Hello friends. Well, my DH and I talked to the principal yesterday. This whole time the school nurse and secretary (again don't know why she is involved at all!
) said they were speaking to him about this and he said my DS had to eat..blah blah..After talking to him, it seemed he had no idea what I was talking about!
He has been gone quite a bit due to Chemotherapy. I had told the Superindant about the vomit issue and been talking with the school nurse about the lunch issue. We explained everything to the principal. Things could not have went better. He had no idea what had taken place and he seemed visibly upset by this. He apologized for their "grave mistakes" and said the year has not gotten off to a good start for us. He asked what we wanted.
We told him 1) My DS's asthma plan should NEVER be ignored. He needs to be monitored and given his inhaler and then call me. This is the biggest #1 issue - his medical well-being. 2) DS should be able to eat what he wants and then be able to leave the lunchroom without the lunch ladies raiding his lunch bag and telling him to eat more to go to recess. I provided the Dr. note for this. The principal said "Done". and 3) DS will never again be told to clean up his vomit.
We told him that we found it incredible that the school nurse and secretary have been battling me about this for an entire week. Pulling him out of class (he didn't know this either), and phoning me almost daily that DS needs to follow the rules. All the while NUMEROUS health codes and moral codes were broken the day he vomitted and his asthma was ignored - he was told to go clean instead of being monitored and given his meds.
The principal seemed to be upset by hearing all this. He said "done" with lunch and acted like it was no big deal...like we thought the whole time. This principal has helped us before with DS (trying to keep windows closed as long as possible due to allergies, ect.) I truly feel DS's best interests are in his heart (as are the other kiddos). Like I said, the principal has been gone ALOT due to chemo. I honestly don't think they had told him a thing about the lunch and I know they didn't tell him about the vomit as he told me they did not. I went into the office today to give him another Dr.'s note for DS's file and the secretary would not even look at me, so it seems that maybe things were already said to them from the principal.
I hope I didn't lose anybody here with my rambling! I also hope I didn't forget anything. I felt better leaving that meeting. I felt that he cared and was going to help DS. I threw in the conversation about the childhood obesity rate (about eating all the lunch), so maybe I have helped other kiddos as well. He seemed to not know too much about how the lunch room is ran and I encouraged him to sit in the boot camp, I mean lunch room, and see how things are ran. I also told him that DS's Dr. (who I talked with again Friday) was so upset about things, she wrote a note for DS to eat at home everyday until they change their policies. He said he didn't want DS to have to do that and that we can work this out.
If I think of anything I forgot, I will add it. Thank you all for your support and your ears. It is so nice talking to other parents who listen, sympathize, encourage and support me!
Thanks for your comments of encouragement and ideas of what to do and say. I hope nothing like this happens to any of your kiddos. If anyone ever needs my ears and support, I am always here.
Our school would be very lucky to have such fine people attending and teaching at our school.
for you mama, i wouldn't even know what to do, i don't even have kids (yet) but i know i would be completely b.s. if this was happening in my kids school.
I would lose it if my child was treated in the ways you described. If I hadn't worked so much as a sub at DD's school I would be calling right now to check on lunch policies b/c that is the most ludicrous thing I've ever heard! I thought the clean plate club being a bad thing was common knowledge by now! Also the sheer horror of telling an elementary schooler to clean up their own vomit! I can't imagine, I have serious issues w/ that and I would have broken down had I been that child. Who would make a child that age ever clean up after themselves like that! If DD or DS gets sick one of us calms her down and makes her comfortable while the other parent cleans up if we are both home, if it's just me I do both. A child shouldn't have to clean up something like that when they are feeling fine much less when they aren't feeling great. I physically wouldn't have been able to do it and am amazed at your son's strength and dignity to be able to do so. 
