I need motivation today! Please!

[jennz]

Help me - I need some motivation today! Yesterday I totally ate like a pig (okay I'm exaggerating but I DID have whoppers, chips and ice cream) and I DON'T want to do that today! My problem is this: have a personal situtation that has me a little sad so I'm eating, which then gives me the attitude "oh well today's shot anyway so go ahead."

Somebody slap me out of this please!!

 

[ohMom]

I, too, can be a stress eater. Or maybe that's more comfort eating, I think I'm guilty of all of it at some time or another.

Find a good book to read, or something you enjoy doing to relax! Maybe download a free computer game or call a friend you haven't talked to in a while! One habit I'm working on is grazing, simply eating because it's there and it sounds good. When I get that temptation I try to shift my focus on something else and if it works right, the food thoughts disappear.

Remember, you ARE worth it! You have been put here for a purpose, and beating yourself up for having a "bad eating" day, well, I just don't think thats why.

Do something nice for someone else, you'll feel better

And, yesterday is gone, today is here, focus on it!

 

[Kelsie]

Hi Jennifer,

First of all, ((((hugs))) I'm sorry you're sad and I hope things work out for you soon!

The good news is, it's a new day and you have another chance.

You can do this and we are here for you.

 

[wovenwonder]

Jen,
Try just taking baby steps. Tell yourself that you will go cheat free until lunch time --- then dinner --- then evening...... You will feel so succesful at each little step that you get thru that it will inspire you to continue on. Sometimes looking at the big picture gets frustrating.

If it would help to talk out your personal problems that are causing the struggle for you right now --- feel free to PM me!

{{{{HUGS}}}}}
You're among friends here Jen --- YOU CAN DO IT!

 

[believe]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} To you for the situation you are going through.

Oprah recently had a re-run and it talked about 70% of the overweight population is emotional eaters. This really helped me put things into perspective. I now tell myself that I will have that because of how I am feeling....I will feel worse later for eating it, overeating gives me a major guilt trip.

I agree that you need to find something that makes you happy. I am less likely to overeat when I feel good about myself. Remember that you are a wonderful person who deserves to feel good about yourself!!!!!!!

 

[kamgen]

Just remember that it is okay to have those kinds of days.....everyone does and you are not alone. Each day brings something new....you get to start over every morning, so make it count.
I am sorry you are going through this situation that is contributing to your eating.....but remember that while being sad makes you eat, eating right can make you happy!

One day at a time..... HUGS to you!

Kamy

 

[Luckymommyx2]

Another {{{{HUG}}}} here! I agree with believe when she said that eating when you're stressed will only make you feel worse. Try going outside, if it's nice, just to get a different perspective. Anything that keeps you out of the kitchen, hands and mind occupied should work. Don't be too hard on yourself because we all have gone through this so we know how you feel. Tell yourself outloud that you can do this. You are stronger than you think! Good luck and let us know how it goes!!

 

[TigH]

Sending you loads of hugs also {{{{{{{{{{{{{Jennz}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Forgive yourself for overdoing it yesterday and make a promise to yourself that you will find another way to cope with your emotions today! Eating your way through a miserable situation will just make you more miserable and mad at yourself! The Oprah show that believe mentioned was really good! I hope you get a chance to see it! My DH and I watched it the other night (it was on at 9:00 here) and thought it was a great show. So many people are emotional eaters. Instead of dealing with your feelings by shoving food in your mouth, you have to deal with them head on!

That doesn't mean you need to have a confrontation with anyone or talk to anyone if you don't want to, but just deal with the feelings on your own if you can. The most important thing in the world is that YOU feel happy. Life is way too short to spend it down in the dumps or angry or depressed or sad or any of those other ways that work against our natural happy wellbeing.

This may sound irresponsible, but it works for me. I just turn my focus to things that make me feel good. I look for happy distractions. I listen to happy music or go for a walk or a drive or just take some quiet time. I read inspirational material that I find on the internet. I make lists of qualities about myself that I appreciate or I list my blessings. I dream about the vacations I want to take or doing things with my family and friends that make me feel good! Let your imagination take you away from this thought that is making you sad.

I hope you have a better day today! Put yourself first and take care of YOU! You will feel better and IN CONTROL if you make the healthy choices. If you cave in and eat those whoppers, then you'll feel rotten and beat yourself up over it. YOU are in control! YOU can do it!!!! Sending lots more hugs! xo

 

[faith]

Today is a new start. Try to keep busy with other things and if possible get those temptation foods out of the house. You can succeed!

