I hate people.

[snapppyd]

Try being pregnant with #5 when your oldest 4 are all boys. (#5 is a boy, too.) People would come up to me and say, "Please tell me that one is a girl." And then when smiled and said it was another boy, they would tell me they were sorry for me and how horrible that must be right in front of my children!

We get a lot of comments about having 5 boys, but we got them most often at WDW a few months ago. I guess there aren't many large families there, so everyone thought they needed to comment. The funniest comment was, "Don't you like girls?" Several people asked us that. Like we had given birth to some girls and gave them back or something.

Fess up! You know you traded a few in!

 

[KandD]

I never had kids and people thought it was perfectly alright to ask me why? My own mother never asked.

My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for about seven months. No one knows because I don't think it's anyone business. But people ask me almost on a daily basis when I'm going to have a baby. I bumped into someone that I hadn't seen since high school and he asked me if I was going to have a baby soon. It's REALLY annoying. The pregnancy questions took the place of the " when are you getting married?" questions.

 

[lovesmurfs]

I think schools need to teach how to make small talk, because in general people are just dolts.

My "favorite" pregnancy question was from people at work: "Are you still here? When are you going to have that baby?" Yes, for my first I was overdue, but still in good shape and feeling well. Why should I go on maternity leave until the baby arrives just because I'm big?

 

[KennesawNemo]

When people first found out I was pregnant, I got two responses that I thought was very bizarre.

1. Is this planned or an accident? -- I am not even remotely close with this girl. It's really none of her business.

2. Are you pregnant? Oh, you are? Good, do you have any complications? -- As if pregnancy always comes with complication or as if she can't wait for me to have complications. But this girl is sort of like a "office clown". She says and does stupid things all the time so I just told her everything is fine.

 

[moorhunhe]

"Omg! I couldn't imagine! What are you going to do?"
-Leave one at the hospital. We aren't really into the whole buy one get one deal they're offering (DH's real answer to a lady at Publix).

Haha, I would have totally said the same thing, lol!


I would be more scared for when the baby is born and you take it someplace.
Strangers tend to touch every single baby they come across, and it's not like they ask you "can I touch your baby" they just do ... I would freak out!!
NO touchy!

 

[Duchie]

The more amusing question is always "Are they identical?" when my twins are boy/girl .

OMG I used to get asked this same thing all the time! Except my oldest 2 aren't twins - they are 17 months apart. I could understand people asking if they were twins, but every time they asked if they were identical I had to stop myself from laughing at them.

 

[poohfriend77]

Try being pregnant with #5 when your oldest 4 are all boys. (#5 is a boy, too.) People would come up to me and say, "Please tell me that one is a girl." And then when smiled and said it was another boy, they would tell me they were sorry for me and how horrible that must be right in front of my children!

We get a lot of comments about having 5 boys, but we got them most often at WDW a few months ago. I guess there aren't many large families there, so everyone thought they needed to comment. The funniest comment was, "Don't you like girls?" Several people asked us that. Like we had given birth to some girls and gave them back or something.

My SIL and I were pregnant and due within a couple months of each other. She already had a girl and a boy, and was having another boy. I was having a second girl. My niece was quite unhappy with the thought of having another brother, so she asked me if we could trade babies once they were born. It was cute because she was only 6, but I told her I thought I'd keep both my girls.

I was in a Subway when the worker asked me when I was due. I told her I had another 8 weeks (or whatever it was), she said "Wow! My sister is due in 2 days, and you are way bigger than she is. WAY bigger." Yeah, thanks... guess I should skip the mayo now.

 

[2girls4me]

When I was pg with #2, we were team green. We did itwith my oldest dd and loved hearing it's a girl on the OR.

When I was pg with #2, all I heard was how is better hope this one is a boy. Don't I want the "perfect family?". Say what? IMO, there is no such thing. And She wasn't a boy, obviously, but now imhave to "try for that boy." whatever. I'm done hang kids.

 

[beatlesblonde]

Oh my I am so sorry for all the crazy stuff you ladies have had to listen to, I'm making a mental note for when I'm around someone who's pregnant not to ask some of those questions. DH and I aren't having kids (no medical reason, we just don't want them) but I'm sure we'll get some weird questions about that too.

 

[Luv'sTink]

Meh, I was never that sensitive.

 

[hops&dreams]

Ugh - I always get the "when are you having your next one?" Uh, DD is 9, and I almost died having her. I don't think we'll be having anymore.

The heartbreaking one I got was "I thought you just had a baby... (looking around) where is it?" Uh, at the hospital, jerk! She was only 2 lbs when she was born. But thanks for rubbing that in. I really appreciate it, especially when I'm here picking up a Rx for the hypertension that almost killed me and made me deliver my daughter over 2 months early. Great. Guess I'll schlep back to the NICU now.

Then, when I got FINALLY got her home, I actually got "Why would you bf your adopted baby?" from another mom in the waiting room at the pediatrician's office. Yes, my kid was born a redhead. Yes, I am asian. It's not my fault God thought He was being funny with that one. (DH is blonde, but was also born a redhead. Just like him, DD's fell out by the time she was 4 months and it came back blonde-ish brown.)

 

[NYEmomma]

Now imagine the crazy and personal questions you get when you ARE having twins! Lol

The last few weeks of my pregnancy, I went NOWHERE. Aside from the fact that it was too painful to walk, I had become so big at that point (over 14lb of baby in there) that I was like a circus freak show anywhere I went. The grocery store was the WORST... I do my grocery shopping in the daytime when all the grandmas shop and they're attracted to pregnant women like moths to a light.

