How strongly do you self identify as a "mom"?

[Judy from Boise]

This question as ways occurs to me on the boards, as so many posters include some version of "mom" in their screen name. It never would have occured to me to go there.....and probably when asked to describe myself it wouldn't make my top 5 list of attributes.I love my family....but they are not what I think about when describing "me".
Just wondering how unusual this is compared to others out there........

 

[KirstenB]

I must identify strongly, because it would definitely be in my top 5. Maybe that's because our daughters arent' teenagers yet!!

 

[Tracy Savage]

Wow, really? Huh, Ive never thought that way. My son is the biggest part of my life. And I am the proudest to say I'm his Mom. I still have many good qualities but he is by far my best yet....

 

[Liberty Belle]

Very strongly. It's a huge part of who I am. I have always had a very strong maternal instinct, so maybe that's part of the reason why.

 

[ZachnElli]

Yeah, it's definitely in my top 5. My two older kids' names are my screen name here (youngest not alive yet when I joined). I can't imagine saying 5 things about myself without mentioning I'm a mom.

 

[disykat]

Very strongly. I wouldn't use the term mom to describe my attributes, but I definitely use it to describe my role in life - and it would probably be one of the first things I would say. My kids are teenagers so the mom role is slipping further down the chain, but at this point I still consider it one of my primary roles. (wife, mom, teacher, friend, etc.)

I didn't name myself on the DIS based on attributes or roles..

 

[emma'smom]

Maybe it depends on the age of your kids. My girls are 7 and 4...so they keep me very busy. I work full time in a professional position (another big part of my identity), but I would say that the bulk of my social life revolves around my family and kid's activities (when I socialize with adults--they are usually other moms).

 

[NikitaZee]

It would definitely be in my top 5 - top 3 really - although I've thought the same thing about 'mom' in so many screen names. That's not my personal preference for a screen name; I like something more individual and less family-oriented.

 

[nskjerven]

it is in my top 2, wife then mom, followed by daughter and sister, then friend, seems my relationships are the most important way I see myself these day

and for the record, it wasn't always that way

 

[stacy347]

As far as using it in my screen name, I've only put "mom" in there on one board I've been on (out of many). I'm generally stacy-something everywhere I visit, LOL.
But in my mind, "being Mom" is definitely my number one priority and my most important job, responsibility and accomplishment.

 

[amsyw]

I strongly identify myself as a mom. I don't have a "career" I work pt and I'm a FT mom, wife, cook, driver, etc!!

I never really had a strong calling to have a career. I ALWAYS had a calling to be a mom/wife. I love it. I love going to school and the kids saying... hey that's Wyatts/Gavinns mom. It makes me very proud. My kids are very good kids (so far ) so if they every turn evil I may feel differently. But right now that is my #1 of my top 5 list!! Sometimes DH has to remind me that I am other things than just "Mom" - to take time for myself.

by the way - my screen name is wy's ma backward (Wyatt's mom) its been my email and screen name since I got a computer!! I actually wish I had made a more "disney-ish" screen name... but oh well!

 

[yoopermom]

It's kind of like that ethical question about who would save from drowning, your spouse or your child? DH and I both agree that we'd save our child, rather than each other. Becoming a mom is the BEST thing I've ever done and, maybe because I was only blessed with one, I identify by it strongly.

Terri
da Yoopermom

 

[kidzmom3]

it is in my top 2, wife then mom, followed by daughter and sister, then friend, seems my relationships are the most important way I see myself these day

and for the record, it wasn't always that way

I so agree with this. I have a professional position in our company, but its really just a job. I have hobbies and activities that I enjoy, but I could live without them. But, my family small and extended are the favorite parts of my life and the best parts of my day!

 

[diznygirl]

I so agree with this. I have a professional position in our company, but its really just a job. I have hobbies and activities that I enjoy, but I could live without them. But, my family small and extended are the favorite parts of my life and the best parts of my day!

ITA. Family is the most important thing to me. And I absolutely LOVE being a Mom.

 

[tinkerbell615]

My screen name does not have "mom" in it, but being a mom is my number one priority. My children are not little any more. DD is 17 and DS is 23, but they will always be the most important part of my life. They are the reason I open my eyes in the morning. I love my DH. He is my best friend and my soulmate, but he knows my kids are #1. Although I work a full time job, it does not describe who I am.... my children do.

OP this is a really interesting thread. Thanks for posting it.

 

[mariolatry]

It's probably in my Top 3 but maybe that's because my kids are so young. It's what I do 24/7 so why wouldn't it be important to me?

 

[luvmy3]

While I have many attributes, I consider being a mother my primary and most important role in life. Someday my kids will not need me the way they do today, and I won't be the most important person in their lives anymore, but there will never be a time when they aren't mine and I don't identify myself as their mother, no matter what else I may do in the future.

 

[turkeymama]

Okay, so I do reference "mom" in my screen name. Before I had kids, I had an extremely strong urge to be a mom. In fact, I felt biologically driven to have them. I don't remember thinking about it or talking about it. So yep, I strongly self-identify as a mom. Also, it is my number 1 job......right now. They won't always need me like they do right now. Who knows, maybe I'll really strongly self-identify as a grandmother one day. I don't know, kids have always been such a big part of my life. I realize I'm lots of other things, but my kids will be mine forever and ever.

 

[turkeymama]

While I have many attributes, I consider being a mother my primary and most important role in life. Someday my kids will not need me the way they do today, and I won't be the most important person in their lives anymore, but there will never be a time when they aren't mine and I don't identify myself as their mother, no matter what else I may do in the future.

I was typing my response as you were posting yours. Funny, our answers are very similar.

 

[tinkerbell615]

While I have many attributes, I consider being a mother my primary and most important role in life. Someday my kids will not need me the way they do today, and I won't be the most important person in their lives anymore, but there will never be a time when they aren't mine and I don't identify myself as their mother, no matter what else I may do in the future.

Very well said! My thoughts exactly.