How often does your mom call you?

[mrodgers]

Never. I haven't talked to her in yearsssss!!!

I'm jealous. Didn't talk to my mother for about 3 years after she flipped out on my wife. It was the most peaceful 3 years of my life.

Now she just calls when she needs something, or to complain about never getting to see the grandkids, then in the next sentence, brag about all the free local music concerts that she goes to with her friends and all the dinner parties or summer picnics she has with her friends. If she is that hard up to see the grandkids, why doesn't she call and take them to the free local concerts or invite us in for dinner or her picnics?

 

[poohlover]

My mom calls me maybe once a year, but I call her several times a week. She is like that with everyone, she is happy to talk but won't ever call.

Glad to hear someone else's Mom is like mine. I try to call 2-3 times a week, sometimes it's only once a week. But she won't call me. My work is very flexible, so I don't have a set schedule...but I am on call pretty much 24/7. So she "doesn't want to bother me" with her calls, and she won't leave a message unless it's pretty much an emergency.

I sometime wish she would just call me. Even if she called and talked a few times a week.

She is alone now after my Dad's death a few years ago. When my Dad was sick I was calling her every day to see how it was going with him.

 

[Katy Belle]

I call my mom about once every one to two weeks. She will call me if i dont call for 3 weeks, or if its one of our Birthdays.

 

[NewCrew42]

My mom rarely calls me, but I am expected to call her 2 or 3 times per week.

 

[Fly4free]

I talk to my mom everyday, unless 1 of us is out of the country. She had a stroke in Oct. that affected her speech so now I try to engage her in longer conversations as part of her speech therapy.:good vibes

I cherish my mother so much; I can't imagine how hard it will be for me when she is gone.

 

[Cindy B]

My mom lives in Florida, and I am in the Northeast. She hardly calls me. She will however email me or strike up a Facebook chat if we haven't actually talked in about 3 or 4 weeks.
It is certainly not every day or every week. It is probably two times a month if that.

 

[luvsJack]

Talk to her every morning on my way to work and sometimes on the way home too. And I see her several times a week. She lives at the end of my driveway.

 

[tink_n_pooh]

Maybe 1-3 times a year.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

I talk to my mom at least once a day, usually more. I see her minimal 5 days a week.

She just returned from 2 months in Florida. Even being in Florida, she talked to either the kids or I everyday.

 

[Luv'sTink]

Pretty much every day, sometimes multiple times a day and we live across the street from my parents. In case anyone is curious; No, my husband does not mind at all. Sometimes I find him at my parents and I didn't know he was going.

It always amazes me how some people seem so disgusted with their parents, no one is perfect. I can tell her mind is beginning to slip so one day, if not physically, then mentally she will be gone and I will miss her.

 

[discnewbie]

Talk to her every morning on my way to work and sometimes on the way home too. And I see her several times a week. She lives at the end of my driveway.

Umm, are you my best friend? She has what sounds like a very similar arrangement. There are two houses on her large property, her parents live closest to the road. She sees her mom every day, at least once but more often 2 or 3 times a day.

For my mom -- I talk to her once a week, for an hour or two. I call my dad about 4-5 times a week.

 

[snoopy5386]

I can't believe how many people talk to their parents daily, what on earth do you all talk about that often? I just spoke to my dad today for the first time in 3 weeks? Maybe a bit longer. 20 minutes later we were all caught up.

 

[Mandychelle79]

I can't believe how many people talk to their parents daily, what on earth do you all talk about that often? I just spoke to my dad today for the first time in 3 weeks? Maybe a bit longer. 20 minutes later we were all caught up. I talk to my mom (they are divorced) every few weeks as well. I actually probably call my MIL more often that my mom, we get along much, much better. DH talks to his dad once a month or so.

We live about 3-4 hours away from our families, MIL and SFIL are pretty much the only ones willing to make the trip here, everyone else expects us to visit them, and surprise, we are closest to MIL and SFIL.

Today it was, Are you feeling better? Crap so you cant keep the kids while I go grocery shopping. Next call was Yes you can save money at the new grocery store that just opened. Next call was ok dad told me to call and check on you tonight. Last one was me complaining about my sons valentines

During the week it is typically, hey are you getting the kids off the bus on tuesday, how was work, how is grandma ( grandpa recently passed away).

But my entire family is close. It is nothing for us to all randomly show up at my grandparents house just to visit.

 

[snoopy5386]

It seems like a lot of the people who talk daily also live close by. Because we are so far away the GPs aren't really involved in the kids' lives on a day to day basis.

 

[discnewbie]

It seems like a lot of the people who talk daily also live close by. Because we are so far away the GPs aren't really involved in the kids' lives on a day to day basis.

Well, in my case with my dad (who I talk to 4-5 times a week) we live 2 hours away and try to visit each other approximately 6 times (or so) a year.

 

[luvsJack]

Umm, are you my best friend? She has what sounds like a very similar arrangement. There are two houses on her large property, her parents live closest to the road. She sees her mom every day, at least once but more often 2 or 3 times a day.

For my mom -- I talk to her once a week, for an hour or two. I call my dad about 4-5 times a week.

We love the arrangement. The original property actually belonged to my mom and dad. Mom lives closest to the road, my sister's drive way is on one side of her and mine is on the other side (we both live about 1/4 mile off the road), my sister's daughters both have houses between my sister's home and the road and my younger son and his wife are planning to build between us and the road. Thankfully, we are a pretty close family and get along well most of the time.

