I got my son's ear pierced yesterday!

[DawnCt1]

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I work for a newspaper (well 2 to be exact) since both of the major papers in the state megred to make 1 big company. And again, you may be passing up better workers than what you are hiring because of a precieved lack of judgement, that is not in line with yours.

Again, it is not a look at me thing most days, as it is a common thing in my city...but yes I do to it when I go to smaller cities, not to be say a victim, but beacuse I personnaly think it is funny how some people react because I am not "like them". You would think I killed a family member of thiers when all reality all I do is walk past them for 2 seconds and never see them again.

You say if I don't want to be judged by this why do it?? I would say...WHY SHOULD SOMEONE JUDGE SOLELY OFF OF THIS? How about get to know someone and form your opinion from there.



You say it helps you weed out who to hire...well it does sort of the same for me like I said. If someone cannot look past this why should I goive them the time of day when they wont for me...it's a 2 way street.

The "press" is one of the more "liberal" businesses so I don't find the fact that they have employed you surprising. However if your interest was in health care or the insurance industry, you may have a hard time. While an HR representative may miss the "opportunity" to hire you and miss your talents, be assured that the country is full of talented people who can get through their day without the need to "express themselves". It isn't that you are being "judged solely" by your appearance but people tend to judge a book by its cover before they decide to pick it up and read it. That is a fact of life. If you want to put yourself "out there" in such an overt way, don't be offended when others express their distaste for it. Without judging you as a person, just from an appearance point of view, I think it looks gross and disgusting, particularly the piercings through the nasal septum, eyebrow and lip. It just appears ugly to me without even considering what kind of person would chose to do that to themselves.

 

[foolishmortal]

The "press" is one of the more "liberal" businesses so I don't find the fact that they have employed you surprising. However if your interest was in health care or the insurance industry, you may have a hard time. While an HR representative may miss the "opportunity" to hire you and miss your talents, be assured that the country is full of talented people who can get through their day without the need to "express themselves". It isn't that you are being "judged solely" by your appearance but people tend to judge a book by its cover before they decide to pick it up and read it. That is a fact of life. If you want to put yourself "out there" in such an overt way, don't be offended when others express their distaste for it. Without judging you as a person, just from an appearance point of view, I think it looks gross and disgusting, particularly the piercings through the nasal septum, eyebrow and lip. It just appears ugly to me without even considering what kind of person would chose to do that to themselves.

prior to this I was in finance for a telecommunications company, so not quite as "liberal"

And I don't get offended the least bit. again when people judge based off of looks they need to look at themsleves not the person they are looking at.

People want to know what is wrong with this country and why people cannot get along with other people. it all starts with this! You may think it looks disgusting but why should what you think be more of a standard than what I or someonelse thinks? It shouldn't. I am not here to say I am right and everyone should accept it, I am not here to say that at all, because to each thier own, but if someone wants to critize for appearance be ready to be critized for a stereotypical attitude.

 

[DawnCt1]

People want to know what is wrong with this country and why people cannot get along with other people. it all starts with this! You may think it looks disgusting but why should what you think be more of a standard than what I or someonelse thinks? It shouldn't. I am not here to say I am right and everyone should accept it, I am not here to say that at all, because to each thier own, but if someone wants to critize for appearance be ready to be critized for a stereotypical attitude.

Stereotypes exist for a reason; there is usually enough "data" to support them. Of course there are "exceptions" but that is why they are called "exceptions", they aren't "typical". Why should what I think be considered more of a standard? It doesn't have to be considered a "standard' but you would agree that most Americans do not walk around with holes in their faces so when you do something so overtly different others will notice and form an opinion. You have chosen to look the way you look and I can decide not to like it.

 

[dustysky]

This is funny, after I read the OP's post then a few pages of replies I started thinking it was a thread started simply to get the rise that it has.

And after 14 pages my opinion means NOTHING but here it is anyways.

As a parent of a teen son (14) who wants his hair to grow long I can tell you that I CHOOSE to let him do that. While we were at Disney last week the trolly came down Main Street and the old guy on it that talkes to people accualy yelled out for my son to get a hair cut.

I just laughed, no offence taken because what works for my family and my kids, is never going to work for everyone.

I just could never find a reason for people to be so fast to judge.
Now if she came on and said "my kid was bad so I am not going to feed him for a week" then hell ya step in but she didnt hurt any of you by doing what she did.
A good idea or bad it is her kid and her life.

 

[dis ms.]

I never thought I would type this sentence, but here goes:

I agree with Dawn.

When I was a manager and had occasion to interview prospective employees, I expected them to appear professional, both in demeanor and dress. To me, professional dress includes tasteful jewelry. Anything (hair, makeup, earrings, necklaces, nose rings, etc.) so garish that it's a distraction is not tasteful.

