Looks like another miscarriage

[mamaof2]

That is a bad situation to be in. I am sorry. Let her get her frustration out. It's sad but true. Stay strong for her, for your family. Keep you in my prayers.

 

[kdibattista]

To make things worse, I can't go home right now. My wife has been out of work this whole week. I don't have any paid days left at work until July. If I leave, I can't pay the rent next week.

My MIL, who lives upstairs, can't get into our house because my wife locked the door. However, she can hear my wife downstairs, in what was going to be the baby's nursery, destroying all the furniture we had bought for the baby.

Don't want to sound harsh but screw the rent (I'm sure your landlord would understand under the circumstances)... go home to your wife... she needs you.

I'm truly sorry for your loss

 

[rascalmom]

Your wife could hurt herself in the process of destroying the furniture. If your MIL can't get in, I would at least leave work long enough to get a key to her & to check on your wife. I've been there - she needs you right now.
Surely your boss will be a bit understanding.

Prayers being said.

 

[JVL1018]

What really angers me is the fact that her pervious doctor, the one we saw during the last miscarriage, told us we would be fine if we waited until the end of her NEXT menstral period to try and conceive again. Her NEW doctor, says it was too soon to try and conceive. So, my wife has to go through this horrible ordeal all over again because we were given fasle information by a doctor.

I am so sorry you and your wife have this pain in your life.
My doctor told me I just had to get my period once after my miscarriage..and she said even then it wasn't really *necessary*, just made it easier for dating the pregnancy.
I had my baby a year to the day of my miscarriage and I think I had only gotten 2 periods after he m/c.

My doctor told me they don't test for problems until after a 3rd miscarriage, but if I had had 2 in a row I would have wanted answers..it could be something so simple and easy to fix..you are both in my prayers that you get answers..and a baby in your arms soon!

 

[tink2020]

I'm so sorry. Your wife AND you will be in my prayers

 

[tinknme]

I am so sorry for what you are both going through I know it is hard & no words right now can make it right. I had 5 miscarriages before I had my 1st ds & it was very heartbreaking to me. You will both be in my thoughts

 

[boomhauer]

I left work and went home to check on her. Luckily, my MIL was wrong and she wasn't destroying any furniture. She ripped apart a book on pregnancy and broke a couple of bowls, but that was it.

In any event, she basically told me to go back to work as she wanted to be by herself. Everybody says, all you can do is just be there for her. It's really tough when she's telling me to get away. The doctor is gonna call me back and see if he can get her in for the D&C procedure tomorrow. The sooner the better.

He says he knew on Tuesday, but didn't want to devestate her right on the spot. Wanted to let her ease into it. Unfortunately, all I think he did was fill her with a sense of false hope.

 

[disneygals]

 

[tiff211]

When I had a mc, I wanted to be alone also and sent DH to work. Once I knew for sure I prayed for the baby to expel naturally so I did not have to go through the d/c, It was an easier closure for me. I did mc the next day and got pregnant 2 months later with DD5. It is rough I know but you will get through it!

 

[KelNottAt]

hugs and prayers to both of you

 

[lovetheparks]

I'm so sorry you and she are going through this. You last post brought me back vividly to where I was after my ectopic. I sat in the nursey to be and just cried for hours.

I know everyone says be there for her and you should...on her terms. The biggest thing my DH has done for me over the years is let me know that while he is disappointed as well, he loves me - child or no child - and believes what's meant to be will be.

We've been married 11 years (together 14) and still no children just the losses we've experienced but we are stonger due to those losses if that made any sense.

 

[Nancyg56]

I am so so sorry. I have no words today to express how I feel, but I can say a prayer for you and your wife.

 

[lynetteSC]

many hugs and prayers for you and your wife...

 

[pooh4evr]

Don't know if this will help- my cousin had 5 mc in 2 years- however- Ava was born in November 05 perfectly fine - so it is possible don't give up hope!

 

[Blondy876]

I've been there. Just love her and give her time.

 

[Desnik]

I am so sorry you and your wife are going through this. It also brings me back to when I miscarried and stood in the nursery crying my eyes out. I miscarried naturally and didn't need the D&C, so I can only imagine how emotionally painful that in itself has to be. Just give her space. I went through moments where I just wanted to be alone. I had my DD 4 years before the miscarriage so I was so confused as to why it happened and shocked. I was told usually after 2-3 they will start doing testing to find out what's going on. Apparently it's very common. I got pregnant 6 months after the miscarriage, I wanted to wait till I was ready. DS is now 3yo.
My best friend has a 3yo and recently had 2 back to back miscarriages. She was just tested and found out her blood doesn't clot, she has a bunch of cysts on her overies and pallops! She was told naturally, they only had a 15% chance of a healthy pregnancy! At least now she has answers and knows what to do. Don't loose hope.

 

[Patty3]

I am so sorry.

 

[diznygirl]

I'm so sorry for what you and your wife are going through.

 

[poohandwendy]

What really angers me is the fact that her pervious doctor, the one we saw during the last miscarriage, told us we would be fine if we waited until the end of her NEXT menstral period to try and conceive again. Her NEW doctor, says it was too soon to try and conceive. So, my wife has to go through this horrible ordeal all over again because we were given fasle information by a doctor.

It actually isn't 'false' information that your wife received...just 2 different schools of thought.

Many, many women go on to get pregnant right after a miscarriage and the result is a healthy pregnancy. Some women do not, it can be due to many different issues.

On one hand, a womans body might be in the best postion right after her first 'normal period' because she has had a complete shedding of the uterine lining with the miscarriage (espcially women with endometrial problems, from what I understand). For some women, it is the optimal time for a chance at a healthy pregnancy. Others, for whatever reason, are not in the best position to get pregnant within the first months after a miscarriage. And they will miscarry if they do.

The thing is, no one can make a guess to know which category your wife will be in.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[boomhauer]

Well, my wife had the D&C procedure on Friday. As before, she was much better when it was over. I think the relief that it's over is so great, it alone makes her feel that much better.

She's doing very well this weekend. She's in pretty good spirits, and she actually seems anxious about trying again. I'm insisting that we see her doctor first just to make sure everything is OK.

Her doctor, I must admit, was pretty great at the hospital. He said, next time, he will watch her every step of the way. I forget what they are called, but he said there is some sort of medication that can help a specific area in which there may have been a problem this time. God willing, everything will work.