I hate people.

[dogluva]

I've been reading this thread and I have to say I completely agree. I am very young looking for my age and when I was pregnant I literally holed up in my house for the last few months because of all the comments and touching. I literally got groped on the subway in Boston by a scary man. I was 26, but looked like a teenager. So I was getting touched all the time and getting all the nasty comments about being a teen mom. There are a lot of people who come at you leading with their hands out, they touch you before even speaking to you! I am not a hugger, I am very shy and do not like to be touched. I had a very hard time being pregnant.

I live near Boston and can't imagine getting touched all the time in this city.

 

[dogluva]

I'm sorry. I just got really offended. Between the lack of sleep and hormones I am either angry or crying all the time. I reread that and it was rude. I am a mess. And it really does feel like am getting touched everywhere! So a LOT of people seem to think it is ok.

Sorry your feeling down. I just can't imagine all the touching and comments. Like I said, I have had six kids and don't remember any of this. Maybe I was oblivious because I was too preoccupied but I don't think so. What is it like every day?

 

[LisaInNc]

I felt like pregnancy gave people the permission to say the worst things to a pregnant person. I was a free for all of bad comments.

"You have not had that baby yet?" Oh I loved that one!

I am in public puking my guts out.

"are you ok?"

I appreciated the concern but I just found this funny. I am vomiting in public. I am CLEARLY NOT ok!

I had a woman in Wal Mart remark in the loudest voice how LARGE my breasts were. I stood there thinking she could not have told more people unless she used the intercom! Let's just got a microphone and say something rude!

I thought thank you but I know what they look like that they are MINE and they are attached to me!

I can't think of another instance outside a strip club where it's appropriate to talk publicly about a women's breasts.

This was a little old woman that did not mean any harm. It was her generation and my hormones that made it so difficult.

And for the record...they were real and they were spectacular!

Lisa

 

[dakcp2001]

I felt like pregnancy gave people the permission to say the worst things to a pregnant person. I was a free for all of bad comments.

"You have not had that baby yet?" Oh I loved that one!

I am in public puking my guts out.

"are you ok?"

I appreciated the concern but I just found this funny. I am vomiting in public. I am CLEARLY NOT ok!

I had a woman in Wal Mart remark in the loudest voice how LARGE my breasts were. I stood there thinking she could not have told more people unless she used the intercom! Let's just got a microphone and say something rude!

I thought thank you but I know what they look like that they are MINE and they are attached to me!

I can't think of another instance outside a strip club where it's appropriate to talk publicly about a women's breasts.

This was a little old woman that did not mean any harm. It was her generation and my hormones that made it so difficult.

And for the record...they were real and they were spectacular!

Lisa

 

[wgeo]

I'm kinda tall and the way I carried my kids I never really got very big at all - not complaining about that. I was over 5 months pregnant and was just at the stage where I would wear my jeans but leave them unbuttoned and hang a shirt over the top. More then once, after people found out I was pregnant and what my due date was I would get "are you sure?" Naah, my doctor and I are just guessing! It didn't bother me really but it eventually got old enough that I actually wished I carried bigger sometimes.

Gina

 

[spacemountainmom]

Oh this thread takes me back!

I had many people TRY to touch my belly, but I guess my death glare made them think again. I did end up letting a guy rub my belly when I was pregnant wth dd without my permission because he was so drunk that I would have felt bad smacking him. It was funny because my dh and all of our friends were holding their breath, just waiting for me to whack him.

My ds was a very active baby. We had the 3pm follies every day at work. He woud just have a party in there. I had a friend at work who had an older dd and never could get pregnant again. One day she shyly asked if she could feel him moving so I let her and I let her anytime she asked.

I loved all the big and fat comments. My favorites....you must be having a girl, you're just soooo wide.....you must be having a boy since you're so huge in front. Gee, thanks! Sad thing is, they were right both times!

Ahh, the good old days....NOT!

 

[MinnieLovesMickey]

Luckily I didn't have a bunch of strangers touching my belly. However, I always got lots of random questions. I was due with DS in July, I was told by a coworker that I would be lucky if I made it through June because I was so big. This same person was convinced that I was having twins, because obviously the doctor and the ultrasound are wrong and she is right. My favorite question had to be "What does your DH think?" I had to be a smart @$$ and tell them that he was ticked off and trying to figure out how this happened.

 

[java]

Oh yes I had the touchers too. It's creepy. Hands off people, personal space!

I was asked by a relative,when I was having my third " why? you already have a boy and girl, what more do you need?". Clearly new relatives.

 

[MsLeFever]

My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for about seven months. No one knows because I don't think it's anyone business. But people ask me almost on a daily basis when I'm going to have a baby. I bumped into someone that I hadn't seen since high school and he asked me if I was going to have a baby soon. It's REALLY annoying. The pregnancy questions took the place of the " when are you getting married?" questions.

A friend used this response to those questions.

"Try to make a baby, try to make a baby...it is ALL we do!"

that usually shut them up.

 

[DVCJones]

When I was pregnant with my first, I was told my a young girl (18-20ish) that she thought it was "cool that I was going to be an OLDER mother."
Umm, I was 32!!!!

 

[tinkerbellandeeyor]

Things I never want to hear while pregnant. Please make a note of it.

1.Are you sure you aren't having twins?
-I've actually lost 14lbs and it makes my belly look huge. Keep your comments to yourself.
2.Your not supposed to be drinking coffee.
-(It's hot chocolate MYOB)
3. I loved being pregnant! I never got sick!
-good for you,would you mind waiting until I'm done puking to ell me that?
4. You look so tired!-That's because I am. Thanks for reminding me that I look awful.

