I wouldn't miss a chance to celebrate family and a new baby for a few hours in a themepark.
I would under the OP's circumstances. I love my family, I really do but if I had not taken a family vacation in 17 years except to visit extended family.........my DH was going to deploy once again........I had seen my family twice over the past few months and I was planning to visit on my way home from my much needed trip..........no brainer for me! I would visit but I would manage my visit around my timeframe.
I understand what you are saying. But, this isn't about Disney, it is about OUR TIME together.
It may not be our last trip to the world, but it is our 1st vacation, and we've been married nearly 17 years. I don't care if we were at a lake cabin, or the beach, it is our time together.
Because lying is such an honorable way to deal with our problems in life. What the heck? Suck it up and be straightforward if you are going to blow them off. Or rather, make your poor husband do it. If he feels ok, about blowing off the grand niece or nephew then have at it.
See, I don't get this. No one is blowing off family. They are simply going to visit and celebrate at a time that makes more sense. I could understand this attitude if the OP had received an invitation prior to making vacation plans, had not seen this branch of the family, had chosen too drive right by on their way home whining all the way that DH should not see his family prior to his deployment.
Really? I've seen many people have regrets on their deathbed over the loss of relationships with their extended family. I've seen many people of my generation wish they knew the members of their extended family. And companies make lots of money on sites that help track down their family and their family tree.
And I have seen the opposite. My sister lost her DH in January. Thank God the took time together because Gail will never have that opportunity again. I would never forgive myself if I had placed pressure on them to miss some well deserved family time in order to appear at a shower. No way! THe Op's DH is deploying and they have never taken a real family vacation because they placed so much emphasis on visiting their extended family.
I don't understand the sanctimonious attitude that you have exhibited here. You certainly have the right to live your life the way that you choose but it is beyond ridiculous to make the leaps that you have in this thread. This family has not blown anyone off, they did not ignore family and have planned additional time together in order to fulfill family commitments yet you would still chastise the OP for wanting to spend block of time with no outside commitments. I just do not get it.
My nephew returned from a second deployment and was ending his commitment in the Marine Corps last July. My sister was planning a huge family party but my DH did not know that when he planned a little trip for the two of us. We had not taken a vacation alone in years so he really wanted to surprise me. DD discussed this with him and they decided that I needed to know that this trip conflicted with the party before plans were confirmed. Holy Smokes! What to do?????????? What to do????????? I called my sister and she told me Timmy would be the first one to tell me to have fun, we would celebrate his return when I got back.
Well, we went on our much needed trip together, Gail had her party and Timmy missed it. Yup.........he returned home about a week after the party. There was no way the date of the party could be changed after all of the people who were attending and Tim could not return until Uncle Sam so officially released him I got to celebrate after all.
