Healthy Living from the INSIDE OUT - May 2016 WISH Challenge

And this is one thing I truly love about this group here. We come from all different backgrounds, but I have only ever seen support for each other, never anyone being judgmental of the other person.

I have only been in the group for about 2 months and this is what I love about the group. Even though it is about a health living (or getting there), we support each in other much more then that.
 
I won't reply to everyone but I am sending all HUGS to you all.. I am a mother and my sister in laws are now all becoming first time mothers (all in their early to mid 30's) and they have all had many struggles getting to this point and I have done what I hope is supportive to them by just listening.. I am sorry some people especially so called friends have no empathy and are so judgmental.... Thank you for being brave enough to share your stories.. HUG HUG HUG HUG !!

Completely off topic here but I am sure I am being judged that my daughter won't be moving back in with me even though I now have will have (fingers crossed) a 3 bedroom place, the third bedroom is like 7x8 after you take in account for the closet, good for a toddler but not a 22 yr old her boyfriend and a dog! I'm tough so whatever, you have nothing better to do them put me down to make yourself feel good - you'll get yours, just move along!!! eeks..

Happy Friday everyone, I am on vacation next week WHOO HOO (starting to pack up!) so when I come back on 5/16 there is likely to 10 pages or more for me to catch up on but I will do my best to read along then just jump back in!

Take care and see you soon! Michelle
 
First say, I just wanted to say thank you for the concern and support. I'm physically OK as is all my family. I'm going to go way off topic for a moment and give the shortest possible version of what happened because I'm still just raw and I can't seem to either process it or let it go. I'm also basically living off ice cream right now so maybe it is sort of on topic.

I don't much believe in warnings but I know that infertility is a subject that gets a lot of people. If you are one of them, don't read the next paragraph. There are more appropriate forums for this but I'm not comfortable there anymore, I am comfortable here, and I need to unload. I'll pick up with some woohoos a little further down the page.

I've think I've said in the past a few times that DH and I spent a good chunk of the past years struggling with infertility. After a few miscarriages and two failed adoptions, I hit bottom a few years ago and after much soul searching (and therapy) decided it was time to give up that particular dream. Financially, medically, emotionally, it was just time to accept that a baby wasn't in my cards and the quest to have one was ruining my marriage and destroying me. It still saddens me but I'm mostly comfortable with the decision.

One of my oldest and dearest friends told me yesterday my share of some baby gifts for some relatively casual acquaintances would be several hundred dollars. I'm good with baby gifts, I like babies, and I like the women involved although I don't know them well. I did not, however, want to spend nearly that amount of money and I expressed some shock at my friend's decision to buy a whole bunch of designer baby duds and then present me with half the bill. My friend basically said that what goes around comes around and if I'd had a baby I would have gotten nice gifts too. I just sort of stared at her. She is not unaware of my history and dealt with the afterma of a lot of it. She then continued that I clearly didn't really want to be a mother because if I did, I would have never just given up. At that point I turned around and walked out.

Later that afternoon she sent me a text that wasn't an apology but did say that she was sorry that she had made me feel bad. Unfortunately she continued. Apparently I'm also not qualified to be a mother. As a mother of three, she would do anything for her kids. And since I'm not willing to do whatever it takes to have a baby, I wouldn't have what it takes to be a mother. At that point, I sent her a return text saying that she had crossed a line I didn't think it was possible to recover from and blocked her from basically all forms of contact.

You know what? Writing this all out sort of helped. Who needs enemies when you've got friends like that? It also occurs to me I'm not really looking for advice. Or even sympathy at this point. Maybe I'm flat wrong and she is absolutely right. It doesn't really matter. I just need it out of my head and into some place else. I'm just sorry that it has to be all of you.

Returning to more positive topics now.



