I got my son's ear pierced yesterday!

[Disneyrsh]

Don't forget the matching purse!

No, no, they're called "man bags" now

I just wanted to add that the title of the thread is "I got my son's ear pierced", not "my son got his first earring".

It really had nothing to do with the kid, poor little bugger.

It's a good thing the mom didn't decide that the kid wouldn't be a good candidate for reproduction or we'd be reading the thread "I got my kid a vasectomy today!"

Yikes!

 

[luvsmickeymouse]

My son has had a couple of piercings in his ears for years now. I actually like it. He is in college. My younger son had one but let it close up.

 

[mrsg00fy]

I'm glad that my sons have absolutely no interest in piercing their ears. My youngest makes communion next month. I could not imagine him with a pierced ear.
I think that earrings are for girls....and I'm glad that my sons share this feeling.

 

[chager]

My nephew had a pierced ear when he arrived here in Aug. He was 10 (now 11) He no longer wears the earring. He was called several names by the boys in our area becuase of it.(He is from a small town in another state) He also had to take it everytime he played ball or was rough housing outside. It was snagged but not torn out a couple times when he was playing around.(Really GROSS!!!!) I also found that he really didn't understand how to properly care for his ear or earring whan reinserting it. So I am not in favor of them with young boys. When they become young men then they can decide if they want one.

 

[Planogirl]

I can see the problem with sports but otherwise I don't see the big deal. This seems so minor to me to be truthful.

 

[Daxx]

First off, if your DS were making his 1st communion from my school (Catholic) or Religious Ed. program, he'd be told to take the earring out or not attend. Plain and simple. Earrings are not allowed for boys (regardless of age) in my school or the religious ed program affiliated w/my school. Boys are told they must remove any earrings before they come to school or religious ed. Even our girls are allowed to wear only one piercing in each ear. If they have 2nd, 3rd or whatever number extra holes, they must take those earrings out. While necklaces, bracelets and rings are allowed, they must be religious (crosses, saint medals).

Second, if I were you, I'd check into your religious ed's policy of earrings for boys. I'm guessing your child doesn't attend Catholic/Religion based school b/c this would not be allowed in most religion based schools.

You asked for opinions and I'll tell you that I think earrings on little boys are obnoxious.

And, in all honesty, I hate how you said you sat him in the chair to make sure he wouldn't get out/change his mind (was it really HIS idea to begin with?) and that you made fun of him by comparing him to the baby who got their ears pierced. This sounds like something that a teenager would do to a kid to get them to do something ... not an adult!!!!

For the person who called the pierced ear look "Redneck" ... we'd call it "Trashy" or "Ghetto" or "Cheesy" in this area.

I have a 9 yo DS and if he wants his ear pierced, he can wait until he goes to college! It won't be happening under my roof!!!!

 

[Daxx]

It is their bodies - let them make the choice when they are older, know what is involved and really want to do it themselves.

Excellent point!!!!!

 

[tarheelmjfan]

My nephew had a pierced ear when he arrived here in Aug. He was 10 (now 11) He no longer wears the earring. He was called several names by the boys in our area becuase of it.(He is from a small town in another state) He also had to take it everytime he played ball or was rough housing outside. It was snagged but not torn out a couple times when he was playing around.(Really GROSS!!!!) I also found that he really didn't understand how to properly care for his ear or earring whan reinserting it. So I am not in favor of them with young boys. When they become young men then they can decide if they want one.

My nephew received the same harassment with his, except he was in college. He & his friends were apparently partying a little too hard, & decided it was a good idea to pierce each other's ear. That lasted long enough for him to get home to his dad & mom's. Everyone in the family let him know how disappointed they were in him. The next day the earring was gone, & hasn't returned. My DS(14) won't have an earring, while he lives here or I'm paying for college. When he's on his own, if he decides to do so, I'll make sure to repeatedly express my disappointment.

 

[Papa Deuce]

Do you really want to know?

I laughed when I saw this early this morning. One thing I knew was that there would be OVER 100 responses!

 

[iggbees]

wow, i'm really surprised at some of the responses. it's a pierced ear, not a tattoo or something worse. the hole can close up (i'm guilty of that). i got my ears pierced 3 times and even pierced my own ear in the cartilage (which got infected and closed up). it's not like her son is doomed to have this pierced ear for the rest of his life.

i can see the point about putting him in the chair and making it seem like she wanted it more than he did, but what parent doesn't? i think i was 7 when i got my ears pierced for the first time and i was scared out of my mind, because i didn't know what to expect. if my mom hadn't told me that it was going to be ok i probably wouldn't have gotten it done.

also, if other male family members have their ears pierced, he probably was just looking up to them.

 

[Skywalker]

Guess I am more traditional because to me

Man + earring =

Little boy + earring =

Coercing mother + earring for little boy =

 

[DWDreams]

Well if it's being asked, I think it's tacky personally. For me, when I see a young boy with his ear pierced, it makes me think the parent is trying to make their kid look "cool" because maybe it was the "thing" back in their day. It seems like a trend thats at least 10 years past it's peak, frankly.

That said, if you like it and your son is happy with it, it's cool. To each their own.