I can't believe how many people talk to their parents daily, what on earth do you all talk about that often? I just spoke to my dad today for the first time in 3 weeks? Maybe a bit longer. 20 minutes later we were all caught up. I talk to my mom (they are divorced) every few weeks as well. I actually probably call my MIL more often that my mom, we get along much, much better. DH talks to his dad once a month or so.

We live about 3-4 hours away from our families, MIL and SFIL are pretty much the only ones willing to make the trip here, everyone else expects us to visit them, and surprise, we are closest to MIL and SFIL.

Anything and everything! I call to check on her every morning (she lives alone and is 79). And she wants to know anything that is going on with my kids and grandkids.

In the evenings, its usually about whatever each of us are doing that night or whatever she has heard on the news that she wants me to know about (I have a habit of not watching the news). Just chit chat, but it gives me the chance to know that she is doing ok.

 

[furb & dez]

I can't believe how many people talk to their parents daily, what on earth do you all talk about that often?

I agree, I can't imagine any good reason to call someone multiple times per day to "chat", unless the people involved have some type of horrible attachment neurosis.

I mean, if you really just call to "catch up" (every few hours??), are you basically giving someone a running narrative of your day? That just smacks of someone who likes the sound of their own voice, or a pathological need for attention.

Or, really, a Twitter user.

 

[Robindianne]

She doesn't, thank God.

I call my son and DDIL all the time though.

 

[ChickieToo]

I agree, I can't imagine any good reason to call someone multiple times per day to "chat", unless the people involved have some type of horrible attachment neurosis.

I mean, if you really just call to "catch up" (every few hours??), are you basically giving someone a running narrative of your day? That just smacks of someone who likes the sound of their own voice, or a pathological need for attention.

Or, really, a Twitter user.

Well this isn't really true. My mom has passed, but when she was alive we spoke several times a day. I didn't speak to her as often when I was younger, but still several times week. After my dad passed and her health began to decline I spoke to her often and saw her about 4 times a week.
as she became more frail she felt less confident going out with friends and more burdensome so I helped get her out more and helped her with her bill paying and so forth.

I found as I got older and started my own family I understood my parents better, and really valued the things my mother had to say. Though her body was failing her mind was sharp. She couldn't really cook anymore, but she could walk me through her recipes. She was really inerested in the lives of her grandchildren, and took pride in their accomplishments, so we talked about the kids a lot. She still had a good sense of humor and could take a ribbing.

SOmetimes she called me for useless stuff, and at those times I thought she was just lonely, so I would make the time to talk to her. Soometimes I would call her because she didn't sound well when I spoke to her in the morning and I would have the urge to checkup on her. sometimes I wanted to know something that she had the answer to. We lived about 40 minutes apart and if there was a car accident on the highway that she heard about during a news break she always worried that I was involved because I would be racing back to get my DD off the bus, so she would call to check that I was safe. I was her caregiver, and our roles had become reversed, but we always had a good relationship, and I was happy to be there for her at the end.

Was it perect? No. We had an argument or two along the way, but she was always the mother and I respected that. Because I'm human, sometimes I felt some pressure, but in the end, when I watched her take her last breath after spending quite an enjoyable day with her and some other relatives in her hospital room, I have no regrets and would do it all again.

So, it is a little insultiing to say that people who speak so often have psychological issues or can't cut the cord or like to hear the sound of their own voice. I think that often times people really like one another, and have compassion for one another and make room in their lives for others who need it.

Next week she will be gone two years. I long for the days when she would call and ask if I got home safely, and we'd laugh because she was such a worrywart. Not because I am lonely--I have a very active life--or not because I have a weird attachment disorder, but because I miss my mom.

 

[jennyjinx3]

Well this isn't really true. My mom has passed, but when she was alive we spoke several times a day. I didn't speak to her as often when I was younger, but still several times week. After my dad passed and her health began to decline I spoke to her often and saw her about 4 times a week.
as she became more frail she felt less confident going out with friends and more burdensome so I helped get her out more and helped her with her bill paying and so forth.

I found as I got older and started my own family I understood my parents better, and really valued the things my mother had to say. Though her body was failing her mind was sharp. She couldn't really cook anymore, but she could walk me through her recipes. She was really inerested in the lives of her grandchildren, and took pride in their accomplishments, so we talked about the kids a lot. She still had a good sense of humor and could take a ribbing.

SOmetimes she called me for useless stuff, and at those times I thought she was just lonely, so I would make the time to talk to her. Soometimes I would call her because she didn't sound well when I spoke to her in the morning and I would have the urge to checkup on her. sometimes I wanted to know something that she had the answer to. We lived about 40 minutes apart and if there was a car accident on the highway that she heard about during a news break she always worried that I was involved because I would be racing back to get my DD off the bus, so she would call to check that I was safe. I was her caregiver, and our roles had become reversed, but we always had a good relationship, and I was happy to be there for her at the end.

Was it perect? No. We had an argument or two along the way, but she was always the mother and I respected that. Because I'm human, sometimes I felt some pressure, but in the end, when I watched her take her last breath after spending quite an enjoyable day with her and some other relatives in her hospital room, I have no regrets and would do it all again.

So, it is a little insultiing to say that people who speak so often have psychological issues or can't cut the cord or like to hear the sound of their own voice. I think that often times people really like one another, and have compassion for one another and make room in their lives for others who need it.

Next week she will be gone two years. I long for the days when she would call and ask if I got home safely, and we'd laugh because she was such a worrywart. Not because I am lonely--I have a very active life--or not because I have a weird attachment disorder, but because I miss my mom.

How very well said,