Grrr, Seriously?!!!

[christypooh402]

We should have just planned a trip to DisneyLAND!

 

[deuceswild10]

If they really cared about you guys it seems they would have ASKED before assuming that you would want to spend your vacation time at their baby shower. I say don't go.

 

[keranmac]

I am all for seeing them on the way out of town if possible and taking the gift then. Like you said you have seen them twice this year and will see them in July before your husband leaves. I think you should not stress over this, I think you have enough to stress over with your husband leaving later this year. Please do not let anyone make you feel guilty or like a bad person for not going, and if you don't have a chance to get by there before you leave, you will see them July and the baby isn't even due until September. If your husband is serving our country, I just want to say thank you to him and you for the sacrifices that your family has had to make. God Bless You!

 

[christypooh402]

Like the OP said, they were there twice already this year. So to say perhaps they want to see him before he deploys, well, they did.

Another vote for politely decline. Don't make up a lie like you have reservations for a luau, (unless you do!) but be honest and tell them if you had known sooner, you would have been there, but your schedule is tight and you'll have to sit this one out. The gift is in the mail.

Have fun, don't think about it and enjoy your trip!
And a HUGE thank you to your DH for serving our country.

You are welcome!!
I won't lie, I don't have a reason to. That's just not me anyway. I know what I want to do, but DH and I will discuss it tonight. Like I said, if he REALLY wants to go, we will. But, it's a baby shower, I'm pretty sure he isn't psyched about that. I think he'd rather see them for a few hours at the end. To me, that's a good enough compromise.

 

[Planogirl]

Don't lie to your family. Just tell them the truth. They'll understand.

I didn't really mean to lie but to phrase it in a nice way. You know, don't just say that we have better things to do or something similar.

 

[Carnie]

I hate showers. Gift grabs with lousy food and no adult beverages.

OOOOH TINY SOCKS SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.

Ugh.

Have something shipped of the registry and be done with it.

 

[cluvsdisney]

I think it's very rude of them to throw this at you at the last minute. I would send a gift and your regrets and enjoy your vacation. It sounds like you see DH's family a lot and have plans in place to see them again before he deploys...take this time for your immediate family.

 

[christypooh402]

I am all for seeing them on the way out of town if possible and taking the gift then. Like you said you have seen them twice this year and will see them in July before your husband leaves. I think you should not stress over this, I think you have enough to stress over with your husband leaving later this year. Please do not let anyone make you feel guilty or like a bad person for not going, and if you don't have a chance to get by there before you leave, you will see them July and the baby isn't even due until September. If your husband is serving our country, I just want to say thank you to him and you for the sacrifices that your family has had to make. God Bless You!

Thank you! But I can't wait till he retires! 5 more years! (It isn't that long, is it?)
Before we found out when he was leaving, I told my sister I didn't know when I'd be able to be with her. Her baby is coming this month, the 23rd. About 2 months ago DH was told he may be leaving in June. Well, if he was going in June, I was NOT going to my sister's until after he left. And we are super close, she is my best friend. But, with him leaving late August, I'll go to my sister's the week after we get back from Disney. I told DH he should try to go see his sisters then too, but we don't think he'd get more time off right now.

 

[HersheyKisses]

I personally think it's a bad idea to NOT go to the baby shower. Family is family...Disney is a themepark . You live less than 3 hours away it's not like it's your last trip to the World.

 

[lsenquiz]

I have tons of family and friends that live in Orlando. Since it is our favorite place to vacation(Disney) we always end up there and we always end up carving out some of our vacation to visit with everyone. Well this time when we go(in two weeks) I made it very clear that we would not be doing that. Just because they are close does not mean you need to visit. I think it is critical to your immediate family that you guys get some us time. Even carving out a few hours during a whole week can make a difference IMA. When I explained our plans to my family they were very understanding. However, that is based on the fact that we have two more trips planned for this year were we will carve out time to see them.

 

[AuntBJ]

How long is your vacation? You mentioned that the shower falls in the middle. What do you have planned for the time of the shower?

 

[christypooh402]

I personally think it's a bad idea to NOT go to the baby shower. Family is family...Disney is a themepark . You live less than 3 hours away it's not like it's your last trip to the World.

I understand what you are saying. But, this isn't about Disney, it is about OUR TIME together.
It may not be our last trip to the world, but it is our 1st vacation, and we've been married nearly 17 years. I don't care if we were at a lake cabin, or the beach, it is our time together.

 

[princesscharming]

I think you are doing the right thing. It sounds like the best solution. And I like your willingness to go if DH really wants to. That's all anyone can expect.