Most of my woohoos this week are Disney trip related but they still count! In the last 7 days:
  • I successfully zipped myself into a gorgeous dress for my V&A dinner in spite of 3 days of Disney snacks, heat, humidity, and IV fluids;
  • I ate at Victoria and Albert's;
  • I met Joy;
  • I met Sadness;
  • I discovered the macaron ice cream sandwich;
  • I hugged Chewbacca which basically means I hugged Prince Harry by association;
  • I've lost four pounds since my post-trip weigh-in on Sunday;
  • My poor old skin and bones cat gained 1/4 of a pound; and
  • My mosquito bites healed!



I'm not particularly good at weight loss. Still too distracted by shiny objects.... But I do know that I feel a lot better when I eat lots of fruits, vegetables, and lean proteins. Too few nutrients leave me puffy, in pain, and sluggish. I was not a model of great eating during this past trip (and I didn't try to be) but I did notice that I've changed. I've never been a member of the clean plate club but I noticed that I've gotten really good at stopping when I've had enough, even if it is something I'm really enjoying. I've also almost completely stopped eating things I don't like just because they are there. I only like French fries when they are prepared by an establishment represented by a pair of Golden Arches. I didn't eat any French fries that appeared on my plate. When the bread and honey at the Skipper's Canteen turned out to be cold and a little dry, I stopped eating it. All of this is a long way of saying that I think I would keep up my healthy habits even if I'm destined to be at this weight forever. At the same time, I fully admit that it may not be true. It helps that I really like fruit and vegetables. But I also really like bread and cheese. The prospect of smaller clothes makes me pass up bread and cheese. I don't know how good those limits would be if I didn't have hope.

Lastly, there are some awesome posts the last few days! I have read them all but haven't done any commenting. I need sleep now and may not ever comment (although I will try again tomorrow). But I'm still in love with the truths in all of them.

@DisPup75 I am so sorry this "friend" was so awful to you. Having dealt with infertility for years I have experienced my share of insensitive people, but this person is by far the worst "friend" I have heard of. Not only did she show no sympathy for your battle and the hard choice you had to make, she made increasingly hurtful judgements of your decision. I am proud of you for walking away and closing the door to further hurt from this person. You owe her no time nor explanation for the decision.

I am glad you did have a fun list of WooHoos to celebrate, and I hope you can concentrate on those in the coming days.

Rough day for me today. I don't want to go into detail, but basically, I need to remember 2 things:
1) Most people don't find me funny (not sure why, because I really am very funny sometimes), and
2) If you have an unpopular opinion, in some situations (but definitely not all), it's just easier to keep it to yourself.
These are both things I understand but seem to have forgotten, leading to a lot of unnecessary drama. Whatever, tomorrow is a new day, and my goal for the next week is to avoid most of the people involved in the drama (shouldn't be too hard), so hopefully that will help.

Of course, I had a donut for snack today and will probably have another one for breakfast tomorrow ... but I'm trying to balance it out by being good the rest of the day, so I'm allowing myself the treat. A one or two donuts won't kill me. For me, balance is definitely the key.

Have a great night/morning, everyone!

It stinks you get caught up in drama for sharing your opinion. I think it has become a hard world to have civil discussions in these days. It seems most people are unwilling to truly listen to others, and instead wait for them to stop talking while thinking how to tell them they are wrong. I can be in a social situation and feel my old therapist hat come on. I just want to tell everyone to stop and actually listen to each other. People are so quick to judge and want to deliver a crushing blow to dispute something they have an opinion on, so they don't hear the other person they sit their formulating a rebuttal. Sooo reminds me of my couples therapy days.


Corral D is go - so so so so happy that I'm in the middle of the pack for the 10K.

Getting there early to line up so I'm not towards the back of the pack. Little more than a day to go. I'll post the flat runner tomorrow evening of what I'm wearing.

This is fantastic news! So excited for you. I checked your course and while its not the same as Avengers (that was Anaheim, CA, DL, Finish) it seems like very similar park time with a different tour de Anaheim portion:) I am very jealous! Have a great time:)

@Dr Gunnie not sure I will make it back on today, so I just wanted to say good luck to you tomorrow! Try not to get caught up in the adrenaline at the start and go out too fast. Run your race knowing others will start too fast and you'll pass them before the finish:) You are going to do great!
 

