Don't call me "hun"

[dakcp2001]

I am not sure why it irks me so much but it does. One of my husbands friends always says thanks hun, or honey can you go get this. Ugh. He says it in a demeaning tone, which I think is the problem. I am not the maid and I don;t answer to hon.

 

[Christopher Robin]

I am not sure why it irks me so much but it does. One of my husbands friends always says thanks hun, or honey can you go get this. Ugh. He says it in a demeaning tone, which I think is the problem. I am not the maid and I don;t answer to hon.

He could be referencing Attilla the...so it could be worse.
j/k

 

[marie1203]

I hate it too!

 

[mikehn]

the person is probably from Baltimore

 

[diznygirl]

Only hubby gets to call me Hun. Every else must use "princess."

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Does it bother you when the men who love you call you honey or babe ?

 

[MIGrandma]

Totally agree with you. I would hate having a friend of DH's call me anything like that. I also don't like strangers doing it, especially servers in restaurants. I was a server and I never called my customers names like honey or sweetie or dearie.

 

[Christopher Robin]

My family had dinner in one of the restaurants at the Studios once, and the server called me Hun the whole time.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

My family had dinner in one of the restaurants at the Studios once, and the server called me Hun the whole time.

Yep - 50s Prime Time Diner. That is the way it used to be across America.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Start calling him plain old DA or curly if he's bald maybe slim if he's chunky and see if he gets the hint. You could always use an ever-changing assortment of nicknames until he knocks it off.

 

[Christopher Robin]

Yep - 50s Prime Time Diner. That is the way it used to be across America.

Still is here in small town PA USA.
When I lived down south in GA, if ladies couldn't say Hun, they wouldn't be able to talk to anyone.

 

[becauseisaid]

One of my husbands friends always says thanks hun, or honey can you go get this. Ugh. He says it in a demeaning tone, which I think is the problem.

I believe the proper response to this is "Sure thing Sugar. Anything else I can get you while I'm up? A martini? Your pipe and slippers? Perhaps a plane ticket back from the 1950's and your Mama's house?".

or perhaps a freezing stare and a "Did you mean to say 'Please'?"

 

[becauseisaid]

When I lived down south in GA, if ladies couldn't say Hun, they wouldn't be able to talk to anyone.

I grew up in small-town GA and it's true. If you can't call someone Hun, ,Sugar, or Darlin', you might as well not even talk to 'em. I'm terrible with names so my fall-back is Sweetpea.

I think it's not so much the name as the tone of voice while using it. I've been called a lot of names in my life but rarely become irritated unless the tone of voice is insulting.

 

[njmom47]

I believe the proper response to this is "Sure thing Sugar. Anything else I can get you while I'm up? A martini? Your pipe and slippers? Perhaps a plane ticket back from the 1950's and your Mama's house?".

Start calling him plain old DA or curly if he's bald maybe slim if he's chunky and see if he gets the hint. You could always use an ever-changing assortment of nicknames until he knocks it off.

I hate it too.

 

[Jeafl]

Does it bother you when the men who love you call you honey or babe ?

Nope, just strangers.

I saw the funniest thing last week. I was in a women's clothing store and the salesperson was calling everyone hun. She was MAYBE 20 years old, and the women she was talking to were all much older. One of them finally turned to her and said "I am NOT your "hun". Do not refer to me as that. It is condescending and insulting and it makes you look like a fool". I had to walk away because I wanted to laugh. The look on the girl's face was priceless!

 

[dakcp2001]

Does it bother you when the men who love you call you honey or babe ?

No, that is different. And this friend is from Georgia maybe that is the problem.

 

[dakcp2001]

I believe the proper response to this is "Sure thing Sugar. Anything else I can get you while I'm up? A martini? Your pipe and slippers? Perhaps a plane ticket back from the 1950's and your Mama's house?".

or perhaps a freezing stare and a "Did you mean to say 'Please'?"

YES

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Nope, just strangers.

I saw the funniest thing last week. I was in a women's clothing store and the salesperson was calling everyone hun. She was MAYBE 20 years old, and the women she was talking to were all much older. One of them finally turned to her and said "I am NOT your "hun". Do not refer to me as that. It is condescending and insulting and it makes you look like a fool". I had to walk away because I wanted to laugh. The look on the girl's face was priceless!

Rude people treating a young lady poorly. Customer service is never easy.

 

[Ceila]

Rude people treating a young lady poorly. Customer service is never easy.

The sales girl wasn't intentionally rude, but the customer was. I'm sure this thread will go down in flames (this topic has before), but I totally agree that the customer was out of line. I'm highly doubt that the salesgirl meant to be offensive. She could very well have come from someplace where that's acceptable or grown up around family members who are from someplace like that. If the customer was really so upset about it, she could have handled it with class instead of making herself look like a complete jerk.

 

[eliza61]

Totally going to admit to doing this when I was a waitress. Only with me, every one was "shug". I really didn't mean to be offensive and 1/2 the time I wasn't even concious of saying it. It was on of those things like when every one ends their sentences with "ya know".