And PLEASE DO NOT touch me!!!! I need a body guard for the grocery store.

I do want to say how I love feeling the baby moving around! And how my husband has stepped up and has been cleaning the house, cooking, and cleaning the litter box. Ad how he has been buying me flowers almost every week . He is a keeper.

Not expecting but I love when my boss remarks how tired I look even after drinking a energy drink so I am glad I wasted two dollars not

 

[tigercat]

I loved being pregnant and talking about it. Now saying that I puked all the time for nine months was very tiny ( and short, still am come to think of it) and looked like I was 13. I was 19 when I had my first and 21 when I had my 2nd. I was married and in a house. I didn't have people wanting to touch my tummy but maybe that was back in the days (my kids are in their 30's) but I did get other questions. I was really big especially with my last one but their questions never bothered me. What did bother me was when my newborn son died 2 days after birth was the very christian (NOT) things people had to say. If you think the questions you are being asked are horrible be in that situation.
As another poster said sometimes the questions are really someone looking to talk to another person in the same situation. My dd and her dh had problems getting and keeping a pregnancy. When people would ask about fertility a lot of the times it was because they were having problems and it ended up being nice for them to talk to someone else who also had problems getting pregnant.
I also loved my births. Would tell others that their birth should be the same? No but I do tell them that 30 yrs. from now it will be hard to remember exactly what it was like. I won't tell horror stories about any part of it. I do like to listen and hear about others but only if they want to tell it.
I saw a baby in the store today who when I looked and smiled at her she gave me this big smile back. I asked the Mum how old she was and that she had a beautiful smile. I don't touch because I know that people are not happy about it but should I just look away and not talk to people? I love kids, I have 5 grandkids it is my nature. If people look a certain way I will just let it go and not say anything. It is really hard to understand human reactions to things anymore. People are just not friendly as they used to be.
tigercat

 

[Mickeynutty]

This is a little off topic, but once when I was buying a pregnancy test, the pharmacist asked if I was happy or worried. I think I mumbled something but I thought that was way too personal for him to be asking me, a stranger!

 

[PizzieDuster]

Great thread. I loved being pregnant...all three of them.

I once had an attorney (co-worker) who was desperately trying to conceive a baby with his new wife ask me "Are you going to keep it? Because we would love to if it's too much for you. Just so you know." Because, ya know, I was 'just' a legal secretary and all at 26 (roll eyes).

I was too shocked to respond except with a "Yessssssssssss"

Watch me get bigger, employees throw me a baby shower and then meet my adorable son. Dear lordy. My DH and I kind of jokingly laughed about his wife showing up dressed like a nurse to steal our son.


They divorced.

 

[PizzieDuster]

I'm sorry. I just got really offended. Between the lack of sleep and hormones I am either angry or crying all the time. I reread that and it was rude. I am a mess. And it really does feel like am getting touched everywhere! So a LOT of people seem to think it is ok.

OP This is for you sweetie ~ hope to make YOU giggle http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Cl2MjqayVE

 

[Liberty Belle]

As someone who was pregnant with twins, but lost one at 13 weeks, I really hated the twin question. It made me sad and feel very awkward, especially if someone was around who knew the pregnancy started out as twins.

I also had an older male professor who I worked with, ask me if we were trying to get pregnant. Rude!

 

[chiefmickeymouse]

People should keep their comments to themselves.

My first real job after college I had a wonderful boss who had two young children. She became suprise pregnant with the third when the second was only 5 months old and she was quite distressed about it. She was worried she wouldn't be able to handle a job, three kids, the nanny might quit, etc. Of course, once she had the baby she was thrilled with him, the nanny didn't quit, things fell into place.

One night, about 10 weeks after the baby was born, we had a formal event to attend with cocktail dresses and the whole bit. My boss managed to squeeze into a dress, and she still had a belly. Her boss (Ivy league ed., from money, no children) takes one look at her and exclaims loudly "you're pregnant again!!!". I'll never forget how humiliated she was.

Unless it is a complement, people should shut the heck up.

 

[powellrj]

I had to take my DD to the doctor last week. A little boy about 5 came in with his dad to get his shots for Kdg. He looked at me and asked his dad why I was there. Dad was little embarrassed but said it wasn't any of their business. The little boy then says, I'll bet she's having a baby! I thought the dad was going to crawl under the chair. He was trying to be cool about it and say it wasn't any of their business, but he kept insisting I was there because I was having a baby! I was trying not to laugh behind my Kindle, but believe me at 54, that ship has sailed and there will be no more babies!

I learned along time ago not to be offended by anything anyone under the age of 7 ever says!

 

[luvsmickeymouse]

My kids are adopted internationally. People have come up to me and asked if they were "real" brothers. I used to hate that because they would ask in front of the kids.

 

[Conservative Hippie]

I love being pregnant, but I am very short and all belly. I used to lie to strangers and just say "yep, due any day now," just so I wouldn't have to hear all the "wow you are HUGE for 6 months" comments. Also I went past 40 weeks with both of mine (to 42 with my son) and I always hated the "when are you getting induced?" and even worse "why haven't you gotten induced?" comments from friends that knew my due date, that even started before 40 weeks. So with my son I was due July 2 (born July 14), and I just started telling people I was getting induced August 1.