First say, I just wanted to say thank you for the concern and support. I'm physically OK as is all my family. I'm going to go way off topic for a moment and give the shortest possible version of what happened because I'm still just raw and I can't seem to either process it or let it go. I'm also basically living off ice cream right now so maybe it is sort of on topic.

I don't much believe in warnings but I know that infertility is a subject that gets a lot of people. If you are one of them, don't read the next paragraph. There are more appropriate forums for this but I'm not comfortable there anymore, I am comfortable here, and I need to unload. I'll pick up with some woohoos a little further down the page.

I've think I've said in the past a few times that DH and I spent a good chunk of the past years struggling with infertility. After a few miscarriages and two failed adoptions, I hit bottom a few years ago and after much soul searching (and therapy) decided it was time to give up that particular dream. Financially, medically, emotionally, it was just time to accept that a baby wasn't in my cards and the quest to have one was ruining my marriage and destroying me. It still saddens me but I'm mostly comfortable with the decision.

One of my oldest and dearest friends told me yesterday my share of some baby gifts for some relatively casual acquaintances would be several hundred dollars. I'm good with baby gifts, I like babies, and I like the women involved although I don't know them well. I did not, however, want to spend nearly that amount of money and I expressed some shock at my friend's decision to buy a whole bunch of designer baby duds and then present me with half the bill. My friend basically said that what goes around comes around and if I'd had a baby I would have gotten nice gifts too. I just sort of stared at her. She is not unaware of my history and dealt with the afterma of a lot of it. She then continued that I clearly didn't really want to be a mother because if I did, I would have never just given up. At that point I turned around and walked out.

Later that afternoon she sent me a text that wasn't an apology but did say that she was sorry that she had made me feel bad. Unfortunately she continued. Apparently I'm also not qualified to be a mother. As a mother of three, she would do anything for her kids. And since I'm not willing to do whatever it takes to have a baby, I wouldn't have what it takes to be a mother. At that point, I sent her a return text saying that she had crossed a line I didn't think it was possible to recover from and blocked her from basically all forms of contact.

You know what? Writing this all out sort of helped. Who needs enemies when you've got friends like that? It also occurs to me I'm not really looking for advice. Or even sympathy at this point. Maybe I'm flat wrong and she is absolutely right. It doesn't really matter. I just need it out of my head and into some place else. I'm just sorry that it has to be all of you.

Returning to more positive topics now.

Sorry to hear this. Pretty crazy to make the connection she was trying to make... she's so wrong!

Corral D is go - so so so so happy that I'm in the middle of the pack for the 10K.

Getting there early to line up so I'm not towards the back of the pack. Little more than a day to go. I'll post the flat runner tomorrow evening of what I'm wearing.

Congrats! Kick some @ss tomorrow!

Guys, I hope it's ok to share links to things I read with you that I find motivational. I have no connection to the authors other then having read his books and find them good (in this case). It's in relation to the Biggest Loser posts and he also send an email to his subscribers saying he is disappointed of the negativity

http://www.burnthefatblog.com/burn-it-off-and-keep-it-off-10-keys-to-lifelong-maintenance.php


It's little long but worth a read

some of quotes

1. Maintainers have a plan for transitioning into maintenance phase

The worst thing you can do at the time you reach your weight goal is to abruptly end a diet and make sudden changes to totally different foods or a dramatically different quantity of food. The stricter your diet has been, the more important it is to include a gradual transition plan to take you from your caloric deficit level to your new maintenance level. If your calorie reduction and food restrictions were conservative, you won’t need much of a transition period; you should be able to safely bring your calories right up to maintenance without a problem.

A transition phase might take place over the course of a week or two, or it might stretch out as long as three to four weeks or more if your diet was very restrictive and know you are prone to sudden weight gain. Your objective is to slowly establish energy balance so your weight stabilizes. As you bring your calories back up to maintenance, use the weekly feedback method and continue to monitor your weight and body composition.

