How often does your mom call you?

[LuLuO]

Maybe three times a week.

 

[Melmac]

I talk to my mom on the phone a few times a week. I also see her at least once a week, either for dinner or dessert. We live 5 minutes apart. I like it this way.

My cousin, on the other hand, talks to her mom about 5-6 times a day and sees her parents about 4-5 times a week. I always joke about why she even bothered moving out. I wouldn't even have enough to say to my parents to chat that many times. She tells her mom everything though and I screen what info gets to my parents

 

[NYEmomma]

I'm phobic of talking on the phone, but we text and/or talk on FB multiple times a day. My daughter & I go to my parent's house twice a week for dinner too (on nights that DH is at school).

DH talks to and sees his mom about twice a year... and she lives about 5 miles away from us. Perfectly fine with us though!

 

[Chelley00]

My mom never calls me. She's one of those who doesn't "want to be a bother" no matter how many times I tell her it's not! However, she texts me frequently, because she feels then I can just answer whenever. I try to make it a point to call her once every week or two.

MIL doesn't call often, but that's because we see her at least once a week if not more.

 

[kelleigh1]

Almost never. She waits for me to call her and then when I do, she tells me that I never call.

 

[MIGrandma]

Probably a couple times a week about frivolous things. She knows I hate talking on the phone, and much prefer visiting in person (which we do once or twice or more each week). We e-mail quite often too and that's my preferred mode of communication, along with Facebook, when we are not seeing each other in person. My DD is the exact same way I am, she hates talking on the phone and we just visit in person (she lives just about a quarter mile down the road) or else chat on Facebook.

I've just never been a talk-on-the-phone type person (except when I was a teenager ).

 

[wdwmom0f3]

I talk to my mother several times a day and I wouldn't have it any other way. We live an hour and a half away and we see them at least once a month.

My DH rarely calls his mom but he talks to his dad weekly.

Even when my grandmother was alive, I called her every day. I miss that.

 

[dislaney]

At least once a day, sometimes more. We don't live near each other though I wish we did.

We do try to see each other 2-3 times a year, sometimes just meeting up somewhere for a vacation.

 

[PrincesCJM]

I talk to my mom every Saturday, in the afternoon. It's part of our routine. We do talk during the week as needed - either via email or on the phone. Soon, she will be moving 3 miles from me and will be proving our childcare so I'll see her nearly everyday. My brother calls her every Sunday at either 1130am or 1230pm.

My MIL, on the other hand, calls whenever she is in the mood. It doesn't seem to matter what time of day it is - 10pm is not too late for her to call (which has to stop once the munchkin' is born). DH works a pretty consistent schedule and has for the past several years - not that she would remember that.

 

[scrapquitler]

For people that are grown and have their own homes. Just wondering what's the norm.

I see my Mom at least 1-2 times a week, I rarely speak to her om the phone unless theres some kind of an emergency, but we text one another several times a day.

If it makes a difference, we live about 30 minutes apart, and Mom is 65.

 

[spacemountainmom]

Sounds like everyone has really different experiences. My MIL only calls once every 3-4 weeks. But she's always available and willing to help if we need anything, her and DH just don't need a lot of chit chat.

My mom calls me every day sometimes several times a day. And if we don't answer the house phone, she'll call all of our cells. I really wish she'd tone it down, maybe to a couple of times a week. She doesn't seem to have a filter and if she thinks of something to tell/ask me she has to call immediately rather than just wait until we talk again.

I don't know how to talk to her about it. She's not one to take suggestions well and I'm sure her feelings will be hurt and she'll either cry or get mad, yell, and hang up on me. Lately I've just been screening and calling her back the next day. You'd think she'd take the hint! We live in the same town.

Oh man......are you me???

My mom is like that. She is finally getting the hint that she really doesn't need to talk to me that frequently, but she still acts put out about it. I try and be subtle and it has not worked real well. She complains that I don't call and we don't come over enough. I finally told her that she should be happy that she raised me to be capable enough that I don't need my parents every second. I am in my 40's incidentally.

My younger sibling is very needy and I think it annoys my parents that I am much more independent.