I agree that the intentions of having it while you're in Orlando were probably good. But that also makes it a stinky situation. If the shower was in Boston while your WDW vacation was occurring, your vacation would be a perfectly acceptable excuse. I doubt anyone would blame you for not attending, since it was already planned. But they aren't thinking about how this takes away from your vacation.

Be honest. Tell them you appreciate that they were trying to include you and/or make it easier to come. But that your schedule is pretty tight and want to have some alone time before Dh ships off.

Have a wonderful trip. Good luck to you and DH.

 

[christypooh402]

How long is your vacation? You mentioned that the shower falls in the middle. What do you have planned for the time of the shower?

The shower is Thursday. Not sure why it's not on a weekend. It's in the evening, and our plan for Thursday is AK and MK.

 

[haleofafamily]

Like the OP said, they were there twice already this year. So to say perhaps they want to see him before he deploys, well, they did.

Another vote for politely decline. Don't make up a lie like you have reservations for a luau, (unless you do!) but be honest and tell them if you had known sooner, you would have been there, but your schedule is tight and you'll have to sit this one out. The gift is in the mail.

Have fun, don't think about it and enjoy your trip!
And a HUGE thank you to your DH for serving our country.

Don't lie to your family. Just tell them the truth. They'll understand.

I am all for seeing them on the way out of town if possible and taking the gift then. Like you said you have seen them twice this year and will see them in July before your husband leaves. I think you should not stress over this, I think you have enough to stress over with your husband leaving later this year. Please do not let anyone make you feel guilty or like a bad person for not going, and if you don't have a chance to get by there before you leave, you will see them July and the baby isn't even due until September. If your husband is serving our country, I just want to say thank you to him and you for the sacrifices that your family has had to make. God Bless You!

These were my thoughts as well:
~Don't go
~Take a gift on your way out of town
~Be honest
~and especially - Thanks for serving our country!

 

[smitch425]

Why didn't they send you an invitation in the mail??? That's what I would start with in my conversation with the planner of this party. I would politely say, "I wish I would have known about this earlier so I could have worked attending the party into our planning schedule, but we have special plans that day and unfortunately it just won't work out."

As for the PP who questioned the sporting event delay, it is the OP's OWN child. Obviously you are more inclined to alter your schedule when it is your immediate family. We came home from WDW a day early last June because my DS (5 at the time) had a teeball tournament game that we were not aware of before we left for the trip. It ended up getting rained out (after we drove 15 hours straight) and rescheduled for another day!

 

[christypooh402]

I appreciate all of the opinions. That is why I posted after all. And I especially appreciate those opinions that agree with mine
To those of you thanking DH for his service, I thank you in return for be appreciative. It's a tough job, and a tough life, and it's nice to know there are those who realize that.
To everyone who is going to Disney soon, have a great trip as I plan to do the same! I'm off for now, got packing to do!

 

[DaniB]

I hate showers. Gift grabs with lousy food and no adult beverages.

OOOOH TINY SOCKS SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.

Ugh.

That just made me laugh out loud!

I discovered in my teenage years that women only baby and wedding showers are boring.

Luckily my BF knew how I felt. She planned a young people only wedding shower at a bar one evening. Lots of appitizer type food, alchol drinks, pool playing, darts, card games. Loved it! Still had the traditional wedding shower later on.

For my first born, the baby shower was planned for after the baby's arrival. A lot of great aunts & uncles & cousins were attending. Everyone loved that the new baby girl was in attendance.

Hmm... slighly off topic there OP - sorry!

 

[nkereina]

Didn't get a chance to read the whole thread. But as someone who is not very close to extended family - particularly ones that live out of town, I definitely would NOT go to the shower. It's a vacation you are planning for yourself. It's not a vacation to go visit family. It's not the type of vacation where you have ample down time either. If you were not going to be in the area, would you even be invited to the shower? I think it's a selfish thing on their part, assuming you'd want to leave Disney to go to it and it also means you'd have to bring a gift too. I am from New York and have family that lives 15 mins from WDW but do not plan on seeing them while I am there for a week in September. In fact, they don't even know I will be there. If I wanted to go to Orlando to visit family, I would plan an entirely different trip.

Of course - you cannot say any of this to the family without starting a war. So, I would take the advice that you have something non-refundable planned already and just don't think you could make it work.

 

[GinnyEmma]

I understand what you are saying. But, this isn't about Disney, it is about OUR TIME together.
It may not be our last trip to the world, but it is our 1st vacation, and we've been married nearly 17 years. I don't care if we were at a lake cabin, or the beach, it is our time together.

Giving u 2 hours would be that intrusive? Gmab.