We live 30 miles outside of Richmond, so I understand what that's like. A couple of thoughts. If cel service is sketchy where you are (I know how that is), then you should try to be more flexible in other areas, like her bedtime.
Our older dd is only 12, but her bedtime is 10-10:15. That way she can watch a show at 9, and see the whole thing, or read or game, whatever.
Also, if you can meet her halfway on key things that are really important to her, you're paving the way for her to show the same respect to you. It sounds like she's had a hard life, through no fault of her own. Yes she needs structure, but she needs a loving home too.
Oh, and dd never eats breakfast. Drives me crazy, but you can't force someone to eat.
Our older dd is only 12, but her bedtime is 10-10:15. That way she can watch a show at 9, and see the whole thing, or read or game, whatever.
Also, if you can meet her halfway on key things that are really important to her, you're paving the way for her to show the same respect to you. It sounds like she's had a hard life, through no fault of her own. Yes she needs structure, but she needs a loving home too.
Oh, and dd never eats breakfast. Drives me crazy, but you can't force someone to eat.