 

[Jiminy102]

OK here is an idea. First and foremost forgive yourself for yesterday and jump right back on plan today. Second pick up some pen and paper. Write, write about anything and everything. write to get the stress out, write to make you feel better about yourself, write to keep your hands busy and not think about food. Just WRITE!!! It is very theraputic and can help when you are stressed and just with life in general!!! Give it a try!!!

 

[jennz]

Thank you all for all of your replies! That's exactly what I needed, not a slap like I thought. I forgot about music...have Animal Kingdom parade on now, that always peps me up. Getting ready to take my poochies for a walk, it's (finally!) a pretty sunny day here. Just got back from dropping dd off at school and a trip to the grocery where I did NOT buy her favorite snack - twisty cheetos - because I'll eat them up! She'll have to do without for a few weeks or grab a snack bag here and there until I get on-track.

The reason I feel sad seems so petty compared to what others are facing, so of course I beat up on myself because of that! - dh has been looking for a job in Tampa and I was looking forward to moving there, close to family and dear friends and of course WDW . Then a few weeks ago someone contacted him about a job here in the midwest, but in a different city. He is a top candidate for the position. It sounds wonderful, a place where he could be happy, but...not what we had planned. SO - now I need to get it together and stop moping and eating and talk to him about - actually first I should be not stress about it since he has another interview to go yet! (I just believe in him so much I KNOW they'll want him ).

Now I'm off for a walk! Thanks again everyone - you are all awesome!

 

[Beanie]

Jennifer, I hope you have a wonderful, healthy day today! Everyone here has given you great advice and today is another day, so no thinking about what you did yesterday!

Hope you are having a great walk!!

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}} Jennz. I'm a stress eater, too. Sorry you have been stressing and been feeling sad. I think we all have days like that.

How proud you must be of your husband. It sounds like he has lots of companies that want him to work with them. He must be very good at what he does.

You have already received some great advice here. I don't think I could add to it. Just remember that yesterday doesn't count, an hour ago doesn't count, tomorrow doesn't count, only <b>right now</b> is what you need to consider. And right now, it sounds like you have gotten everything under control.

I'm proud of you for taking control and working throught this.

Katholyn

PS Pigs don't usually eat Whoppers I don't think you qualify as a piggy

 

[TCKK]

Sounds like you're doing better. I'm glad.

 

[TigH]

Jennifer, hey there!

Don't dismiss this as a "petty" problem! There are always going to be big things going on in the world that will make us think our "real life" problems are petty or insignificant in comparison, but that doesn't mean it's not important!

Moving in general is stressful. Moving long distance is really stressful! Wanting to move to someplace that is completely different from where you currently live with the added benefit of being closer to family and friends and WDW (and the ocean and our neat Florida climate!) and then finding out it might not be so, is disappointing. It's like getting to the top of the rollercoaster and then finding out there is no track at the bottom!

Just because the move to Tampa may not happen NOW doesn't mean it won't happen later! Sounds like you have a great relationship with your DH and I'm sure he'll be open to discussing this with you! If this job in the midwest is a good opportunity for him, just consider this move a detour for a few years. You can still have all the fun of finding a new place to live, painting it, decorating it, working in the yard, discovering new places to shop and (dare I say it?) eat! It's all a matter of perspective. Don't think of Tampa as "never" just "not right now".

Sending you lots of hugs just because! I HOPE that things work out and you become a Floridian sooner than later, but if not, just make the most of where you are! It will be a new adventure and we will get to share it with you!

Consider this a learning process. You are learning how to deal with stress a different way. Instead of eating through it, you are learning how to sooth your stressful feelings in a healthier way! Lots of great tips in this thread! You know we care and we are always here to lend a hand/shoulder!

 

[blanq]

I wouldn't dare slap you, but here's another hug ((((((Jennz))))))

 

[Debbie]

Jennifer, it does sound like you weathered the storm. Not buying the treats that sabotage is a good start, and so is the walk. Be sure to drink your water, and eat healthy. Journal, journal, journal. Give yourself a pat for every good choice you make. Forget the past- it's over. You are strong

and you CAN do it! Have a good weekend!

 

[jennz]

I made it through the day but I have to confess to one detour...a chocolate chip cookie. BUT everything else was super healthy so I'm not upset about it.

These posts have helped so much...I've come back to my computer to read and re-read throughout the day. I love it! You're such a great group of caring people. Many {{{{hugs}}}} back to all of you!.