Remember that body weight is not the same as body fat, so don’t be alarmed if there is a small weight gain, provided your body fat percentage does not increase significantly. Sometimes you’ll gain two to three pounds as you raise calories back to maintenance (especially carb calories), but it’s usually lean tissue, water and muscle glycogen, especially if you had reduced your carbs during the fat loss phase. When your weight is stable and you’re neither gaining or losing week-to-week, you know you’re in energy balance and you’ve officially entered the maintenance phase, or if you prefer, the “lifestyle phase.”

7. Maintainers follow the 7 lifestyle eating habits

The eating habits that help to keep the weight off are almost identical to the nutrition habits that take the fat off. However, in virtually all of the long term studies about weight maintenance, 7 habits in particular show up at the top of the list over and over again.

Successful maintainers:

- Eat at least five fruits and vegetables per day. You can never hear this often enough: Eat more fruits and vegetables. They’re great for burning the fat off, great for keeping the fat off.

-Eat a high fiber diet. Successful maintainers report a high fiber intake from their high fruit and vegetable intake as well as from other natural starchy carb and whole grain sources such as beans, oats, legumes, brown rice, sweet potatoes, barley and so on.

-Eat breakfast every day. It’s no surprise that maintainers are breakfast eaters because strong correlations have been found between skipping breakfast and overeating or bingeing later in the day.

-Eat at fast food restaurants two or fewer times per week. A report on dietary practices and dining out behavior published by the Center for Disease Control found that adults who ate no more than two times per week at fast food restaurants were more successful at maintenance.

-Eat less dietary fat. Most maintainers report eating between 20% and 30% of their total calories from fat, significantly less than the national average of 35%. It’s important to consume enough of the healthy fats, but maintainers are aware that high fat foods are high calorie foods so quantities are controlled.

-Eat consciously. Long term maintainers are not mindless eaters. Even though healthy eating behaviors become habitual after years of repetition, successful maintainers are always vigilant and aware.

-Eat the same healthy foods all year round. Maintainers eat a wide variety of foods, but they are consistent all year round. There’s no dramatic difference between the foods eaten for maintenance because no weird or different foods are eaten for fat loss. To hold their weight steady, maintainers simply eat a little less of the same healthy foods during the fat loss phrase.

3. Maintainers continue diligent self-monitoring

Research has proven over and over again that people who monitor their progress have a higher chance of succeeding at reaching their body fat goals. What clinches the deal is that self-monitoring of body weight and other measures of progress increases your chances for successful maintenance as well.

Among maintainers, the most five common self-monitoring methods include:

• tracking body weight

• tracking calories

• planning meals

• tracking dietary fat intake

• measuring the amount of food

I find it both ironic and scary that all five of these methods are among the behaviors that both weight loss “professionals” and dieters rally against! “(Throw away your scale, don’t count calories,” etc etc).

Among the NWCR maintainers who lost 65 pounds or more and kept if off for at least 5 years, 75% of them reported weighing themselves at least once a week. Many weighed themselves daily. Once you hit your target weight, don’t put that scale away just yet! Weighing yourself not only helps you take the weight off, it helps you keep it off.

Some really good info - thanks for sharing. I know I have some time before I get to my goal weight, but it's probably something that I should be thinking about - positive thoughts!!!!

@Dr Gunnie not sure I will make it back on today, so I just wanted to say good luck to you tomorrow! Try not to get caught up in the adrenaline at the start and go out too fast. Run your race knowing others will start too fast and you'll pass them before the finish:) You are going to do great!

Thank you! I'll try to take some pics to share after!
 
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QOTD - May 6

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Let's talk about the dinner table! What healthy and delicious meals (whether IN or OUT) do you have planned for the weekend?

I haven't thought that far yet! I am going the dentist tomorrow and will meet my family after but we plan to visit a restaurant that provides calorie information. Sunday lunch with my book club - I love the chicken & avocado salad they serve at that location so it won't be an issue

Breakfast is always Greek yogurts with either some berries or banana

It's getting warmer, isn't it? I would imagine dinners will be salad & chicken or salmon or some form of courgette noodles stir fry.

