to my Dh, an entire wall of photo's of him (he is an only child). I am not in 1 photo! We have been married 4 years and I am cropped out of every one!

 

[AKL_Megs]

LOL, she must be related to my MIL! They have what I call their shrine to my Dh, an entire wall of photo's of him (he is an only child). I am not in 1 photo! We have been married 4 years and I am cropped out of every one!

My MIL is the same way. I can't wait to see what she does to our wedding photos...

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I will defend the family photo without the DILS though.
I can understand parents wanting a photo with themselves and their frown children or of just their grown children together. It would not bother me. I am not their DD and as a parent I understand why they would want that. I don't find that insulting.

 

[portocall]

I won no MIL lottery. I tried, I really did. I will leave it at that.

 

[quentina]

LOL, she must be related to my MIL! They have what I call their shrine to my Dh, an entire wall of photo's of him (he is an only child). I am not in 1 photo! We have been married 4 years and I am cropped out of every one!

I have the same situation......no photo's of me anywhere.

When we took our wedding proofs to her house for them to pick out there album (1994)....she said.....I hate how my hair is done, the NEXT TIME you do this, I am going to a different hair dresser. Today...I roll on the floor thinking about it...at the time...not so happy!

My MIL is a jerk however; she is my hubby's jerk. I do not get involved anymore. In the past, she has caused major issues between us. One day, we talked and he told me to put her in her place whenever I needed to. That solved everything, I no longer take her BS...and he approves!

On Thursday we leave for WDW, going down for the Budweiser shootout. She is going along....may God look down on me!

 

[Disneycrazy!!]

I have the same situation......no photo's of me anywhere.

When we took our wedding proofs to her house for them to pick out there album (1994)....she said.....I hate how my hair is done, the NEXT TIME you do this, I am going to a different hair dresser. Today...I roll on the floor thinking about it...at the time...not so happy!

My MIL is a jerk however; she is my hubby's jerk. I do not get involved anymore. In the past, she has caused major issues between us. One day, we talked and he told me to put her in her place whenever I needed to. That solved everything, I no longer take her BS...and he approves!

On Thursday we leave for WDW, going down for the Budweiser shootout. She is going along....may God look down on me!

Good luck on that one! Try not to let her ruin your Disney trip!! Just keep the budweisers coming to you and her and maybe everyone will stay happy!!

 

[cheermom1]

I didn't read all the replies but I just wanted to say I have a wonderful MIL and we get along really great!!!

I can even call her when dh and I and fighting and she helps us through it ok so just me!! I'm glad she doesn't take sides..how many MIL do that???

although sometimes she makes things a little more stressful on dh than it was to be when it comes to his dad and ex step dad who is still in his life and she feels he has no business there..long story..

op I'm sorry you are going though that hugs to you I don't really know what to say ..

 

[luvsJack]

Is the oil rig out to sea where he is not home for weeks or months at a time? If so, then maybe she wants more time with her DH and she feels that is easier at her family than at his family.

He is gone for two weeks then home for two weeks. They live in one state, her family lives in another and we live in another (but closer to each other than they are to either of us). They last came for a visit a couple of months before Christmas and before that it was about 6 or 7 months.

They usually come to visit right before his last weekend home and then leave a day or two before he goes out. That way they have some time alone when he gets home and before he leaves.

But you could be right. They may have more privacy at her family's home. At my mom's they would have to sleep on a pull out couch and here they would be sleeping in his brother's old room, which is full of computers and video games and such. I haven't actually cleaned it out because the last time I did that, thinking he was moved out for good; he moved back home!!

Now that younger ds is planning on getting married and possibly moving to Florida; I think I will start transforming his room into more of a guest room. Somewhere either couple can stay when they come to visit.

Good idea, thanks.

 

[luvsJack]

His second wife, wonderful for him but acts like a spoiled brat about everything! Always has to have her way and if she doesn't get it she makes things impossible for everyone else.



The above line I don't get..How is him being married to a spoiled brat wonderful for him in any way?

Ok , that does sound odd.

