I need a hug.

[dakcp2001]

I am having a crappy day. And I can't stop crying. My Dr told me that I was morbidly obese(based on bmi) and that I need to lose 50 more lbs.(I was feeling so good having lost 22 lbs over the summer) I am not thin but I am pretty healthy. I am 5'4' and 170 lbs. I just got back all of my bloodwork, my cholesterol & triglycerides are perfect. My blood pressure is 110/70. If I lost 50 lbs I would be 120?! Are you kidding me?!My lowest adult weight was 145 and at that weight I was a comfy size 8. I am currently a size 14. Before my recent weight loss I was an 18/20. I will never be 120 pounds. That just is not realistic for me. I know I am overweight, I diet & I excercise and I have been having success, so why do I now feel so fat and gross and like a big failure again? She is a Dr, shouldn't she have some sort of people skills?

It was just the way she said it, like she was totally disgusted with me, and when I explained about my recent weight loss and exercise she just said "Well you still have a looooong way to go" and then I started to cry, and she just left the room without another word. I cried all the way home, and now I cannot stop. My df is away on business for the week, so I didnt get any sleep last night, I am sure that is whyt I am so emtional. Anywho, I just feel awful.

 

[OhMari]

20 lbs is a huge deal.
Now that you know, all your tests are good,
just focus on your success and forgoetabouther.

 

[mhsjax]

I am having a crappy day. And I can't stop crying. My Dr told me that I was morbidly obese(based on bmi) and that I need to lose 50 more lbs.(I was feeling so good having lost 22 lbs over the summer) I am not thin but I am pretty healthy. I am 5'4' and 170 lbs. I just got back all of my bloodwork, my cholesterol & triglycerides are perfect. My blood pressure is 110/70. If I lost 50 lbs I would be 120?! Are you kidding me?!My lowest adult weight was 145 and at that weight I was a comfy size 8. I am currently a size 14. Before my recent weight loss I was an 18/20. I will never be 120 pounds. That just is not realistic for me. I know I am overweight, I diet & I excercise and I have been having success, so why do I now feel so fat and gross and like a big failure again? She is a Dr, shouldn't she have some sort of people skills?

It was just the way she said it, like she was totally disgusted with me, and when I explained about my recent weight loss and exercise she just said "Well you still have a looooong way to go" and then I started to cry, and she just left the room without another word. I cried all the way home, and now I cannot stop. My df is away on business for the week, so I didnt get any sleep last night, I am sure that is whyt I am so emtional. Anywho, I just feel awful.

Some Dr's are idiots with no bed side manor, she should have said Great job now keep up the good work. I wish I could lose 20 pounds. don't let her bring you down, just keep doing what you are doing, sounds like it is working.

 

[Magic Mom]

AW I'm sorry! 22 pounds is a huge deal. Congratulations for losing that much. Don't let your doctor's insensitivity knock you down though.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

OK, that was pretty seriously crappy of her.

 

[TaraLee4]

I am having a crappy day. And I can't stop crying. My Dr told me that I was morbidly obese(based on bmi) and that I need to lose 50 more lbs.(I was feeling so good having lost 22 lbs over the summer) I am not thin but I am pretty healthy. I am 5'4' and 170 lbs. I just got back all of my bloodwork, my cholesterol & triglycerides are perfect. My blood pressure is 110/70. If I lost 50 lbs I would be 120?! Are you kidding me?!My lowest adult weight was 145 and at that weight I was a comfy size 8. I am currently a size 14. Before my recent weight loss I was an 18/20. I will never be 120 pounds. That just is not realistic for me. I know I am overweight, I diet & I excercise and I have been having success, so why do I now feel so fat and gross and like a big failure again? She is a Dr, shouldn't she have some sort of people skills?

It was just the way she said it, like she was totally disgusted with me, and when I explained about my recent weight loss and exercise she just said "Well you still have a looooong way to go" and then I started to cry, and she just left the room without another word. I cried all the way home, and now I cannot stop. My df is away on business for the week, so I didnt get any sleep last night, I am sure that is whyt I am so emtional. Anywho, I just feel awful.

22 pounds is a huge accomplishment!!! that's AMAZING!! truly. Just keep plugging away at it.

to your doctor. i'm 5'2 and my 'healthy' weight is anywhere from 130 to 140, so i don't see how your healthy weight should be 120. If you feel good, eat healthy and your blood pressure, etc. is good than that's good! So what if it's at 155 and not 125?? bah!! we're not all built to be sticks.

 

[Jennasis]

Morbidly obese? At 5'4" 170lbs?? Find a new doctor stat. Here's a hug....you're doing terrific!

 

[Rose&Mike]

Don't let this de-rail you. I know from experience, how easy it is to quit exercising and stop eating well. Hang in there, and I know in a couple of days you will be feeling better.

Is it time for a new doctor? I just have no tolerance for mean people no matter what the reason.

 

[Tracy Savage]

You are doing good. Don't dive in the ice cream because of her stupid comments. Find a Dr. that will help you, not scold you. Wow, she was just wrong. Most people that I know that have weight issues-mine included- are emotional eaters. So why would she slam you and walk away. Rude.

