In-laws also own DVC and they are driving me crazy!

[CandleontheWater]

I grew up in a DVC family, and as a wedding present my parents gifted DH and I points so we could continue our tradition of family vacations, even as our family grew.

Well, not to be outdone, DH parents decided to buy into DVC after we were married, so we would take vacations with them, also. Ok, fine, even though they are a little kooky, I'm all for more Disney vacations.

Having grown up DVC, I have always been familiar with the ins and outs of membership, and despite my attempts to educate them on how best to utilize their membership, my inlaws refuse to listen, which is just driving me batty!

They want to take us on vacation for Easter week, and want four studios. Great! However, they have not booked them yet. They want to get into BWV, but do no see why it is necessary to book at your home resort (SSR) first, and then try and change. They also don't understand why it is so important to call right at 9 am for such a tall order and busy season.

I know that it is not going to work out, and then I'm going to have to listen to them complain and complain about DVC, when if only they listened we wouldn't be in this mess.

Of course, maybe it would be better if this trip didn't work out, we'd be traveling not only my in-laws, but my SIL's husband's parents too. Double in-laws may be too much for me to handle!

 

[eliza61]

Having grown up DVC, I have always been familiar with the ins and outs of membership, and despite my attempts to educate them on how best to utilize their membership, my inlaws refuse to listen, which is just driving me batty!They want to take us on vacation for Easter week, and want four studios. Great! However, they have not booked them yet. They want to get into BWV, but do no see why it is necessary to book at your home resort (SSR) first, and then try and change. They also don't understand why it is so important to call right at 9 am for such a tall order and busy season.

I know that it is not going to work out, and then I'm going to have to listen to them complain and complain about DVC, when if only they listened we wouldn't be in this mess.

Of course, maybe it would be better if this trip didn't work out, we'd be traveling not only my in-laws, but my SIL's husband's parents too. Double in-laws may be too much for me to handle!

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

You are not going to change your inlaws. stop trying. Like you said, it's driving you batty and you're inlaws are probably losing no sleep over it.

Give them a suggestion once or twice tell them the reasons why you feel it's important to book early for such a busy week and then step away from the points.

When you think about it, what's the worse that can happen? You guys will be forced to stay at OKW? oh the horrors!! lol.

You may be right on the family trip though. some times "the more" does not make "the merrier".

 

[TisBit]

Many people have to experience things before they will listen. An alternative, if they don't want to do a ton of planning is maybe have them add you as an associate on their contract. This way you can help with the planning and changing reservations at 7 months, etc.

 

[bobbiwoz]

OK, my opinion is that you may not get 4 studios at 7 months at BWV, but I think you will get 4 studios at SSR, so I wouldn't fret, especially if you're OK with the trip not happening.

 

[GBBTomorrow]

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

You are not going to change your inlaws. stop trying. Like you said, it's driving you batty and you're inlaws are probably losing no sleep over it.

Give them a suggestion once or twice tell them the reasons why you feel it's important to book early for such a busy week and then step away from the points.

When you think about it, what's the worse that can happen? You guys will be forced to stay at OKW? oh the horrors!! lol.

You may be right on the family trip though. some times "the more" does not make "the merrier".

Well said, from beginning to end.

 

[SmilingGrump]

Yep, you can lead a horse to water, but ....

In-laws can be frustrating, especially ones that don't listen to good advice. You'll never change their minds if they're not listening to you. As mentioned, politely inform them a couple of times of the importance of booking early, then keep quiet on it. It will take a few problem trips (likely more then this Easter trip), but eventually they'll remember that you've been correct all along and start listening to you.

Good luck!

Oh, and thanks for the tip about booking your home resort at 11 months first then attempting to switch at 7 months to another resort .... I'm new to DVC so that's a GREAT tip! See, some people listen

 

[CandleontheWater]

I'm not concerned at staying at OKW or SSR, I love both resorts!

I just hate listening to them whine and moan and complain about how they didn't get what they wanted and how awful the DVC system is. They are not the sort of people who will smile and move on, They will continue to complain for the entire vacation (and for every family gathering for the foreseeable future). I want them to be happy, and I don't want to hear them malign a product that I happen to really enjoy, hence my frustration. I know there is not much I can do about it, so grin and bear it I will, I just wanted to commiserate with some people who understand.

I am also concerned that there might not be four studios available at one resort if they wait too long, that is a real possibility.

 

[CarolMN]

...(snip).......I am also concerned that there might not be four studios available at one resort if they wait too long, that is a real possibility.

Perhaps that will be a good thing?

 

[dianeschlicht]

Perhaps that will be a good thing?

Carol beat me to the comment!

 

[dgaston]

Yes, the three of you should opt for the odd resort out for more separation.

 

[disneynutz]

In-Laws buying a DVC contract is their way of controlling you and keeping you close, they are fighting for your attention and affection.

Reassure them that you love them and that your suggestions will make your time together at Disney even more special. You might consider having them ad you as an associate to their DVC account and you could offer to make the reservations for them.