Ds likes to "take care" of her. He sees to it that she always has what she wants. He says it makes him happy to make her happy. She really does love him and she likes cooking for him and doing things for him and she likes to do things that she knows will make him happy too.

She doesn't expect the rest of us to give her things. But she will try to manipulate situations to get her way. When her manipulations don't work on us (they do work on her family) she does little things that are a bit vindictive. She is a lot younger than he is and maybe some of it is being immature and she will grow out of it. She just has always gotten her way with her family.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I have the same situation......no photo's of me anywhere.

When we took our wedding proofs to her house for them to pick out there album (1994)....she said.....I hate how my hair is done, the NEXT TIME you do this, I am going to a different hair dresser. Today...I roll on the floor thinking about it...at the time...not so happy!

My MIL is a jerk however; she is my hubby's jerk. I do not get involved anymore. In the past, she has caused major issues between us. One day, we talked and he told me to put her in her place whenever I needed to. That solved everything, I no longer take her BS...and he approves!
On Thursday we leave for WDW, going down for the Budweiser shootout. She is going along....may God look down on me!

I still remember the first time I spoke up to my MIL. She used to love to stop by without calling. This wouldn't be a huge problem, except she was SUPER critical about my home. One day she came over and, like usual, started looking around the house with that expression on her face. She asked what we'd been doing all morning and did she catch us eating (there were dishes still on the table), she didn't mind if I (not dh, of course) wanted to go clean up while she was there. DH said that if she'd called first, we could have had the house ready for a visitor and she said something like, "I'm sure you don't make DW's parents call first!" I'd had enough and said, "They're not critical of our home, like you are." Boy, after I got that out, I started shaking! I felt like I was going to pass out!

 

[DVCJones]

My MIL kicked my DH out of HER house when he was 18 for something really stupid. (It has always been her way or the highway) Anyway, she never helped him with college and made it really difficult for him to continue his studies as a young adult. He found it impossible to pay for a place to live and tuition, etc. (She helped 2 of her other 3 children though)

When I met him he was 24 and had nothing but a dream. I helped pay for his school, pay for training, put a roof over his head. He is now living his dream.

Guess who is now "so proud of HER son?" She wouldn't give him the time of day and always put her own needs first. Today, she still puts her own needs first and calls my DH for every little thing. She apparently is helpless now and needs his help for EVERYTHING. She always makes a point in calling for "help" during the weekend when it is our family time. It is so obvious to him that it is now a joke in our house. I think she should call one of her "other" more deserving children for help. Funny thing is they never help her, my DH does.

 

[Syrreal]

I totally LOVE my MIL. She is an awesome person and super sweet. They are getting ready to move to NC from FL and we can't wait for them to be only 5 hours away instead of 18.
I love when she comes to visit too because we can just chat for hours and have a great time together.

 

[Jennasis]

I have the same situation......no photo's of me anywhere.

When we took our wedding proofs to her house for them to pick out there album (1994)....she said.....I hate how my hair is done, the NEXT TIME you do this, I am going to a different hair dresser. Today...I roll on the floor thinking about it...at the time...not so happy!

My MIL is a jerk however; she is my hubby's jerk. I do not get involved anymore. In the past, she has caused major issues between us. One day, we talked and he told me to put her in her place whenever I needed to. That solved everything, I no longer take her BS...and he approves!

On Thursday we leave for WDW, going down for the Budweiser shootout. She is going along....may God look down on me!

My ex MIL was no angel either. One of my favorite memories was bringing the wedding proofs over to her house to choose her pics, and she is pouring over them and announced "You kept making such an UGLY face walking down the aisle."

All I could think was, that's because I was marrying your jerkwad of a son (whom I left a few weeks ;later).

 

[mousey]

I should of known something was up with the MIL when we got married and she was still corresponding alot with the old girlfriend (from several years past). She constantly brought up "remember when" stories about the old girlfriend and frankley, just hurt my feelings.

Move the clock a head 26 yrs.---same problems only old girlfriend got married and stopped sending her correspondance. This woman has done enough damage to me to last another 26 yrs. As past posters wrote, my husband and his 3 brothers avoid her like the plague! One thing, she treats all the DIL's the same, Lousy!