Frozenfingers
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- Apr 12, 2003
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Freetime, I have been writing a response since your first update, maybe I can push the send button this time.
My mom has always told me, "The road to Hell is paved wiith good intentions". In this situation, you got on the road a while ago. It will only get worse, unless you bail NOW.
I got a feeling that the consequences of their actions, should they go, will eventually be shifted to you. It will be your fault they are in so much debt, it will be your fault the kids haven't got clean body or clothes.. etc, etc.. Of course, we know that isn't true per se, but if you enable their destructive, irresponsible behavior, you will share in the responsibility, at least in your heart. I kinda liken it to giving an alcoholic a 12 pack and the keys to your car, telling him to have a good time and we will worry about tomorrow, tomorrow. Of course there will be consequences, and guess what, .. they will not take responsibility for it.
Even if you DO decide to foot the entire bill, transportation, food, park media, entertainment, etc.. and not let them spend a dime, you will still be the bad guy. They will have a miserable time because you are such a controlling ummm, individual, and didn't let them do what they wanted to do.. in other words didn't pay for it. They get home and try deal with the problems again, and have an epiphany that had you NOT lurred them away from what they needed to do.. they would be much farther ahead. they won;t be nearly as mad as you though.. after having a miserable time and having to pay for it too!
You know they are going to get PO'd, But, you will be doing the responsible thing by reniging on the invite. As a demonstration of support though, you should stay home as well, maybe do something together if you are still speaking. This is a good time to teach the kids (and hubby) that sometimes one has to make sacrifices for family, ...and quietly plan another trip for Easter...for just your family.
If they still don't see reason, and insist they are going you may wish to consider gifting them all stars lodging and let them know you accept NO responsibility for their decision.. You need to put distance between yourselves. invite them to dinner once for a get together away from the villa, and let them know what park you will be in if they want to meet up with you.
Best wishes and a whole truckload of PD!!
My mom has always told me, "The road to Hell is paved wiith good intentions". In this situation, you got on the road a while ago. It will only get worse, unless you bail NOW.
I got a feeling that the consequences of their actions, should they go, will eventually be shifted to you. It will be your fault they are in so much debt, it will be your fault the kids haven't got clean body or clothes.. etc, etc.. Of course, we know that isn't true per se, but if you enable their destructive, irresponsible behavior, you will share in the responsibility, at least in your heart. I kinda liken it to giving an alcoholic a 12 pack and the keys to your car, telling him to have a good time and we will worry about tomorrow, tomorrow. Of course there will be consequences, and guess what, .. they will not take responsibility for it.
Even if you DO decide to foot the entire bill, transportation, food, park media, entertainment, etc.. and not let them spend a dime, you will still be the bad guy. They will have a miserable time because you are such a controlling ummm, individual, and didn't let them do what they wanted to do.. in other words didn't pay for it. They get home and try deal with the problems again, and have an epiphany that had you NOT lurred them away from what they needed to do.. they would be much farther ahead. they won;t be nearly as mad as you though.. after having a miserable time and having to pay for it too!
You know they are going to get PO'd, But, you will be doing the responsible thing by reniging on the invite. As a demonstration of support though, you should stay home as well, maybe do something together if you are still speaking. This is a good time to teach the kids (and hubby) that sometimes one has to make sacrifices for family, ...and quietly plan another trip for Easter...for just your family.
If they still don't see reason, and insist they are going you may wish to consider gifting them all stars lodging and let them know you accept NO responsibility for their decision.. You need to put distance between yourselves. invite them to dinner once for a get together away from the villa, and let them know what park you will be in if they want to meet up with you.
Best wishes and a whole truckload of PD!!