 

[trewin]

I always got rude comments from people about my age (it doesn't help I look younger than I am either) - "how old are you?!" Or "your too young to have kids!" I was almost 21 when my son was born. Maybe a little younger than most but it didn't mean I was going to be a bad mother! I am 26 now and pregnant w #3. I still get rude comments! I had my son, daughter, and nephew out one day and heard somebody say "omg! How many kids does she have?!" People are so quick to judge.

I also had a woman ask to actually see my belly bc she "loves pregnant bellies". A complete stranger.

Thankfully now I am a stay at home mother and don't have to deal w/ too many comments! I worked at a bank before. Lol. For now the furthest Ill go is to a kindergarten party or grocery shopping, until WDW of course! I am sure Ill get some comments there also.

 

[JennaDeeDooDah]

My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for about seven months. No one knows because I don't think it's anyone business. But people ask me almost on a daily basis when I'm going to have a baby. I bumped into someone that I hadn't seen since high school and he asked me if I was going to have a baby soon. It's REALLY annoying. The pregnancy questions took the place of the " when are you getting married?" questions.

I hate the "when are you having another" question, as well. My doctors told me that it would be highly unlikely that I would ever get pregnant and that if I did, I would have difficult carrying to term. Somehow, though, I have a beautiful little girl. I get these questions all the time from my husband's side of the family. His dad is one of 7, his mother one of 3. The smallest family on his mother's side has 4 kids. My husband has over 25 cousins on his father's side. Every holiday or get together they want to know when I will be popping out more kids. My husband and I have tried for more and it just doesn't seem to want to take. I try to tell myself that they are just trying to make conversation and be loving when I really want to make them feel as awkward as they are making me feel by regaling them with stories about trying, negative test after negative test, and miscarriages.

 

[2disneyboys]

disappointed for me when I say I am having a second boy, like I should be terribly sad for not having a girl.

Try being pregnant with #5 when your oldest 4 are all boys. (#5 is a boy, too.) People would come up to me and say, "Please tell me that one is a girl." And then when smiled and said it was another boy, they would tell me they were sorry for me and how horrible that must be right in front of my children!

Both of these exactly!!!

1st, I got all the personal questions (practically started @ the wedding reception) on when we are having kids. Then as more & more various family members started having babies, the pressure was really on! What very few people actually knew was, we were trying!! after a few years & some very expensive fertility treatments, we were finally blessed with DS#1 . Immediately, we start getting, when are you having the next & don't you hope it's a girl!..again.. more expensive fertility treatments, and we were blessed with DS#2... thats when the questions about aren't you disappointed? are you going to try for that girl? These questions were quite offensive to me. Like I "failed" by having 2 boys rather than 1 of each.Perhaps I was ultra sensitive because of how difficult it was to actually conceive them, but really? I was just so happy to have them both and that they were both healthy! why imply that the only perfect family is at least once of each. I STILL get questions & comments about "when ya gonna try for that girl?" I just smile & say that I was blessed with 2 perfect boys, why would I want to mess with perfection?

It does shock me on a daily basis just how nosey so many people are and people's lack of boundaries.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

My DH and I got married in August and found out we were pregnant in November. We started trying quickly anticipating complications because of my history. But when people find out they quite often say "whoops" thinking it was an an accident to have happened so soon after the wedding.

The other question is "are you going back to work". When I said yes, one lady actually said "why are you having a baby?" Ouch. But it was an old lady at church so I didn't slap her. Different mindset.

 

[Ephany]

I always got rude comments from people about my age (it doesn't help I look younger than I am either) - "how old are you?!" Or "your too young to have kids!" I was almost 21 when my son was born. Maybe a little younger than most but it didn't mean I was going to be a bad mother! I am 26 now and pregnant w #3. I still get rude comments! I had my son, daughter, and nephew out one day and heard somebody say "omg! How many kids does she have?!" People are so quick to judge.

My sister is 30 and was stopped at Walmart by some woman who thought she deserved a lecture on having kids while in High School. My niece was 3, so we're not talking babies having babies here. Needless to say, my less than tactful sibling gave her the full force of her fury in language that would make a trucker blush. Part of me knows it was rude, but I do admit it would have been rather amusing to watch. Too many nosy people who have nothing better to do.

I think it was Dear Abby who said that when someone asks you a rude or impertinent question, you should respond 'Why do you ask'? It puts the awkwardness back on them and reminds them how thoughtless they're being.

 

[snapppyd]

My sister is 30 and was stopped at Walmart by some woman who thought she deserved a lecture on having kids while in High School. My niece was 3, so we're not talking babies having babies here. Needless to say, my less than tactful sibling gave her the full force of her fury in language that would make a trucker blush. Part of me knows it was rude, but I do admit it would have been rather amusing to watch. Too many nosy people who have nothing better to do.

I think it was Dear Abby who said that when someone asks you a rude or impertinent question, you should respond 'Why do you ask'? It puts the awkwardness back on them and reminds them how thoughtless they're being.

Oohh, I have to remember that for so many things!

 

[trewin]

My sister is 30 and was stopped at Walmart by some woman who thought she deserved a lecture on having kids while in High School. My niece was 3, so we're not talking babies having babies here. Needless to say, my less than tactful sibling gave her the full force of her fury in language that would make a trucker blush. Part of me knows it was rude, but I do admit it would have been rather amusing to watch. Too many nosy people who have nothing better to do.

I think it was Dear Abby who said that when someone asks you a rude or impertinent question, you should respond 'Why do you ask'? It puts the awkwardness back on them and reminds them how thoughtless they're being.

It ALWAYS happens at Walmart!!! Lol.

 

[denisenh]

i don't recall being asked "insensitive" questions while being pregnant but have had to giggle over a few posts.
all 3 of my children were unplanned but all were perfectly timed. i am very grateful that i was able to enjoy my pregnancies!!