The guys are having pizza tonight, omelette based pizza for me!
 
QOTD - May 6

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Let's talk about the dinner table! What healthy and delicious meals (whether IN or OUT) do you have planned for the weekend?

Pretty packed agenda for us:

Going out tonight to a local Italian place to get my carbs and then going over to our friends house for an adoption party. Our friends adopted a child from Hong Kong who has cerebral palsy. It was a long process and it's finally official, so we will be celebrating. I know they will have a lot of food there, so hopefully dinner before will help me lay off the goodies. I'm going to try and be beer free tonight with the race tomorrow... I said try.

Tomorrow night my parents are hosting a Kentucky Derby party and we are having beef tenderloin and lots of good veggies. My doctor will actually be there and she hasn't seen me since I've lost weight, so that should be fun. She's so great - love her.

Not sure what we are doing Sunday for Mother’s Day. The wives will make that call probably tonight. We normally don't go out on Mother's Day because most places are crowded. I'm sure the men will be grilling up something.
 
I find buffets easy as you can load your first plate with veggies/fruit. If you go for second plate focus on protein and tiny bit of something you fancy. But mainly I don't try to try everything there.
That's actually a really great strategy. I am totally going to use this. First plate - fruit and veggies only. IF (and only if) I am not satisfied, then go back for something else. Thanks!
 
QOTD - May 6

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Let's talk about the dinner table! What healthy and delicious meals (whether IN or OUT) do you have planned for the weekend?
Oh boy, with Mother's Day weekend, it will not be the healthiest of eating weekends. Tomorrow morning - which is my free day - I will be up bright and early to support the Kiwanis club (if you haven't heard of it, they are a service organization, my daughter participates in the junior high version called Builders Club) at their annual pancake breakfast. I will restrain myself (even though I love pancakes; I'll have one-- ok maybe 2). No plans for lunch - may skip it if I'm still full from breakfast. Dinner is my mother-in-law's choice because we are seeing her for Mother's Day tomorrow. Lou Malnati's - uggh, talk about unhealthy. Perhaps a salad as a starter to fill me up before this:2016-05-06.jpg

On Sunday, it's time for me to see my own mother: I will be headed to her house to give her my annual gift. Every year I purchase and plant all her outdoor annual flowers - she loves it! So, a little bit of exercise for me with the bending and the digging and the planting.

Then we will head out for an early dinner to a place called Cooper's Hawk, which is a restaurant and winery. I will be refraining from any wine, and I've already looked at the menu and will be having:
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I think if I get the dressing on the side and skip the bread basket, this will be a great option. Protein to keep me full, fruit and healthy fats as a bonus. Sounds delicious to me!

I would also like to post a little Friday woo-hoo. This is not my official weigh in for the weekend - that will come tomorrow, but when I woke up this morning - there was a "1" as the first number on the scale. First time in 13 years! Who would think someone would be so excited to see 199.7 on the scale?! But I was (am)! Once I shower, I will be taking a picture of myself to memorialize this day and this weight. Put it in my "progress" folder on my phone. Happy Friday everyone!
 
hen we will head out for an early dinner to a place called Cooper's Hawk, which is a restaurant and winery. I will be refraining from any wine, and I've already looked at the menu and will be having:
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I think if I get the dressing on the side and skip the bread basket, this will be a great option. Protein to keep me full, fruit and healthy fats as a bonus. Sounds delicious to me!

I would also like to post a little Friday woo-hoo. This is not my official weigh in for the weekend - that will come tomorrow, but when I woke up this morning - there was a "1" as the first number on the scale. First time in 13 years! Who would think someone would be so excited to see 199.7 on the scale?! But I was (am)! Once I shower, I will be taking a picture of myself to memorialize this day and this weight. Put it in my "progress" folder on my phone. Happy Friday everyone!

We go to Cooper's Hawk often - they have a lot of good "life balance" options. Good spot for watching weight. I love their Life Balance Grilled Tenderloin Medallions. The kale is $$$$.
 
