i can't take it any more !

[DansBride2009]

oh my goodness. we're about having a family feud at having the wedding at disney. i'm happy with a wedding at home at the garden center, which is beautiful, and a honeymoon at disney. that would relieve a lot of stress and money, even though i do think a disney wedding would be lovely. and to be honest, it's what i really want.


my grandparents refuse to come to the wedding at all if it's at disney, and my grandpa is walking me down the aisle because my dad died a few years ago, and my other grandparents are dead.

my father in law said he was thinking of bribing me with a down payment for a condo to have the wedding here.

i don't care where the wedding is at this point. at this point i just want to elope and forget about having a wedding.

did anyone else go through this with the early stages of planning your disney wedding?

i am miserable and can't even enjoy planning my wedding because everyone is arguing about it. money is not a problem no matter where we have it, i'm very lucky and thankful that way. a lot of our family is older, so that's part of the problem. we are dealing with a lot of people between 60-80 years old who live in florida that time of year anyway.

and the groom's side of the family adores disney and they're dealing with the death of a daughter ( the groom's mom) so i don't know. we thought disney sounded like a great idea.

i know i posted something like this awhile back ... and i appreciate the advice then, is there anything else anyone can offer, similar circumstances where this mess happened but everything worked out in the end? i would really love to hear some positive stories. thanks dis brides ! you all have been soooo wonderful and helpful so far.

 

[IndyBride]

A lot of Disney Brides start the process with unhappy family members. The only thing I can think of is that people had an idea of what your wedding was going to be like and are just shocked by the reality of your wedding. I think most of the family members change their minds as time goes on and they have an opportunity to adjust. Hopefully! I hope this situation gets better for you!

 

[alissa2008]

Well, if money really isn't an issue - why not have an at-home celebration (reception, ceremony or whatever) AND a disney wedding? Or, placate your family and have an at home ceremony and a super great disneymoon!

 

[jessesgirl-080708]

I was having this exact problem! My grandparents (on both sides) have chosen not to come. Alot of his family is complaining about Disney being a "kids park" but I refuse to give up on my dreams for other people.Your wedding day is just that, your day. And if a Disney wedding is what you really want, I say go for it. My mom offered to give us 10,000$ is we would alope, but I wouldn't do it. I couldn't live the rest of my life regretting not having the wedding I had always dreamed of, or being able to have those memories. Good luck in whatever decision you make, just remember that its YOUR wedding day!! Do what makes you happy!

 

[DansBride2009]

aww, thanks everyone !! and i read that one of your grandparents wouldn't come; was that indybride? i'm awful at remembering usernames by the time i get to the posts.

and a 'kiddie' park? oh my. it is so much more than that !! i am so glad i'm not the only one, thanks so much for sharing the stories !

the groom is all for a disney wedding lol. he looked at venues here in town with me and then the venues at disney and he goes 'disney' lol.

the idea of two weddings sounds nice ... a little awkward, but nice. i'll have to think about that one.

thanks for suggestions and advice !! i will go forward with the disney wedding as planned and hopefully everyone will warm up to the idea ... i hope everyone else has good luck with planning too. thanks again !

 

[snowhite09]

You could also have a nice ceremony at home, but hold your reception at Disneyland. Conversely, you could have your ceremony at the park and a reception at home after you come back.

You could even have the wedding at home and just invite the family for a vacation to Disney after the wedding and have a nice dinner together inside the park - the castle at Disney World, or the Blue Bayou at Disneyland.

Good luck, I know you'll figure it out.

 

[newyearsbride]

Hey, I'm so sorry to hear this. Like PP said, most of us have had problems with family in one way or another. I don't have much advice, but I wanted to lend my sympathy. In the end its your wedding, and 20-50 years from now you have to make sure you can look back and not regret a single thing. You have to think about hat you would regret the least, if at all.

 

[princessblueeyzes]

I had a fight from both my side and DH's side. Hang in there. I ended up having a Disney wedding, and after all of them complaining and feuding with me, in the end they were so glad they went and we had our wedding at Disney. It's a tough choice, but at the end you will make the right decision.

 

[padisneyfour]

best wishes in the tough situation.... hang in there....sorry for your troubles!You should plan and have the wedding you and DF want.....weddings should be a time to celebrate!!!

 

[Mama of Indybride]

Check out Meryll's PJ...her Mama absolutely hates to fly, but when it came down to it, she was not going to miss her little girl's wedding!

It was never a question for my sweet Indy Bride, I would be shocked if she didn't get married at Disney!

And people may seem unwilling in the beginning, but when they experience those adult experiences Disney has to offer, I bet you have to beat them off with sticks!

Now both of us (Val and her Mama) are doing our best to convince her sweet sister/moh to get married at Disney when her time comes. And Val hasn't even gotten married yet!!

This is your day, and the only one you will have! Stand strong, and people will be so happy in the end you did.

And if the only "people" in the end is you and your DH, whose wedding is it, anyway?

 

[dakcp2001]

Our families both freaked out too! Hang in there! People will complain no matter where you have it! Even if you change your mind & do it all at home, someone will find somthing to complain about!

Do what you want to do, and enjoy it! People will come, and they will all tell you after how wonderful it was! Do not let the nay sayers ruin your day.

 

[figmentfan814]

We had a lot of people do the same thing. In the end though, the ones that had the biggest problem didn't come and we still had a fairytale wedding without them. A lot of the people that were complaining came and after the wedding came up to us and said it was the best wedding that they had ever been too. Even my MIL who wasn't really happy about the ceremony in Florida thought that everything turned out really beautiful.

We just had our at-home reception two weeks ago and I even wore my dress again for everyone who didn't make it to Florida. In the end, it's your day and if you give in to everyone's requests it will just drive you crazy If you weren't getting married at Disney they would probably find something else to bother you about- the location, the food, the time of year, etc. People always think it's their place to tell you what to do at your wedding, don't listen, just follow your heart!

 

[Lynn5700]

People are a pain in the butt anymore!!! Been there done that hade people freak out it's annoying and gets old real fast!!!!

Do what you want you won't regret it,everybody else can kiss your butt.

Sorry I know it sounds mean but I'm getting my period next week,TMI sorry everybody,and my at home reception planning is driving me nuts cause i just don't feel like having it and people are asking me like 5 billion things about it and giving me another 5 billion opinions and my head feels so stuffed because if it all...so people are just annoying me right now lol. Sorry rant over.

 

[alissa2008]

Lynn, you're a trip.

Luckily the only pain in the butt guest we've had is fFiL. DF hasn't spoken to him since he called to say he wasn't coming. I hope he decides to call him tomorrow...He's super upset.

 

[RedxPanda]

People, in general, assume the worst. They must assume we want our weddings to be on "It's a Small World"?!??


So, what I have done is shown example pictures of the locations I've picked,
Tazfoto has nice pics to show others that can't see the locations before hand. Make sure you points out: "See! Mickey isn't in every picture, it will be just like every normal wedding you've been to, just with a Disney touch."

For my fMIL and fFIL, We took them to the Boardwalk area to show them the YC Wedding Gazebo.. and once they saw that.. they were like .


Goodluck with the planning, and don't give up! If most of the older folks will be in FL anyway, I'm sure they will come to appreciate it being in the state, instead of across the country.