On the other hand this whole situation might blow up and be a real pain in the fanny.

Dr. Bill (honorary degree)

 

[Sammie]

I am sorry this bothers you but honestly you are in the one in control of letting it get to you.

We can't control how others act or think and honestly we should not try. Let them learn the hard way and if they come back later and complain, simply say I tried to explain to you how to avoid this but you did not listen.

If they want help offer it, if not leave it be and move on. Not worth the frustration.

Good luck.

I like this version of the Serenity Prayer:

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.

 

[Dean]

Let them fail, either one of two things will happen. Either they will learn their errors and do better in the future OR they will be upset and blame it on someone else like the sales person, Disney, even the OP.

 

[tink1969]

I grew up in a DVC family, and as a wedding present my parents gifted DH and I points so we could continue our tradition of family vacations, even as our family grew.

Well, not to be outdone, DH parents decided to buy into DVC after we were married, so we would take vacations with them, also. Ok, fine, even though they are a little kooky, I'm all for more Disney vacations.

Having grown up DVC, I have always been familiar with the ins and outs of membership, and despite my attempts to educate them on how best to utilize their membership, my inlaws refuse to listen, which is just driving me batty!

They want to take us on vacation for Easter week, and want four studios. Great! However, they have not booked them yet. They want to get into BWV, but do no see why it is necessary to book at your home resort (SSR) first, and then try and change. They also don't understand why it is so important to call right at 9 am for such a tall order and busy season.

I know that it is not going to work out, and then I'm going to have to listen to them complain and complain about DVC, when if only they listened we wouldn't be in this mess.

Of course, maybe it would be better if this trip didn't work out, we'd be traveling not only my in-laws, but my SIL's husband's parents too. Double in-laws may be too much for me to handle!

Uggghhh! My in-laws are the same! Over the years, I've learned to bite my tongue and just let it go. I am only the lowly DIL after all! lol

 

[DizBub]

In-Laws buying a DVC contract is their way of controlling you and keeping you close, they are fighting for your attention and affection.


Hmmmmmm...........we are in-laws that bought a DVC contract on the same day as our DD and her DH. I hope they don't think we are trying to control them. So far we have really enjoyed planning our trips together but we do tend to do our own things separately. So far it's been a great experience.

 

[cel_disney]

Inlaws can be difficult without the DVC headache! Hugs!!

The problem solvers in me is trying to find a way to make this better....Would you consider volunteering to be an associate on their account so that you can make the reservations?

 

[CandleontheWater]

While I think being an associate would make life easier on them, especially since I am a SAHM, and can make calls right when MS opens, it is not my place to ask, and they have never offered. It is a good idea though!

 

[kdzgon]

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When you think about it, what's the worse that can happen? You guys will be forced to stay at OKW? oh the horrors!! lol....

OK, my opinion is that you may not get 4 studios at 7 months at BWV, but I think you will get 4 studios at SSR, so I wouldn't fret, especially if you're OK with the trip not happening.

Really, even for Easter? Is it more difficult to book for spring break than Easter? Easter is the only other "Premier" season time [other than Christmas week] so I'm just surprised it would be likely for 4 studios to be available @ 7 mos.

 

[kdzgon]

I am sorry this bothers you but honestly you are in the one in control of letting it get to you.

We can't control how others act or think and honestly we should not try. Let them learn the hard way and if they come back later and complain, simply say I tried to explain to you how to avoid this but you did not listen.

If they want help offer it, if not leave it be and move on. Not worth the frustration.

Good luck.

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I would modify this to say if they come back and complain, simply offer to help them avoid the disappointment in the future. There is no version of "I told you so" that is ever helpful IMO.

 

[paults]

I grew up in a DVC family, and as a wedding present my parents gifted DH and I points so we could continue our tradition of family vacations, even as our family grew.

Well, not to be outdone, DH parents decided to buy into DVC after we were married, so we would take vacations with them, also. Ok, fine, even though they are a little kooky, I'm all for more Disney vacations.

Having grown up DVC, I have always been familiar with the ins and outs of membership, and despite my attempts to educate them on how best to utilize their membership, my inlaws refuse to listen, which is just driving me batty!

They want to take us on vacation for Easter week, and want four studios. Great! However, they have not booked them yet. They want to get into BWV, but do no see why it is necessary to book at your home resort (SSR) first, and then try and change. They also don't understand why it is so important to call right at 9 am for such a tall order and busy season.

I know that it is not going to work out, and then I'm going to have to listen to them complain and complain about DVC, when if only they listened we wouldn't be in this mess.

Of course, maybe it would be better if this trip didn't work out, we'd be traveling not only my in-laws, but my SIL's husband's parents too. Double in-laws may be too much for me to handle!

What dvc are your pts at? If you still want to go if they don't get what they want, why not book a room for you now at your resort and don't tell them. After you see what they can get and it's OK with you just cancel your ressie and get your pts back and stay with them where they book. Just don't tell them about the room you got.
good luck