It's about putting the best "you" on display when you go for an interview. IMHO, a person walking in full of piercings is putting the piercings on display.

As far as being judged on appearance...yeah, well that's life. I'm black--and I'm sometimes prejudged on that fact alone. I don't, however, walk around with a chip on my shoulder waiting for the next racist to come along. Instead, I take great pride in showing people that I'm more than the color of my skin. If they can't get past that, it's their problem, not mine.

 

[Southern4sure]

This is funny, after I read the OP's post then a few pages of replies I started thinking it was a thread started simply to get the rise that it has.

And after 14 pages my opinion means NOTHING but here it is anyways.

As a parent of a teen son (14) who wants his hair to grow long I can tell you that I CHOOSE to let him do that. While we were at Disney last week the trolly came down Main Street and the old guy on it that talkes to people accualy yelled out for my son to get a hair cut.

I just laughed, no offence taken because what works for my family and my kids, is never going to work for everyone.

I just could never find a reason for people to be so fast to judge.
Now if she came on and said "my kid was bad so I am not going to feed him for a week" then hell ya step in but she didnt hurt any of you by doing what she did.
A good idea or bad it is her kid and her life.

My son (16) also was letting his hair grow long. I'm let him as much as I disliked it. The other day he actually came to me and said, "I need a haircut". Well that just blew me away. So off we went and we are both happy and I think he looks great!

 

[dustysky]

Also, on Dawn's note, I used to work with a girl that had really short hair. One day she comes into work with it a neon pink. My boss would have none of that and I don't blame her. The girl's job was to evaluate suicidal and psychotic clients for inpatient hospitalization. I found it, as did my boss, very unprofessional.

I think that is wrong on so many levels. WHO said it is ONLY ok to have Brown, blond, grey, and red hair .... WHO?

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Dusty,

This girl was one of the sweetest people I have ever met. That aside, her hair would hurt your eyes. Now this is just me, if I was in the ER due to a failed suicide attempt and she came to evaluate me and offer me help, I couldn't take her seriously, and I'm sure a lot of other people couldn't. She had no problem coloring her hair back to what it was before, whatever that was.

 

[dustysky]

Dusty,

This girl was one of the sweetest people I have ever met. That aside, her hair would hurt your eyes. Now this is just me, if I was in the ER due to a failed suicide attempt and she came to evaluate me and offer me help, I couldn't take her seriously, and I'm sure a lot of other people couldn't. She had no problem coloring her hair back to what it was before, whatever that was.

If I was seeing her because I had just tried to kill myself, her hair would be the least of my worries. I guess I am a little more open to the person then the shell they come in. I am an overweight short woman. If people were to judge me on my looks then I would have no friends. Maybe thats why I dont care what a person does to there skin, hair etc.

 

[foolishmortal]

Stereotypes exist for a reason; there is usually enough "data" to support them. Of course there are "exceptions" but that is why they are called "exceptions", they aren't "typical". Why should what I think be considered more of a standard? It doesn't have to be considered a "standard' but you would agree that most Americans do not walk around with holes in their faces so when you do something so overtly different others will notice and form an opinion. You have chosen to look the way you look and I can decide not to like it.

stereotypes do exsist for a reason.


for people who cannot accept someone unlike them selves and fall upon a stereotype as a reason to justify thier own ignorance.

 

[Marseeya]

Dusty,

This girl was one of the sweetest people I have ever met. That aside, her hair would hurt your eyes. Now this is just me, if I was in the ER due to a failed suicide attempt and she came to evaluate me and offer me help, I couldn't take her seriously, and I'm sure a lot of other people couldn't. She had no problem coloring her hair back to what it was before, whatever that was.

I'm with you on this. I'm as liberal as they come, but there are certain professions where there is a certain standard of dress and comportment. If I run into someone on the street who's got blue hair and piercings everywhere, I'll accept them as much as I'd accept anybody. But if I walk into a doctor's/attorney's/business/etc. office, I'm going to look at someone like that and think that they aren't taking their profession as seriously as they should. If they're going to challenge standards so blatantly, how can I trust that I'm in good hands?

I'm all for someone in other professions looking like that, though.

 

[foolishmortal]

I never thought I would type this sentence, but here goes:

I agree with Dawn.

When I was a manager and had occasion to interview prospective employees, I expected them to appear professional, both in demeanor and dress. To me, professional dress includes tasteful jewelry. Anything (hair, makeup, earrings, necklaces, nose rings, etc.) so garish that it's a distraction is not tasteful.

It's about putting the best "you" on display when you go for an interview. IMHO, a person walking in full of piercings is putting the piercings on display.