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First say, I just wanted to say thank you for the concern and support. I'm physically OK as is all my family. I'm going to go way off topic for a moment and give the shortest possible version of what happened because I'm still just raw and I can't seem to either process it or let it go. I'm also basically living off ice cream right now so maybe it is sort of on topic.

I don't much believe in warnings but I know that infertility is a subject that gets a lot of people. If you are one of them, don't read the next paragraph. There are more appropriate forums for this but I'm not comfortable there anymore, I am comfortable here, and I need to unload. I'll pick up with some woohoos a little further down the page.

I've think I've said in the past a few times that DH and I spent a good chunk of the past years struggling with infertility. After a few miscarriages and two failed adoptions, I hit bottom a few years ago and after much soul searching (and therapy) decided it was time to give up that particular dream. Financially, medically, emotionally, it was just time to accept that a baby wasn't in my cards and the quest to have one was ruining my marriage and destroying me. It still saddens me but I'm mostly comfortable with the decision.

One of my oldest and dearest friends told me yesterday my share of some baby gifts for some relatively casual acquaintances would be several hundred dollars. I'm good with baby gifts, I like babies, and I like the women involved although I don't know them well. I did not, however, want to spend nearly that amount of money and I expressed some shock at my friend's decision to buy a whole bunch of designer baby duds and then present me with half the bill. My friend basically said that what goes around comes around and if I'd had a baby I would have gotten nice gifts too. I just sort of stared at her. She is not unaware of my history and dealt with the afterma of a lot of it. She then continued that I clearly didn't really want to be a mother because if I did, I would have never just given up. At that point I turned around and walked out.

Later that afternoon she sent me a text that wasn't an apology but did say that she was sorry that she had made me feel bad. Unfortunately she continued. Apparently I'm also not qualified to be a mother. As a mother of three, she would do anything for her kids. And since I'm not willing to do whatever it takes to have a baby, I wouldn't have what it takes to be a mother. At that point, I sent her a return text saying that she had crossed a line I didn't think it was possible to recover from and blocked her from basically all forms of contact.

You know what? Writing this all out sort of helped. Who needs enemies when you've got friends like that? It also occurs to me I'm not really looking for advice. Or even sympathy at this point. Maybe I'm flat wrong and she is absolutely right. It doesn't really matter. I just need it out of my head and into some place else. I'm just sorry that it has to be all of you.

Returning to more positive topics now.



Most of my woohoos this week are Disney trip related but they still count! In the last 7 days:
  • I successfully zipped myself into a gorgeous dress for my V&A dinner in spite of 3 days of Disney snacks, heat, humidity, and IV fluids;
  • I ate at Victoria and Albert's;
  • I met Joy;
  • I met Sadness;
  • I discovered the macaron ice cream sandwich;
  • I hugged Chewbacca which basically means I hugged Prince Harry by association;
  • I've lost four pounds since my post-trip weigh-in on Sunday;
  • My poor old skin and bones cat gained 1/4 of a pound; and
  • My mosquito bites healed!



I'm not particularly good at weight loss. Still too distracted by shiny objects.... But I do know that I feel a lot better when I eat lots of fruits, vegetables, and lean proteins. Too few nutrients leave me puffy, in pain, and sluggish. I was not a model of great eating during this past trip (and I didn't try to be) but I did notice that I've changed. I've never been a member of the clean plate club but I noticed that I've gotten really good at stopping when I've had enough, even if it is something I'm really enjoying. I've also almost completely stopped eating things I don't like just because they are there. I only like French fries when they are prepared by an establishment represented by a pair of Golden Arches. I didn't eat any French fries that appeared on my plate. When the bread and honey at the Skipper's Canteen turned out to be cold and a little dry, I stopped eating it. All of this is a long way of saying that I think I would keep up my healthy habits even if I'm destined to be at this weight forever. At the same time, I fully admit that it may not be true. It helps that I really like fruit and vegetables. But I also really like bread and cheese. The prospect of smaller clothes makes me pass up bread and cheese. I don't know how good those limits would be if I didn't have hope.

