peach3es
I'm stateside!!! :)
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You all are scaring me!
There really are some rude people out there. I'm not even done reading through everything...maybe I should just stop now! I did want to make a comment on this post:
I laughed as I read your post. It most definitely was a cultural difference. If you detected an accent, and you were at a tourist stop, there's a possibility that she was not from the US. It is nothing for me to find people here reaching out and touching my blond kids, pinching their cheeks, grabbing their hair, etc. My kids are frequently offered food by strangers (as are all children here, not just the blond ones
) and finding lots of people waving and smiling at them. Sometimes people even come up to take my little ones right out of my hands. My youngest was born here and knows nothing other than Arab culture, so she is 100% comfortable in this situation.
I guess I've forgotten how careful we are in the US. I've only been gone for 4 years, but looks like I've got a lot to relearn about parenting in the US. We'll only be there for 7 months...but I think I need a refresher course on US customs and cultural norms! If I was in your place, I wouldn't have even batted an eye. In fact, I probably would have forced my dd to take the cookie, since it would be culturally rude and offensive not to...at least where I'm living now.

OK, not at WDW, but it was on our WDW trip, so can I share?![]()
We went to Bible Land, which is in Orlando, and really pretty cool, if you are a Christian I'd totally say work it in sometime. I'm not sure I could again, but its not their fault, really. (Not the most fun for little people, by the way)
We were in a theater for a show about the tabernacle, and my then 3 yo daughter kept jumping out of her seat and I had to keep sitting her down. Well, after the show I'm kind of giving her "the talk" and this lady says, "I am sorry, it is my fault. I couldn't stop touching her hair." EGADS! DD had that flaxen blonde curly curly baby hair and bright blue eyes and is colored like a peaches-and-cream china doll. This lady, who had a very thick accent was as dark a person as I've ever seen. They did make quite a study in contrasts (I can make a joke now. DD is 9) She went on to say something about just the rarity of DD coloring where she was from and maybe she hadn't been here in the US long or something. I wasn't really listening at that point, but hustling out of there away from her. Come up in front of me and tell me my kid is beautiful, and I might not wig out about you touching her hair (happened alot really) but sneak and touch her from behind? That was creepy!
So, DH and other 2 kids are ahead, no idea what's going on other than DD getting in trouble for getting out of her seat. The indoor theater dumps into an outdoor theater. I kind of make sure we don't end up near the lady. There weren't many people there. So we are watching the show when I realize DD is kind of engaging with someone down the row. Again, typical 3 yo stuff. So I look to see who has caught her eye, and its that same lady, holding out a cookie and trying to get DD to come over. I grabbed DD up, told DH "We have to leave, NOW" in a very stern voice and just ran for the gate with him and the other kids streaming behind. Not typical of me at all of course, so he wasn't about to stop me for a long discussion. We got to the car and I told him what happened. ugh.
People have chastised me since that I didn't confront her or point her out to the staff, or whatever. And I am sure they are right. On the other hand, it was probably very innocent and just a cultural difference. But all I know is I wanted my baby out of there. My "fight or flight" instinct chose flight, and no higher order reasoning was involved.
I laughed as I read your post. It most definitely was a cultural difference. If you detected an accent, and you were at a tourist stop, there's a possibility that she was not from the US. It is nothing for me to find people here reaching out and touching my blond kids, pinching their cheeks, grabbing their hair, etc. My kids are frequently offered food by strangers (as are all children here, not just the blond ones

I guess I've forgotten how careful we are in the US. I've only been gone for 4 years, but looks like I've got a lot to relearn about parenting in the US. We'll only be there for 7 months...but I think I need a refresher course on US customs and cultural norms! If I was in your place, I wouldn't have even batted an eye. In fact, I probably would have forced my dd to take the cookie, since it would be culturally rude and offensive not to...at least where I'm living now.