I got my son's ear pierced yesterday!

poutytink said:
He is 8 and has been wanting one for 2 years now but kept chickening out. We were in the mall and passed by a jewelery counter where a woman was piercing a baby's ears. I loked at hin and said "Hey look that baby got it done.Do you want one so you look handsome for your communion next month?" He said ok and I put him on the chair so he couldn't change his mind. He was scared at first but he picked out a small square diamond and after it was done, he couldn't stop looking at himself. He kept saying he loved it. It looks sooooo cute on him! I have to figure out how to download a picture so you guys can see it! If my mom was alive she would have killed me!! What do you guys on the DIS think about it? :love:


Should this be considered a form of child abuse? :confused3
 
I think that earrings on guys look OK (depending on the guy). But that doesn't mean that I think every guy should have an earring. If he were my son I would have told him the same thing that I told DD's about belly button piercings, " When you are old enough to sign for it yourself, you are welcome to do it. But I will not sign for it". End of story.
 

JPN4265 said:
Should this be considered a form of child abuse? :confused3

Not the earring. But the mullet? For sure! :rolleyes1
 
JPN4265 said:
Should this be considered a form of child abuse? :confused3


What twilight zone did you pull that out of?........ :confused3

I have read some posts that says pick you battles. Maybe I'm confused but I didn't read the OP post as a battle with her son, just that he wanted an ear piercing. I agree pick your battles but I do not think that applies to this.

My 2nd cousin (girl) had her ears pierced at a very early age. Once she reached toddler age, somehow her earring was yanked from the lobe. Now her lobe is permanately split. She cannot wear a earring of any kind now in that ear. She is in her mid 20's now. Like in my earlier post, I do not like earrings on boys of any age including grown men and I must include young babies and toddlers.

OP, please do not get upset at some of the responses. I believe they are honest opinions and are not designed to upset you. As long as you and your son are happy that is all that matters....... :thumbsup2
 
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I think..."Yuck." on a grown man. I think..."Strange parents and Double Yuck." on a small child.
 
Actually I haven't because I didn't have anything else to say. I am NOT re-thinking my decision. My son LOVES his earring so I am happy that he is happy. Like alot of people have said, if he wants to take it out when he gets older he can. I have been enjoying all the responses though. As to being new...I am more of a lurker..I only post when I really have somthing to say or share. :banana: :banana: :love: :love: :wave2: :yay: :wave:
 
LindsayDunn228 said:
No, just a really bad lapse in judgement.
I agree. It still sounds like the mom wanted it more than the kid did.

One thing I can't help noticing from this thread: It seems that the majority of the posters dislike earings on boys and men. Some have cited sports and the possibility of injury, others have just cited the yuck factor. Regardless, this is evidence that a good number of people in society will react negatively to earings on males. Some of these people will be his teachers, his employers, girls he wants to date, parents of girls he wants to date . . . and they'll all be making a first-impression judgement call based upon the earing (as one part of his overall appearance). Sometimes we don't get the opportunity to try for a second impression. He will start out with one strike against him because of the earing. Life's tough enough without handicapping yourself with things that make people question you. Isn't that a good reason to avoid it altogether?
 
MrsPete said:
I agree. It still sounds like the mom wanted it more than the kid did.

One thing I can't help noticing from this thread: It seems that the majority of the posters dislike earings on boys and men. Some have cited sports and the possibility of injury, others have just cited the yuck factor. Regardless, this is evidence that a good number of people in society will react negatively to earings on males. Some of these people will be his teachers, his employers, girls he wants to date, parents of girls he wants to date . . . and they'll all be making a first-impression judgement call based upon the earing (as one part of his overall appearance). Sometimes we don't get the opportunity to try for a second impression. He will start out with one strike against him because of the earing. Life's tough enough without handicapping yourself with things that make people question you. Isn't that a good reason to avoid it altogether?


My thoughts exactly, you just said it better than I could ;)
 
oh - so THIS is how you get people to respond to your posts. I've been on the DIS for years, and never got 13 pages of responses about anything. But then again, I'm very boring.
 
