How often does your mom call you?

[Rayvn]

If my mom was alive, we would probably talk every day.

Leslie

 

[dizcrazee]

If my mom was alive, we would probably talk every day.

Leslie

Many blessings and hugs to all those who have mentioned that their mom or dad is no longer here with us.

 

[cybrkitn]

My mom and I have a great mother/daughter relationship and talk to each other at least once a week. We can usually be on the phone for about an hour or so even though she only lives 2 minutes away, lol.

She'll call me to see if I want to go out with her to Walmart or where ever and I do the same when I have to go out. I'm very blessed to have a close relationship with her.

 

[Desnik]

My mother and I have a crazy relationship. So I don't call her often and can easily go a week without hearing from her. There have been times where we didn't talk for a month, she'll get mad at me for something and cut me off. Anyway, lately the norm has been about once a week to ten days. If it's been closer to ten days where she hasn't heard from me she'll call me & yell, "do you know you have a mother?" Sometimes I just don't have the energy to deal with her. I'll call her when I have to speak to her about something specific otherwise I avoid it.

My father and I rarely speak over the phone maybe once a month. He is a big fan of texting though so he does text me a couple of times a week to see how I am.

 

[Scurvy]

Well this isn't really true. My mom has passed, but when she was alive we spoke several times a day. I didn't speak to her as often when I was younger, but still several times week. After my dad passed and her health began to decline I spoke to her often and saw her about 4 times a week.
as she became more frail she felt less confident going out with friends and more burdensome so I helped get her out more and helped her with her bill paying and so forth.

I found as I got older and started my own family I understood my parents better, and really valued the things my mother had to say. Though her body was failing her mind was sharp. She couldn't really cook anymore, but she could walk me through her recipes. She was really inerested in the lives of her grandchildren, and took pride in their accomplishments, so we talked about the kids a lot. She still had a good sense of humor and could take a ribbing.

SOmetimes she called me for useless stuff, and at those times I thought she was just lonely, so I would make the time to talk to her. Soometimes I would call her because she didn't sound well when I spoke to her in the morning and I would have the urge to checkup on her. sometimes I wanted to know something that she had the answer to. We lived about 40 minutes apart and if there was a car accident on the highway that she heard about during a news break she always worried that I was involved because I would be racing back to get my DD off the bus, so she would call to check that I was safe. I was her caregiver, and our roles had become reversed, but we always had a good relationship, and I was happy to be there for her at the end.

Was it perect? No. We had an argument or two along the way, but she was always the mother and I respected that. Because I'm human, sometimes I felt some pressure, but in the end, when I watched her take her last breath after spending quite an enjoyable day with her and some other relatives in her hospital room, I have no regrets and would do it all again.

So, it is a little insultiing to say that people who speak so often have psychological issues or can't cut the cord or like to hear the sound of their own voice. I think that often times people really like one another, and have compassion for one another and make room in their lives for others who need it.

Next week she will be gone two years. I long for the days when she would call and ask if I got home safely, and we'd laugh because she was such a worrywart. Not because I am lonely--I have a very active life--or not because I have a weird attachment disorder, but because I miss my mom.

Very well said! I completely agree with the bolded.

I talk to my mom several times a day. She has Lupus and has lived alone since my father died. I like to check up on her and I know she's lonely. Of course, we talked often even before we knew she was ill and before we lost my dad. We like each other. We enjoy spending time together, and when we can't do that we like to email, text or talk on the phone.

I agree, I can't imagine any good reason to call someone multiple times per day to "chat", unless the people involved have some type of horrible attachment neurosis.

I mean, if you really just call to "catch up" (every few hours??), are you basically giving someone a running narrative of your day? That just smacks of someone who likes the sound of their own voice, or a pathological need for attention.

Or, really, a Twitter user.

I disagree. I think it is totally normal to enjoy talking to someone, and it certainly doesn't have to mean you have a horrible attachment neurosis or a pathological need for attention. Of course, I love Twitter so what do I know?! I get most of my news on there - usually long before I see it elsewhere. And I've never seen anyone posting a running narrative of their day, but of course your experience on there could be different.

 

[furb & dez]

Of course, I love Twitter so what do I know?! I get most of my news on there - usually long before I see it elsewhere.

Ah, so you prefer your news before it's actually been vetted and confirmed, I see.

 

[Scurvy]

Ah, so you prefer your news before it's actually been vetted and confirmed, I see.

Given that most of the news I've gotten on there has been from accounts run by different news stations or other reputable sources before they've posted their full stories, I'm okay with it. If you prefer to wait for full stories to break, that's a valid choice as well.

 

[ChattaAlley]

I talk to my mom about 3-4 times a day. I see her every weekend. We are really close.

 

[dngnb8]

Every other week on Saturday at 9 am.

 

[Jennasis]

I either call her or she calls me 2 or 3 times a week.

 

[ChattaAlley]

I agree, I can't imagine any good reason to call someone multiple times per day to "chat", unless the people involved have some type of horrible attachment neurosis.

I mean, if you really just call to "catch up" (every few hours??), are you basically giving someone a running narrative of your day? That just smacks of someone who likes the sound of their own voice, or a pathological need for attention.

Or, really, a Twitter user.

No HAN (horrible attachment neurosis) as you call it. I just love hearing her voice. I live alone so she will check up on me no harm

 

[marie1203]

I talk to my mom 4-5 times a week or more.

 

[furb & dez]

No HAN (horrible attachment neurosis) as you call it. I just love hearing her voice. I live alone so she will check up on me no harm

LOL I should patent "HAN".