Looks like another miscarriage

[boomhauer]

My wife and I just returned from her 2nd ultrasound. Sadly, it looks like we're going to lose this baby as well. She's just about 7 weeks along, and the doctor said there is no fetal heartbeat which there should be by now. She has to go back on Thursday for another ultrasound, but he has pretty much prepared us for the worst. He said everything else looked and felt normal, and that it's possible everything is ok, but not likely.

I am so scared. How can I get my wife through this again?

 

[LeCras]

I am so so sorry to hear this - I really hope they are wrong and that things end up working out for you. If not... ...there are a whole bunch of people who will be right here for you!

I'll keep my fingers crossed for both of you.

Charlotte

 

[andromedaslove]

I am so sorry that you guys are going through this. The only suggestion I can make is to make sure no matter what that you are there for your wife. Take your lead from her, and let her know that you are there. Again, I am so sorry.

 

[Tuffcookie]

Boomhauer,

I'm so sorry you're faced with this. I had a normal delivery the first time around but after that went thru 4 miscarriages before having youngest DS.
Do not give up hope. I was scared to death when I got pregnant the last time because I didn't think I would be able to keep that pregnancy.
When a woman is going thru a miscarriage she feels like her body is betraying her. I have always felt I could control everything but this was something I couldn't do anything about. Afterwards, I would be depressed for a time not realizing there was a physical reason for feeling that way (a drop in hormones).
It is important for you to hold her and let her cry. I would be brave at work but come home and just cry. Don't be afraid to talk with her about your feelings. Most people do not want to say anything for fear of saying the wrong thing.
Hugs to you both!

TC

 

[chris1gill]

I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this

 

[luvindisneyworld]

I know how hard this must be.I have been there before myself.I have had 2 miscarriages and I lost Tiffany when I was 22 weeks.
Please know that you and your DW are in my thoughts and prayers.
They told me to wait at least 6 months before trying again when I miscarried.

 

[FreshTressa]

I'm so sorry you guys are going through this!

 

[tar heel]

I had two miscarriages, but we have three healthy boys, too. When I had my first miscarriage, I was amazed at the number of friends of my parents and in-laws who told me about their miscarriages. Get her through it by reminding her that this happens really frequently and most people go on to have healthy babies. She already has one, too -- right? Also, remind her that you love her and do what you can to take care of her.

 

[MamaLema]

I'm so sorry

 

[LukenDC]

I am keeping you and your wife in my thoughts and hoping for the very best.

 

[LBAK]

I'm sorry to hear this. Don't give up hope. After my first I had 6 miscarriages before my youngest. Stay strong for her and communicate. Talk about your feelings. My DH didn't say much about it because he didn't want me hurting more and I thought he didn't care. I got so angry at him and all he was trying to do was protect me. So talk, talk, talk it really helps.

 

[MickeysMommy]

 

[budbeerlady]

My Dh and I went through this, its a horrible thing. I was at 9 weeks when we didnt hear the heart beat, like the other poster my hormone levels stayed up and it was over 6 months before I could get pregnate again. Support her all you can, make the days as easy as you can when she goes for bloodwork if you dont hear the heartbeat next week. Going for bloodwork all those months only to be told not yet was devestating as well.

Its hard as heck to keep going this for your family, but for us DD is so worth it! I was also surprised to hear how many people have had this happen to them when trying to have a family.

Just be there for her, I was doing okay after the first time I was prepared more when we didnt hear the heartbeat about how things would end, but the 2nd time losing the baby at 13 weeks I didnt do so well that time. I just couldnt get outa the funk and taking Vicadin from the Doc didnt help the situation. Dh really had his hands full and I would suggest if she is willing, to go talk to someone. We will keep you guys in our thoughts!

 

[sajetto]

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I'll be praying for the best and for success later if it turns out to be the worst. Right now all you can do is be there for each other

 

[BrinxFam]

I just wanted to add that I too am sorry.

I have never personally experienced a miscarriage but my DB and DSIL did. After that miscarriage, when they conceived again, the doctor told them the same thing you were told. For a few days, it seemed like weeks, our entire family held it's breath. She went back and all was well. Don't give up yet.
Sending up prayers for you and your wife.

 

[MUFFYCAT]

I'm so sorry My heart goes out to you both

 

[AnaheimGirl]

I'm so sorry that you and your wife are going through this.

 

[Nana Annie]

I am so sorry you are going through this. I also had multiple miscarriages (5) and then went on to have another healthy baby. Just be there for her. And know that it is ok to grieve - both of you. And remember, you have a lot of friends here that have gone through it

When you are ready to try again, you might want to consider a fertility doc. Many OB/GYNs won't refer until after 4 miscarriages, but if you insist, they often will refer. My problem (very similar to yours - no heartbeat by 10 weeks) turned out to be a simple problem with my progesterone dropping. Although my OB/GYN had me on progesterone, the fertility doc put me on shots every day. Voila, a very healthy baby carried to term. No guarantees, but a fertility expert is often up to date on all the latest research on why women miscarry. I wished I had gone to him 3 miscarriages prior and saved all the heartache of all those miscarriages.

 

[MosMom]

Don't give up hope yet. Did she have a trans******l ultrasound? How is her HCG level? I think 7 weeks is still early for the doctor to be so sure and it kind of ticks me off he is being so negative at this point. The risk of misdiagnosis is still pretty high that early in a pregnancy. You might want to check out www.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com and hit the message boards.

 

[SeeDisney]

Very sorry to hear this sad news for you and your precious wife. You're a good husband to express needs on the Dis.