 

[momrek06]

SORRY OP:

My sons are 23 & 20 and this is one thing they never had any desire to ever do. Not ever. Actually, never even entered my mind to consider it EVER when they were your DS' age! But I will tell you this IF they had come to me and asked (when younger) I would have told them simply: NO!!

Now that they are older and off to college and out in the working world, that is (I will tell you) the very LAST thing they would ever think of doing. NO WAY!!! Just not happening, they BOTH have no desire.

Last summer they did both get tattoos, of which I was NOT pleased with at all but they were old enough to get the tattoos and did not involve me in their decison making...that being said, they are on their back on their upper shoulder so that it will not be seen with a "dress shirt" on for work. Still..ugh..on the tattoos!!!

p.s. Also, a gift for First Communion! Interesting! I live in a verrry old town. We have 6000 people and THREE Catholic churches...our Parish Priest would have frowned on the earring, he would NOT have said a word to the child but he has made certain statements regarding "church etiquette" involving dress codes, earrings for the girls (nothing that dangles/hangs down) etc etc....

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Guess I am more traditional because to me

Man + earring =

Little boy + earring =

Coercing mother + earring for little boy =

Memories....Priceless.






I am not into boys and earrings--though Judd Nelson in the Breakfast Club with the bling at the end...seemed hot to me.

Hubby will not let our daughters get ears pierced until teenagers. Now I think if they are old enough to ask and understand as it is a girls thing.

I'd like to be on the same page as him except I disagree with his logic. He thinks it is like makeup, used to make pretty and attractive to boys and reserved until they are older.

Yet--He cannot point out one time EVER that he was attracted to a girls b/c of her pierced earlobes.

I cannot think of one moment where I thought--Hey--these little pink bear earrings--will make little Tommy think I am pretty.

 

[momrek06]

I noticed the OP has not commented on her Thread since the first page...maybe she is re-thinking this decision....

NOW MY QUESTION: If OP's DS got the earring yesterday (Sunday) and the OP was re-thinking all this...how long does she have to take the earring out with out worrying about leaving a hole and that the current hole would close up with no scar at all and her DS would have no marks, no reminders????

ANYONE???

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

the current hole would close up with no scar at all and her DS would have no marks, no reminders????

ANYONE???

I dont' know the answer--as others have said...what is left behind by a closed hole varies by person.

However--at his age and given the circumstances--if it were an issue....simply taking the earring out and pretending it never happened won't undo the deed.

Whether or not there woudl be a physical reminder of the piercing if the stud were removed---isn't as important as whether or not there would be an emotional scar for a decision made at too old to not be able to forget it, yet too young to make the decision themselves without parental prodding/coaxing.

I would concur that if it had to be done quickly before the child could change their mind--then they are probably too young emotionally regardless of how old they are chronologically and regardless of their sex. (though in boys---the "dont' be a baby" card cuts a little more deep than in girls).

 

[kristen821]

My son will be 8 next month and wouldn't dream of having his ear pierced at this age. I actually have used it as a threat when he was acting up at the mall, not that I would do it but he shaped up real fast!
I wouldn't mind if he was a teenager and wanted his ear pierced. Dh just took his earing out this year and had his pierced when I met him.
IMO-8 is to young, but i really don't care if another parent thinks it is ok

 

[disney50fam]

personal I am not a big fan of earrings on boys. But you are his mom and You already got it done and I am sure he is happy about it.
My step brothers have earrings but hey so does there dad so of course they would have them! To each is own. If we were all alike it would be a even crazyer world!

 

[kaylajr]

Okay I read every post here and it seems this has turned into a 2 issue thread so here are my opinions on the two


DH and I decided as the kids started walking and talking that we would face many battles with them as they grew up and we decided we would pick which ones we want to fight and which ones really weren't worth the fight

as for the ear peircing if your son wanted it and had thought about it for awhile than I say GOOD MOM for letting him express himself
I only have girls but i do have nephews and DH has two earrings (can't wear them now cause of work) so i would have no problem with peircing a young boys ear if that was what he wanted

I wouldn't pierce my DD's when they were babies even thought MIL begged me because it had to be their choice

as for the second issue that poped up here the hair dye

I didn't dye my kids hair at 4 for two reasons

they didn't ask and I didn't think about it
would I have in her situation ?
Probably
I probably wouldn't have even thought to call the dr like she did

we started with color rinses when DD was 8 because SHE wanted them
now they both have permenent blonde streaks

It's only hair and will grow out and earrings can be removed
JMHO but there are bigger battles to deal with as they grow up

 

[drakethib]

He is 8 and has been wanting one for 2 years now but kept chickening out. We were in the mall and passed by a jewelery counter where a woman was piercing a baby's ears. I loked at hin and said "Hey look that baby got it done.Do you want one so you look handsome for your communion next month?" He said ok and I put him on the chair so he couldn't change his mind. He was scared at first but he picked out a small square diamond and after it was done, he couldn't stop looking at himself. He kept saying he loved it. It looks sooooo cute on him! I have to figure out how to download a picture so you guys can see it! If my mom was alive she would have killed me!! What do you guys on the DIS think about it?

I remeber when little boys just wanted to play with Tonka trucks