 

[sam517]

You are not morbidly obese. You are in the overweight category according to the National Heart Lung and Blood Institute. http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/
You are doing great with your weight loss. Keep up the good work and find a new supportive MD. She's wackydoodle!

 

[BCDisneyFanatic]

Sounds like it might be time to find another doctor - that sort of treatment is really unacceptable.

I did a quick search on BMI, and according to the charts I saw, a normal BMI for someone who is 5 ft. 4 in. would be 145 lbs or less (that gives a BMI of 24.9). If you were to weigh 120 lbs, your BMI would actually be in the low-normal range (about 20).

Losing 20 lbs is nothing to scoff at! Please don't get discouraged...you've made great progress, and I'm sure you can keep it up! I think setting a goal of 145 lbs is more realistic (and appropriate). However, research seems to show that losing even a bit of weight can make a significant impact on your health.

 

[rie'smom]

170 is considered obese using the BMI scale but do you have a med or large frame? Have you built muscle from working out? Did you eat foods high in sodium the day before your appt? Had you had anything to drink before you went into the appt? All of these can affect your weight. Is she looking at the whole picture?
You were crying and she walked out?! Time to get a new doctor.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I am having a crappy day. And I can't stop crying. My Dr told me that I was morbidly obese(based on bmi) and that I need to lose 50 more lbs.(I was feeling so good having lost 22 lbs over the summer) I am not thin but I am pretty healthy. I am 5'4' and 170 lbs. I just got back all of my bloodwork, my cholesterol & triglycerides are perfect. My blood pressure is 110/70. If I lost 50 lbs I would be 120?! Are you kidding me?!My lowest adult weight was 145 and at that weight I was a comfy size 8. I am currently a size 14. Before my recent weight loss I was an 18/20. I will never be 120 pounds. That just is not realistic for me. I know I am overweight, I diet & I excercise and I have been having success, so why do I now feel so fat and gross and like a big failure again? She is a Dr, shouldn't she have some sort of people skills?

It was just the way she said it, like she was totally disgusted with me, and when I explained about my recent weight loss and exercise she just said "Well you still have a looooong way to go" and then I started to cry, and she just left the room without another word. I cried all the way home, and now I cannot stop. My df is away on business for the week, so I didnt get any sleep last night, I am sure that is whyt I am so emtional. Anywho, I just feel awful.

That was really crappy of your doctor. Besides, something seems wrong here. Usually you're not morbidly obese until you weigh 100 pounds over your ideal weight or have a BMI over 40. Is your BMI over 40? If so, that's kind of odd at your height and weight.

 

[sunshine girl]

You are doing GREAT ---- don't let that doctor get you down!! Booooo on that doctor and hugs to you!!!

I think doctors forget they're dealing with human beings sometimes.... ironic, isn't it??

 

[zachnsamsmommy]

I'm 5'4" and weigh 195. I'm considered obese. I am on WW and have lost 5 lbs so far. My 'goal' wt in WW is 145...the highest healthy BMI i can be.

Your dr must be smoking something b/c you are not morbidly obese. Not anywhere close. I mean, you are within 35 lbs of being at a perfectly healthy BMI. And 22 lbs is AWESOME...I know how hard it is to lose that much weight.

 

[teacups]

Morbidly obese? At 5'4" 170lbs?? Find a new doctor stat. Here's a hug....you're doing terrific!

I agree!
You are doing great. Your doctor however has crap for manners!

 

[dakcp2001]

Thanks guys, I needed that. I need to get a grip.

I do not know why it hurt me so bad, I know she was just being mean. She really just seemed disgusted. She was, BTW a rail. She prob weighs 100 lbs soaking wet.


She didnt tell me what she got for my BMI, but I found a website to calculate and it told me 29.9 which is overweight.

I am not going back to her EVER! My regular PCP left the practice, so they gave me the only other female, but I am looking for a new Dr now. I will never go back to her.

 

[Dan Murphy]

22 pounds sure sounds great to me, dakcp2001. I think it is time for a new doctor. She is not good for you.

And a hug

Here's one more........

 

[Liberty Belle]

Thanks guys, I needed that. I need to get a grip.

I do not know why it hurt me so bad, I know she was just being mean. She really just seemed disgusted. She was, BTW a rail. She prob weighs 100 lbs soaking wet.


She didnt tell me what she got for my BMI, but I found a website to calculate and it told me 29.9 which is overweight.

I am not going back to her EVER! My regular PCP left the practice, so they gave me the only other female, but I am looking for a new Dr now. I will never go back to her.

Good! You really should call her practice and explain why you're not coming back, and then make sure they don't talk you into it.

 

[Amelia Peabody]

1. Fire the doctor. She's useless if she can't work with you. Mine said, "gee if you could lose just 20 lbs that would really help." End of conversation. Was extremely encouraging and if I gained just asked if something was going on. Kind and polite. Find someone like him - yours is a jerk.

2. I lost over 100lbs and was down to 178. I felt like I wanted to get to 140. I regained my weight and now when I look back at my 178 weight pictures? I look AWFUL! My body was telling what weight it needed to be. Listen to your body.

3. You lost 22 lbs over the summer??? WooHOO! Good for you that's SUPER!