OMG- I cannot believe this thread has gotten so long! :eek:
 
MrsPete said:
I agree. It still sounds like the mom wanted it more than the kid did.

One thing I can't help noticing from this thread: It seems that the majority of the posters dislike earings on boys and men. Some have cited sports and the possibility of injury, others have just cited the yuck factor. Regardless, this is evidence that a good number of people in society will react negatively to earings on males. Some of these people will be his teachers, his employers, girls he wants to date, parents of girls he wants to date . . . and they'll all be making a first-impression judgement call based upon the earing (as one part of his overall appearance). Sometimes we don't get the opportunity to try for a second impression. He will start out with one strike against him because of the earing. Life's tough enough without handicapping yourself with things that make people question you. Isn't that a good reason to avoid it altogether?

As a male with an pierced ear (and other body piercings all facial), and a male with tattoos....I am glad people are superficial and believe in stereotyping based off of petty stuff like a piercing or a tattoo.

This lets me know who I should or should not hang around and talk to and lets me know what kind reasoning some people will have before I get into a conversation with them. If someone has the reasoning that they are better than me because if what I have on myself before even talking to me, then that is thier choice....BUT look at it from the other side myself (the ghetto redneck freaks with mullets as you all say)....what do you think I think when I see someone judge solely off appearances?

I see close minded people who cannot see past something they don't like so why should I think anything else they believe would be at face value. I like how most on here respond with well where I am from....WHERE THE USA?

I walk around my city and I see more people with Tats and piercings than I see people without....so uhh yeah exactly where are you from? Maybe it is the small town mentality I don't know, but being from a bigger city, and always taking vacations to other big cities I always see myself as 1 among everyone else, and never fell out of place.

And when I go to smaller cities where I know it isn't as accepted, I wear my bigger facial piercings just to get a reaction because it is so funny to see someone who thinks they are better than me without even knowing me. And that right there shows me that they are no better than me because I judge people off of actions and the way they speak and treat others...not off appearances!


And you know what I am just like YOU! I have an office job (payroll none the less)...which I wore my piercings to interview and there was no problem with it...if anything it lightened the mood of the company because they saw me for my work not my appearance. I headcoach little league baseball, and help coach football..but you know what we always have 1 of the better teams..because I know what I am doing....hmm I wonder if I would be a better coach without the piercings? I volunteer for community service to help the community not because I was forced by the courts (like others would think since I have tats and piercings)

So to everyone that thinks it makes a bad first impression I ask you to think about this...which does it make a bad impression on...the person who judges and can't look past something like this to actually get to know a person, or does it look bad on the person whio has it and likes to express themselves in a way not everyone else does?

Flame on :thumbsup2
 
dis ms. said:
When my sister told me she was going to pierce my 5-year-old nephew's ear, her explanation was, "Well, he wants it." I replied, "He's 5. He probably wants to pick his boogers and eat 'em, too, but that doesn't mean you should let him."

Enough said.

exactly :thumbsup2

That's the real important part about being a parent. Besides the whole food and shelter part we also help them make *wise* choices while they are still young so that when they are older than can make *wise* choices on their own.
 
foolishmortal said:
And you know what I am just like YOU! I have an office job (payroll none the less)...which I wore my piercings to interview and there was no problem with it...if anything it lightened the mood of the company because they saw me for my work not my appearance. I headcoach little league baseball, and help coach football..but you know what we always have 1 of the better teams..because I know what I am doing....hmm I wonder if I would be a better coach without the piercings? I volunteer for community service to help the community not because I was forced by the courts (like others would think since I have tats and piercings)

So to everyone that thinks it makes a bad first impression I ask you to think about this...which does it make a bad impression on...the person who judges and can't look past something like this to actually get to know a person, or does it look bad on the person whio has it and likes to express themselves in a way not everyone else does?