Lastly, there are some awesome posts the last few days! I have read them all but haven't done any commenting. I need sleep now and may not ever comment (although I will try again tomorrow). But I'm still in love with the truths in all of them.

Oh DisPup... Please know that shaming like that has nothing to do with you and is only about the person doing the shaming, and how they feel about themselves and their own life.
 
QOTD - May 6

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Let's talk about the dinner table! What healthy and delicious meals (whether IN or OUT) do you have planned for the weekend?

There's not much healthy and delicious going on this weekend - we're seeing Captain America tomorrow night and splurging with a box of candy each since we are running the 10K tomorrow. Today's adventure to Disneyland will involve a Mickey waffle and some pasta for dinner to carb up for the race.

Been doing really good this week on hitting my calorie count. Will probably weigh in on Monday or Tuesday as a spot check.
 
We got to Cooper's Hawk often - they have a lot of good "life balance" options. Good spot for watching weight. I love their Life Balance Grilled Tenderloin Medallions. The kale is $$$$.
Oh my goodness - I didn't even scroll that far down the menu - I stopped when I saw lunch portions - those are all good choices - thanks for bringing it to my attention! Maybe I'll choose something from that menu! Thanks!
 
I think I did my interesting weekend eating already today for lunch! Since yesterday was a holiday, work was really slow today and I jumped at the opportunity to leave at lunch time already (I don't have set work hours, I just need to accomplish getting my work load done). I went into town and thought I should splurge on a nice lunch. I was thinking of sushi, but as much as I love sushi, it still has so much rice and therefore is not really the best option. So, I came by a new place that has burritos, bowls and salads. This kind of food is really uncommon here in Germany. I investigated and ended up with a fantastic salad with lean pork, beans, tomatoes, avocado, sautéed peppers and a very light lime juice vinaigrette dressing. It was so delicious!! And so different from what I normally have. Perfect!

Now I am most likely to sit down tonight to do some meal planing for the weekend. I realized that I haven't had chicken in ages and I think I will have some grilled chicken with couscous. And I should make use of that falafel mix that has been standing around for quite some while and make some of those, most likely with some whole wheat pita and cucumber salad. I guess answering the QOTD already gave me some meal planning ideas, perfect!
 
QOTD - May 6

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Let's talk about the dinner table! What healthy and delicious meals (whether IN or OUT) do you have planned for the weekend?

I have nothing planned right now for dinner for the weekend. I am sure we will go to our favorite restaurant Fatheads one night. Sunday I do usually make a dinner but I don't usually plan that until I make a shopping list on Saturday.
 
Well I forgot it was Mother's day this weekend despite my kids telling all week. My son is trying to get me to stay in bed all day. Still not sure what they have planned or if we will go to my mom's. My husbands mom is a little too far away from us and a really busy schedule for us to meet up.

Check in - I lost .6 pounds this week. I was hoping for more but just happy the number went down. Next week I should be able to get all my workouts in.
 
First say, I just wanted to say thank you for the concern and support. I'm physically OK as is all my family. I'm going to go way off topic for a moment and give the shortest possible version of what happened because I'm still just raw and I can't seem to either process it or let it go. I'm also basically living off ice cream right now so maybe it is sort of on topic.

I don't much believe in warnings but I know that infertility is a subject that gets a lot of people. If you are one of them, don't read the next paragraph. There are more appropriate forums for this but I'm not comfortable there anymore, I am comfortable here, and I need to unload. I'll pick up with some woohoos a little further down the page.

I've think I've said in the past a few times that DH and I spent a good chunk of the past years struggling with infertility. After a few miscarriages and two failed adoptions, I hit bottom a few years ago and after much soul searching (and therapy) decided it was time to give up that particular dream. Financially, medically, emotionally, it was just time to accept that a baby wasn't in my cards and the quest to have one was ruining my marriage and destroying me. It still saddens me but I'm mostly comfortable with the decision.