We've also hit a point where my dad is not very nice to my kids. He's always making comments about "rotten teenagers" and picks at them for every little thing and then acts as though my sibling's much younger kids are the greatest things since sliced bread. Why do I want to bring my kids to see you when all you do is treat them horribly and complain:??

I'm starting a new job tomorrow and will work more hours so "oh darn!" I will have less time for them.

 

[brookmey]

I usually try to call my parents once a week, and I do it when the kids are home so they can talk to the grandparents since we live in different states. Sometimes it stretches out into 2 weeks because we're busy or the kids are busy, etc.

This past week, however, we've talked everyday because my dad had knee replacement surgery and there were complications. The week before we talked 5 of the 7 days because we were planning a Disney cruise.

My MIL, however, calls about once a month, if that, and it's usually returning a call that DH made to her 2-3 weeks earlier. Then she gets upset with DH because they've gone so long without talking, as if the responsibility is all on him. The phone goes both ways!

 

[furb & dez]

I hate talking on the phone, and my mother is the same way.

She calls me on my birthday, and I call her on hers.

Oh man......are you me???

My mom is like that. She is finally getting the hint that she really doesn't need to talk to me that frequently, but she still acts put out about it. I try and be subtle and it has not worked real well. She complains that I don't call and we don't come over enough. I finally told her that she should be happy that she raised me to be capable enough that I don't need my parents every second. I am in my 40's incidentally.

My younger sibling is very needy and I think it annoys my parents that I am much more independent.

You should tell your mother this. Stop being subtle.

We've also hit a point where my dad is not very nice to my kids. He's always making comments about "rotten teenagers" and picks at them for every little thing and then acts as though my sibling's much younger kids are the greatest things since sliced bread. Why do I want to bring my kids to see you when all you do is treat them horribly and complain:??

Tell your father this. It'll be more effective if you stop seeing them and they ask why.

You can only be treated this way by your family if you allow yourself to be. You're an adult, act like one!

 

[spacemountainmom]

double post

 

[minniecarousel]

I used to tell my Mom that the phone works both ways too! She hated that some of my brothers would go months without calling her. She claimed that she didn't want to bother them - that she didn't know when was the best time to call.

I talk to my older son every week, for sure, usually several times a week - or his wife. My younger son works for the same company as my husband, so DH will let me know any updates. I kinda see what my Mom was talking about - I don't want to bother him. But I'd like to talk to him weekly. That said, I think I'll call him this afternoon.

 

[rapriebe]

Well, I'm definitely in the minority here. I talk to my mother about every 2-3 weeks; she's not a talker or listener.

 

[StephMK]

I call my mom &/or dad once a week. Sometimes they both get on the phone, depends on who's home. My mom almost never calls us because she's always afraid of catching us at a bad time. We will email if one of us has something quick to share. DH usually talks to MIL about once a week or two & I'll talk to her if I'm around.

I love talking to anyone of them but with our schedules, that amount works out about right. I would love to chat more often but it just doesn't work out. My parents are pretty active so it's also a matter of catching them at home!

 

[pyrxtc]

It used to be just about every day, multiple times a day. Now it is about every 4 days or so. She doesn't talk much anymore so it is hard to call her since she doesn't always respond to your questions and it can be very depressing. At least not talking to her you can imagine it's getting better. She does much better in person, I see her at least once every two weeks and sometimes more if I can get down there more often, she is about 90 minutes from me.

 

[hereyago]

Well she now lives with me so ...........

However, when I moved out years ago, she wouldn't call me, our dynamics are very different. I was always the "parent" in the relationship due to her personality disorder and she was never really into "me" and out doing whatever. Then when I would call her, the conversations would be all about HER.

Now, my DF totally different. He was my best friend-yes they were still together and lived in the same house. I talked to him every day a couple times a day on both of our parts.

 

[JVL1018]

My mom died 8 years ago..but prior to that I saw her at least once a week and talked on the phone multiple times a week.
I always used to joke with her because it never failed-we'd hang up and the phone would ring 15 seconds later with something she forgot to tell me. Cracked me up.
It was usually short conversations, not hour long ones or anything. I'd call her to ask her about cooking something or tell her something the kids did or she'd call me to tell me she saw something at the store she though I'd like or that she ran into our old neighbor..just little stuff like that.