As far as being judged on appearance...yeah, well that's life. I'm black--and I'm sometimes prejudged on that fact alone. I don't, however, walk around with a chip on my shoulder waiting for the next racist to come along. Instead, I take great pride in showing people that I'm more than the color of my skin. If they can't get past that, it's their problem, not mine.

I am a minority as well...hispanic. so I can sympathize with you on that side as well.

And an interview is alot like dating...you never know the TRUE person until you are far into the relationship...either personal or business relationship. With myself you actually get me from day 1, not the "best me"..YOU GET ME!

 

[foolishmortal]

I'm with you on this. I'm as liberal as they come, but there are certain professions where there is a certain standard of dress and comportment. If I run into someone on the street who's got blue hair and piercings everywhere, I'll accept them as much as I'd accept anybody. But if I walk into a doctor's/attorney's/business/etc. office, I'm going to look at someone like that and think that they aren't taking their profession as seriously as they should. If they're going to challenge standards so blatantly, how can I trust that I'm in good hands?

I'm all for someone in other professions looking like that, though.

 

[pyrxtc]

A couple of weeks ago my DD (4) cut ALL of her beautiful long blonde hair off. And I mean ALL of it - after tidying it up she looks like she's ready for basic training. She cried and cried and was afraid that she looked like a boy and so I asked if she wanted earring and off we went. Then she was upset because her roots were really dark so we dyed them blonde - she looks quite cute now.

I'm sorry, I must ahve read wrong??? Did you say you dyed your 4 yr olds hair because SHE was upset she had dark roots?? 4 yr olds don't even know what roots are unless you were complaining about how her beautiful blonde hair was gone and now it was dark. You are kidding right????!!!!!!!!

 

[Marseeya]

I'm sorry, I must ahve read wrong??? Did you say you dyed your 4 yr olds hair because SHE was upset she had dark roots?? 4 yr olds don't even know what roots are unless you were complaining about how her beautiful blonde hair was gone and now it was dark. You are kidding right????!!!!!!!!

Is it really necessary to keep beating this dead horse? I think MsLeFever's been browbeaten quite enough.

 

[carone0318]

This has truly been an entertaining thread!

I have so many things that could say, but have learned over the years to not express them on the dis boards.

My only response/question to the OP is why couldn't you wait until after the communion, because any Catholic knows that an ear piercing is not acceptable in the Catholic church and probably wouldn't be looked at in a positive light by a priest or nun. Your choice, but I believe bad timing!

Carry on....

 

[LakeAriel]

Hi all,
yes i have to agree this is common in nyc.Many kids same age and i seen younger than this with a piercing.Even i at age 11 got my first ear done and by 18 had 3 in my left ear and 2 to the right.Remember this can be removed and the hole will close up,so if you don't like it or the kid changes his mind it can be undone.I had no choice but to do just that when i started at the FDNY academy.That was the last time i had a earing,close to 7 years ago.I have no scars and if you look at my ears you would have no idea i have them.All the holes closed up.Many kids in nyc have this is very popular.

Actually I was surprised the OP was from NYC! I never see mullets here and rarely little boys with earrings. Thank God!

 

[LakeAriel]

I never thought I would type this sentence, but here goes:

I agree with Dawn. :scared1:

When I was a manager and had occasion to interview prospective employees, I expected them to appear professional, both in demeanor and dress. To me, professional dress includes tasteful jewelry. Anything (hair, makeup, earrings, necklaces, nose rings, etc.) so garish that it's a distraction is not tasteful.

It's about putting the best "you" on display when you go for an interview. IMHO, a person walking in full of piercings is putting the piercings on display.

As far as being judged on appearance...yeah, well that's life. I'm black--and I'm sometimes prejudged on that fact alone. I don't, however, walk around with a chip on my shoulder waiting for the next racist to come along. Instead, I take great pride in showing people that I'm more than the color of my skin. If they can't get past that, it's their problem, not mine.

I do too but you can do the evil deed!

 

[VSL]

I think that is wrong on so many levels. WHO said it is ONLY ok to have Brown, blond, grey, and red hair .... WHO?

For her job: her boss.

Also, I imagine it would have been stated in her contract that she was to always maintain a professional and smart appearance - and for the vast majority of people, neon pink hair does not come under the description of 'professional and smart appearance'.

 

[sha_lyn]

I'm sorry, I must ahve read wrong??? Did you say you dyed your 4 yr olds hair because SHE was upset she had dark roots?? 4 yr olds don't even know what roots are unless you were complaining about how her beautiful blonde hair was gone and now it was dark. You are kidding right????!!!!!!!!

You are so right. There is no way a 4 yr old could actually look into a mirror and actually see that their hair is darker than it use to be. The mom never even said the DD used the term roots now did she.