One of my oldest and dearest friends told me yesterday my share of some baby gifts for some relatively casual acquaintances would be several hundred dollars. I'm good with baby gifts, I like babies, and I like the women involved although I don't know them well. I did not, however, want to spend nearly that amount of money and I expressed some shock at my friend's decision to buy a whole bunch of designer baby duds and then present me with half the bill. My friend basically said that what goes around comes around and if I'd had a baby I would have gotten nice gifts too. I just sort of stared at her. She is not unaware of my history and dealt with the afterma of a lot of it. She then continued that I clearly didn't really want to be a mother because if I did, I would have never just given up. At that point I turned around and walked out.

Later that afternoon she sent me a text that wasn't an apology but did say that she was sorry that she had made me feel bad. Unfortunately she continued. Apparently I'm also not qualified to be a mother. As a mother of three, she would do anything for her kids. And since I'm not willing to do whatever it takes to have a baby, I wouldn't have what it takes to be a mother. At that point, I sent her a return text saying that she had crossed a line I didn't think it was possible to recover from and blocked her from basically all forms of contact.

You know what? Writing this all out sort of helped. Who needs enemies when you've got friends like that? It also occurs to me I'm not really looking for advice. Or even sympathy at this point. Maybe I'm flat wrong and she is absolutely right. It doesn't really matter. I just need it out of my head and into some place else. I'm just sorry that it has to be all of you.

Returning to more positive topics now.



Most of my woohoos this week are Disney trip related but they still count! In the last 7 days:
  • I successfully zipped myself into a gorgeous dress for my V&A dinner in spite of 3 days of Disney snacks, heat, humidity, and IV fluids;
  • I ate at Victoria and Albert's;
  • I met Joy;
  • I met Sadness;
  • I discovered the macaron ice cream sandwich;
  • I hugged Chewbacca which basically means I hugged Prince Harry by association;
  • I've lost four pounds since my post-trip weigh-in on Sunday;
  • My poor old skin and bones cat gained 1/4 of a pound; and
  • My mosquito bites healed!



I'm not particularly good at weight loss. Still too distracted by shiny objects.... But I do know that I feel a lot better when I eat lots of fruits, vegetables, and lean proteins. Too few nutrients leave me puffy, in pain, and sluggish. I was not a model of great eating during this past trip (and I didn't try to be) but I did notice that I've changed. I've never been a member of the clean plate club but I noticed that I've gotten really good at stopping when I've had enough, even if it is something I'm really enjoying. I've also almost completely stopped eating things I don't like just because they are there. I only like French fries when they are prepared by an establishment represented by a pair of Golden Arches. I didn't eat any French fries that appeared on my plate. When the bread and honey at the Skipper's Canteen turned out to be cold and a little dry, I stopped eating it. All of this is a long way of saying that I think I would keep up my healthy habits even if I'm destined to be at this weight forever. At the same time, I fully admit that it may not be true. It helps that I really like fruit and vegetables. But I also really like bread and cheese. The prospect of smaller clothes makes me pass up bread and cheese. I don't know how good those limits would be if I didn't have hope.

Lastly, there are some awesome posts the last few days! I have read them all but haven't done any commenting. I need sleep now and may not ever comment (although I will try again tomorrow). But I'm still in love with the truths in all of them.

I am so sorry this happened to you. How awful and judgmental. I'm so glad that you told her she crossed a line. It's important to put that into words and tell it directly to the person who hurt you.
 
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Let's talk about the dinner table! What healthy and delicious meals (whether IN or OUT) do you have planned for the weekend?
Well, eating will be a little off today, due to my altered schedule, but tomorrow I'll be having breakfast at Animal Kingdom and dinner at Garden Grill with my boy Chip! Sunday I'm at Magic Kingdom during the day and am planning on a Nutella and Fruit Waffle from Sleepy Hallow(? I think that's right, I always call it Frog Hallow which I know is not correct) for breakfast and salmon from Columbia House for lunch. I'll be at EPCOT in the evening and will most likely munch around the World at the F&G food booths. Can't wait!
 
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