How do you handle the "backtalk"

[Beckysc]

Have you thought about using a points system....so many points for backtalk, arguing, being disrespectful. Once she gets to a certain point, she's in time out. For something really big, she could be banned from the family...


All joking aside, good luck. I've found that being really consistant works with my kids. Also, they know how I expect them to act so it's not like they don't have a clear vision of what they are doing wrong, but sometimes, I think they can't help themselves.

 

[Minnie824]

I have a 10 yo who is our little attorney-in-training. She used to drive me out of my mind with the arguments and the back talk. I started this technique with her a few years ago, and it's been great. It has just about eliminated the yelling and the power struggles we were engaging in, and things are much happier and smoother around our house.

My DD6 is also in a talking back/yelling/fighting w/her sister mode lately. Its funny, I think she really enjoys arguing & debating. I also told her that she will be an excellent lawyer when she grows up.

I have no advice. I'm really just reading the thread to get some advice for myself! However, I am trying something new today. Every night before bed, we go over the same stuff...be nice to your sister, listen, behave, etc. So last night I told her to not behave, yell and scream as much as possible, etc. I said then you'll either 1) be listening to me or 2) behave. Confused the heck out of her, but I'm sticking to it today and she keeps laughing and asking what I'm talking about. haha. I'll keep you posted how it turns out.

 

[mickeyboat]

1-2-3- Magic is a great book. I highly recommend it. It is available in the self-help section of your local bookstore, as well.

You are not alone Kerri - I have DD7 and DD8, and age 6 is when that stuff started happening around my house too. I can't say I have mastered handling it, and often find myself pretty frustrated, especially with my 7 year old.

Good luck.

Denae

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

Have you tried the naughty spot?

 

[LadyTrampScamp&Angel]

I also agree in picking your battles, not everything is worth fighting over.

However, my kids need to be respectful with me and I consider the backtalk disrespectful so something I do is -

When they act disrespectfully about something and get me irritated I start saying things like "you know, I now don't feel motivated by your behavior to take you shopping (or let you have a friend over, whatever is going on) tonight. When I feel respected or appreciated, maybe we'll do something like that." That always changes DD's (7) attitude real fast!

Good luck.

 

[HollyJoy]

You have to be consistent and follow through.. she'll learn really quickly that you mean what you say! Good luck!