Inspired by being a thread highjacker- the OT thread!

[beckmrk04]

My MIL called me the morning of Christmas Eve to tell me what a horrible, dispicable person I am, and that she wanted to call my mother and tell her what kind of person her daughter REALLY was. I got so mad that I kicked a hole in the wall. I haven't spoken to her since.

That's something my own mother would do. How crappy!

 

[ktpool]

Ash,
That is horrible! She sounds like a piece of work.

I really shoudn't be so hard on my mil. She is not mean, just disinterested. I think she just doesn't know how to be affectionate. I don't think I have ever seen her hug any of her children (or grandchildren, come to think of it!) in the 11 years I have been married. That just seems so sad to me :-(

 

[beckmrk04]

Some people are weird about affection.

It is kinda sad, though.

 

[ashjohnson80]

It was a complete shock. I woke up all happy that it was Christmas and everything and then that happened and I was like WTH?!?!? And then I found out she had been telling my DH that I yelled at her and hung up on her on the phone a few weeks prior which was just a lie. And now it's going on 5 months and still no resolution. I hate it, especially since DH used to be really close with his mother and now he feels like he can't be.

 

[beckmrk04]

Ash, I would suck it up and go talk to her (if it's possible). Situations like this need a "bigger person." I know it totally sucks, but otherwise it will just hang over you.

But- that's just me. I wouldn't blame you one iota if you had no plans to talk to her ever again, but I can see how this would put your dh in a weird spot.

 

[ktpool]

I agree with Becky...I would feel better having the 'higher ground' and letting her know you are a bigger person. That should drive her crazy, haha!

 

[ashjohnson80]

I know that is what I SHOULD do, but weird situations freak me out big time. More than normal I think because I have panic attacks a lot, but anyways I am very non confrontational. But I'm going to at least try to send her a card and something to ease things a bit.

 

[beckmrk04]

Ah, the joy of panic attacks. That's why I quit my job.

Anyway- the card idea is good. At least it will open those lines of communication.

 

[MouseWorshipin]

i don't know if i have a virus or what, but I can't get my computer to go where I want it to go. My messages don't post, and it keeps dying. Driving me crazy!

House was "To Be Continued!" I HATE To Be Continueds! At least it'll be on again tomorrow.

 

[ashjohnson80]

Ah, the joy of panic attacks. That's why I quit my job.

Anyway- the card idea is good. At least it will open those lines of communication.

I'm afraid that my anxiety is one of the reasons I can't GET a job.

 

[ktpool]

Great idea! The card is a way of making the first move (for dh), but avoiding the confrontional stuff.

Bye guys - a thunderstorm is here and I want to get off my laptop. It is a good excuse to go to bed, I guess.
Kristen

 

[MouseWorshipin]

It's sooo easy to be the bigger person when it isn't you dealing with someone who gets under your skin! Like, I dunno, my mother! It builds and builds, ya know? I have dreams where I scream nasty crap at her.

I dreamt about you, Becky!!!! You were having a girl!

I dream about everything that goes on in my life. Everyone makes it into my dreams. The mail guy, the dry cleaning chick, my friends/family/neighbors. But almost never patients. I dreamt about Sylvester twice.

 

[ashjohnson80]

I have reoccuring dreams about Bam Margera. And occasionally Zack Braff. And I'm always on a boat. And there are vampire girls and I end up getting drunk.

 

[ktpool]

I dreamt about a really cute guy who was a monkey researcher (okay, primate). And my pick up line was, get this..."When you have some free time away from the monkeys, how would you like to go make hot monkey love?"

I swear, I don't know what caused me to dream about this, but it was one of those all night dreams. And my husband was right there too

The only think I can think of is my dh calls us Spunky Monkey a lot and my 9 year old has picked it up...she only calls me Spunky Monkey in the mornings now

 

[ashjohnson80]

I dreamt about a really cute guy who was a monkey researcher (okay, primate). And my pick up line was, get this..."When you have some free time away from the monkeys, how would you like to go make hot monkey love?"

I swear, I don't know what caused me to dream about this, but it was one of those all night dreams. And my husband was right there too

The only think I can think of is my dh calls us Spunky Monkey a lot and my 9 year old has picked it up...she only calls me Spunky Monkey in the mornings now

as far as i'm concerned you will now and forever be "hot monkey love"

 

[beckmrk04]

I dreamt about you, Becky!!!! You were having a girl!

I sure hope you're right!! Not that I wouldn't love a little boy, but I do want a girl!!

I dream a LOT. They are totally strange.

Night ktpool.

And ahhhh, Zack Braff.

 

[ashjohnson80]

I was just listening to the Scrubs theme song on my Ipod. "I'm no Superman"

 

[beckmrk04]

Hot monkey love... That is TOO good. Funny, though, because dh and I call each other "Monkey" as a tearm of endearment.

I have recurring dreams about being in tornadoes. It's never the 'same' dream, but always involves a tornado heading my way.

 

[beckmrk04]

I was just listening to the Scrubs theme song on my Ipod. "I'm no Superman"

Well, I know what I've been told, you gotta work to feed the soul, but I can't do this all on my own, no I can't do this all on my own, I'm no Superman...

 

[ktpool]

as far as i'm concerned you will now and forever be "hot monkey love"

DO NOT let the TF get ahold of this!