Flame on :thumbsup2

I am just curious as to what kind of office you work in because if I were an HR person hiring for a medical office, public relations, reception area, etc. you or anyone else with facial piercings or tattoos that couldn't be easily concealed by reasonable and season appropriate clothing wouldn't get past the first interview. You may consider me "closed minded" but I would guess that my closed minded view is more mainstream than your desire to espress yourself by what I consider close to self mutilation. That doesn't make you a "bad" person but one who doesn't necessarily consider all of the ramifications of the "hey look at me" decorations that you seem attracted to. If you don't want to be "judged" by your appearance, then why alter your appearance in such an extreme way? You are daring people to judge you and when they do, assume the role of the victim. I am sure you are a good coach and lead your teams to victory but are you saying that you couldn't do that without poking holes in your face and sticking metal through them?
 
Dawn, you are so correct.

And Foolishmortal, I have a question. Do you wear the piercings because they make you "you," or so you wear them simply for shock value? It sounds like you are really leaning towards to latter.

Also, on Dawn's note, I used to work with a girl that had really short hair. One day she comes into work with it a neon pink. My boss would have none of that and I don't blame her. The girl's job was to evaluate suicidal and psychotic clients for inpatient hospitalization. I found it, as did my boss, very unprofessional.
 
DawnCt1 said:
I am just curious as to what kind of office you work in because if I were an HR person hiring for a medical office, public relations, reception area, etc. you or anyone else with facial piercings or tattoos that couldn't be easily concealed by reasonable and season appropriate clothing wouldn't get past the first interview. You may consider me "closed minded" but I would guess that my closed minded view is more mainstream than your desire to espress yourself by what I consider close to self mutilation. That doesn't make you a "bad" person but one who doesn't necessarily consider all of the ramifications of the "hey look at me" decorations that you seem attracted to. If you don't want to be "judged" by your appearance, then why alter your appearance in such an extreme way? You are daring people to judge you and when they do, assume the role of the victim. I am sure you are a good coach and lead your teams to victory but are you saying that you couldn't do that without poking holes in your face and sticking metal through them?[/QUOTE]

My thoughts exactly so why should I change to please other people they have no bearing 1 way or the other so I will not change the person I am to please others.

I work for a newspaper (well 2 to be exact) since both of the major papers in the state megred to make 1 big company. And again, you may be passing up better workers than what you are hiring because of a precieved lack of judgement, that is not in line with yours.

Again, it is not a look at me thing most days, as it is a common thing in my city...but yes I do to it when I go to smaller cities, not to be say a victim, but beacuse I personnaly think it is funny how some people react because I am not "like them". You would think I killed a family member of thiers when all reality all I do is walk past them for 2 seconds and never see them again.

You say if I don't want to be judged by this why do it?? I would say...WHY SHOULD SOMEONE JUDGE SOLELY OFF OF THIS? How about get to know someone and form your opinion from there.



You say it helps you weed out who to hire...well it does sort of the same for me like I said. If someone cannot look past this why should I goive them the time of day when they wont for me...it's a 2 way street.
 
LindsayDunn228 said:
Dawn, you are so correct.

And Foolishmortal, I have a question. Do you wear the piercings because they make you "you," or so you wear them simply for shock value? It sounds like you are really leaning towards to latter.

Also, on Dawn's note, I used to work with a girl that had really short hair. One day she comes into work with it a neon pink. My boss would have none of that and I don't blame her. The girl's job was to evaluate suicidal and psychotic clients for inpatient hospitalization. I found it, as did my boss, very unprofessional.

I did it orignally because I liked the look and it was at the time something not everyone had. Well it has become a little more mainstream since so I thought about taking it out, but then when I got bigger with the piercings to try to be alittle more diferent than the little balls eveyone has that is when I noticed the "shock value" and that is why I keep the bigger ones when I wear them because it is so funny to me how people think based off of that...but once they get to know me they look past it.

And I can truly say I have no enemies! Once people get to know me they know I am a down to earth care about children and community type of person.
 














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