I've been reading along and am so sorry you're going through this. I was in a similar situation with my father summer 2021 and am still working on his estate. There's just no easy way to navigate these issues.
I'm no expert, but did want to mention the account with $25k for your daughter. Is this a joint account? If so, you might consider switching it to be in her name only asap. My father had several joint accounts with us (some of which consisted 100% of money that we deposited, they just continued to be joint from back when he opened them for us as kids) and in some cases those joint accounts will count as part of the estate for tax purposes. I wish that we had switched these over to only be in our names, but it's just that you don't think of this until after the fact.