Looks like another miscarriage

[Kristi1357]

 

[tevagirl]

I am so sorry.

 

[boomhauer]

I have to call the doctor this morning to see how my wife's blood test came out. She doesn't want to call them herself. What's worse is, I'll have to tell her the results when I get home.

It's very odd. The first time this happened, I was devestated and felt horrible not just for my wife, but for me as well. It would have been my first baby. This time, as obviously distraught as I am at the probability of another miscarriage, I'm almost numb to my feelings as I'm so worried about my wife. That D&C procedure, though not a big deal in the physical sense, was still very traumatic for emotionally, and seeing her crying and that upset, leaves me feeling sick to my stomach.

The timing on this could never be good, but it almost feels like God is playing a cruel trick on us. The first time, was the week before Christmas. This time, is the week before my wife's 5 year old son goes on vacation for a week with his father. That week is a nightmare for her as it is.

Last night, she looked at me and said "Everything is going to be alright." This was after watching her cry all day long. I wanted to tell her that realistically, it's probably not going to be alright, to try and prepare her somewhat. I feel as though she may have a sense of false hope, which would just make it that much worse. How could I do that though?

Sorry for my rambling. Just feels a little better to get off my chest some of my feelings from the past 24 hours.

Thanks for all the support. It's a nice feeling to know there's someplace to go to get things off your chest and have so many nice people with supporting things to say.

 

[L107ANGEL]

I just found this thread. I am so sorry!

 

[Freyja]

I´m so sorry. Keeping you and your wife in my thoughts and hoping for a miracle.

 

[poohandwendy]

Last night, she looked at me and said "Everything is going to be alright." This was after watching her cry all day long. I wanted to tell her that realistically, it's probably not going to be alright, to try and prepare her somewhat. I feel as though she may have a sense of false hope, which would just make it that much worse. How could I do that though?

Well, it's always a good idea to tell someone that 'everything is going to be alright', because it WILL...no matter what, you get through. You have each other, you have your son. So, you are not giving her a false sense of hope...there is hope.

Maybe there will be no baby this time, but that does not mean that everything will not be alright. Time can make everything alright. kwim?

 

[slo]

Many, many hugs to you and your wife
I don't know what to say - I just want to send some hugs

 

[mrsmom]

Kim

 

[Poohgirl]

Many hugs and prayers for you both.

 

[goofy4tink]

I'm so sorry. I've been in those shoes and it isn't easy. Just be there for your dw. You already know what you and she will be facing...she'll need lots of hugs and just plain ole support. She'll need to be able to cry freely, without you saying anything, just being there. She's going to need to talk about this loss, this baby...because it is a baby, no matter how you cut it and it is a huge loss.
After 3 miscarriages I did go on to have my dd, now 12. We did the fertility thing and decided it wasn't for us. That's when we finally conceived and had a healthy, normal pregnancy. I'm hoping and praying this will be the case for you and your wife. I'll be thinking of you today...it's hard to be supportive and worried at the same time. You are a good dh!!!

 

[roseprincess]

Don't give up hope yet. Did she have a trans******l ultrasound? How is her HCG level? I think 7 weeks is still early for the doctor to be so sure and it kind of ticks me off he is being so negative at this point. The risk of misdiagnosis is still pretty high that early in a pregnancy. You might want to check out www.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com and hit the message boards.

I agree on that certain ultrasound. Make sure all bases are covered as of ultrasounds, tests, etc before the doctor concludes on just trying to listen to the hearbeat alone and assume the worst. 7 weeks is a little early to try to hear the heartbeat. I never had a miscarriage, but have twins. My doc had a hard time finding the one twin's heartbeat at 20 something weeks, I had ultrasounds every month to confirm the heartbeat was there. My dd(the one twin) was so low down and laying weird, that's why they couldn't hear her heartbeat at times.

I do pray for you and your dw, praying for good news.


Rosemarie

 

[boomhauer]

Thanks for all the support, but it really does seem hopeless at this point. She just had another ultrasound, and the baby has shrunk and there is still no heartbeat.

Please just pray for my wife.

 

[mickeyboat]

Denae

 

[goofy4tink]

Thanks for all the support, but it really does seem hopeless at this point. She just had another ultrasound, and the baby has shrunk and there is still no heartbeat.

Please just pray for my wife.

She's got those prayers...you also!!! I'm so sorry.

 

[boomhauer]

What really angers me is the fact that her pervious doctor, the one we saw during the last miscarriage, told us we would be fine if we waited until the end of her NEXT menstral period to try and conceive again. Her NEW doctor, says it was too soon to try and conceive. So, my wife has to go through this horrible ordeal all over again because we were given fasle information by a doctor.

 

[minnie56]

 

[mrsmom]

Kim

 

[Grumpy's Wife]

After my miscarriage my doctor told me I only had to wait one cycle to try again. I got pregnant again with our third child two months after loosing my little angel. Stay strong.

 

[mamaof2]

Hello,
I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am a mother of 2 beautiful girls ages 2 and 4. I had a 2nd miscarriage the day before Christmas. I was 2 days shy of 13 weeks. It was a breaking point for me. They say you are safe at 12 wks. That wasn't the case for me. It was especially hard having to take down the babys stocking. Giving back all the tiny christmas gifts that my family members had for baby # 3. It was difficult. I cried for weeks. I even cried just reading this. However, I must say that it does get better with time. I can't promise that you will forget, but I promise it gets better. Trying again might give you something to look forward to. You can keep that in mind. I for one keep the hope of having a baby again. I still have a couple of years before my shut down point. I am sending you and your family a heart felt hug. Wishing you and yours the best.
From a person that's been there.

 

[boomhauer]

To make things worse, I can't go home right now. My wife has been out of work this whole week. I don't have any paid days left at work until July. If I leave, I can't pay the rent next week.

My MIL, who lives upstairs, can't get into our house because my wife locked the door. However, she can hear my wife downstairs, in what was going to be the baby's nursery, destroying all the furniture we had bought for the baby.