Do You Lie or Tell the Truth?

[BuckeyeBama]

No I'm still a Disney fan. I still like to keep up to date on what's going on but I've lost my gusto for the parks. It's hard to put it into words. I went from hardcore to in the span of two years.

That started to happen to us. I was lucky and had an amazing Christmas trip a few years ago to re-light the fire. Sorry for questioning your motivations.

I don't believe in lying to save people's feelings, but I have to tell you that it has cost me more than one friendship. Most believe that a lie without consequences hurts no one, and they are probably right. Of course, in lying you now set yourself up for the next lie when they are ready to go again and you are invited.

 

[CMDTA]

Have they officially asked you to go on the trip? Or is this "someday". If it's someday, I wouldn't worry about it for one second. If you get invited along you can weigh your desire to go against your desire to make your niece happy. I never worry about "some days"

They haven't set a date but they are aiming for this year. What really makes it tough, is the fact the only thing really have in common is Disney.

 

[chrismb22]

They haven't set a date but they are aiming for this year. What really makes it tough, is the fact the only thing really have in common is Disney.

Maybe seeing it through your niece's eyes will get you back in the spirit (for lack of a better term)? Or, maybe you can do select things with them and hang out by the pool. Is that your thing?

 

[Tonka's Skipper]

I ended up in an interesting situation the other day. My niece is obsessed with WDW. She's 11 years old and thinks it's the best thing ever. She was going on and on about WDW and then asked if I'd go with them sometime. Without thinking, I said sure.

Honestly if I won a free trip to WDW, I'm not sure I'd go back. Is there anything wrong with lying and telling her I can't go?

I'm not going to tell her I have no desire to go. That would be mean. Plus my sister would assume I don't want to go with them, which is not true.

Sir, Sometimes, even if you don't want to, you just do things for FAMILY!

 

[Aliceacc]

I'm not sure why you wouldn't just say "No, honey, I don't love it as much as you do." My 11 year old would be fine with that.

Or, if you really, really didn't want to tell her that you don't love the exact same things she does, I would respond with "We'll see."

Lying to her just sets her up for disappointment when she makes plans that include you, but that you have no intention of taking part in.

 

[MsDiz]

Maybe the kid has learned manners too and only asked the OP to go with them sometime just to be nice.

 

[practicallyperfect77]

why would anyone ever want to go to a nickelback site?

Best comment EVER!

OP - I'm sure at 11 years old your niece is old enough to know the truth. I always say the truth is the way to go. If you always tell the truth, you don't have to remember what you said.

 

[m3retired]

She was going on and on about WDW and then asked if I'd go with them sometime. Without thinking, I said sure.

Why is this even an issue, lying or not? When/IF "sometime" ever comes, just say No, thanks. Trust me, your niece isn't going to spend a second wondering why you aren't going when she is making HER magic plans.

 

[willowsnn3]

Don't lie. Just tell her you're not interested.

 

[TDC Nala]

So just say no, thanks. Is that not just easier than saying "I hate what WDW has become and I don't want to go" and then having to explain why you hate it that much (unless you'd like to try talking them out of going, too). If you like, you can explain to your sister why you don't want to go and leave your niece out of that explanation, if you think that your sister will take your refusal personally.

 

[Hannathy]

It's all in the delivery. You don't have to lie but you don't have to be blunt either.

"Oh sweetie it would be so cool to see Disney with you but it isn't in the cards for me right now, but I'm so glad you are going to get to go and have a great time! Now I expect a post card!" I loved Disney when I was your age.

 

[3happydancers]

No I'm still a Disney fan. I still like to keep up to date on what's going on but I've lost my gusto for the parks. It's hard to put it into words. I went from hardcore to in the span of two years.

You are not alone with feeling this way!

 

[disnut8]

Maybe seeing it through your niece's eyes will get you back in the spirit (for lack of a better term)? Or, maybe you can do select things with them and hang out by the pool. Is that your thing?

THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Especially the first sentence. Take the "YOU" out of the trip and go for the family. Is the trip all about just you or about being with your family? Have you ever experienced Disney World with your niece? If not, what is holding you back? Because it's Disney World and you aren't that enthusiastic about it?

That enthusiasm comes back five fold with being with someone who "gets it". You might not but she might. And you might miss it.

They asked you to be part of their family vacation. Most people would love that chance.

Personally, I think you are taking this too close to the vest. Family should be way high on the scale of life than "I don't want to go to Disney World".

 

[cfw213]

If you won a free trip you wouldn't go back, but you just signed up for a Dis account this month?

My thoughts exactly!

 

[Barzeski]

I have an 11-year old. I agree with pp, just say "no thanks" and offer to do something special with her instead. When kids ask you to do something, it's such a compliment! You could help her shop for her trip, plan with her, do a spa day, go to a movie etc... Enjoy!!!

 

[kugelette]

Yeah, I was just thinking that. No offense but this would be like me going to a camping site or a Nickelback site and posting.

First post on the DISboards to make me lol...

 

[Disneylandnewbie]

Yeah, I was just thinking that. No offense but this would be like me going to a camping site or a Nickelback site and posting.

A Nickelback site. LOL I agree!

 

[wuzzy6]

I agree that doing things for the family are good and important. However, I disagree that someone should just sacrifice themselves, and their bank account balances, just to appease a child. Frankly, if I were in the OP's shoes, I would likely decline the offer to go to WDW and suggest an alternate plan to spend some quality time together!

 

[ArwenMarie]

It's all in the delivery. You don't have to lie but you don't have to be blunt either.

"Oh sweetie it would be so cool to see Disney with you but it isn't in the cards for me right now, but I'm so glad you are going to get to go and have a great time! Now I expect a post card!" I loved Disney when I was your age.

 

[subtchr]

As someone whose own kids and nieces and nephews are now in their late teens and twenties, I'd jump at the chance for a family vacation, no matter where it went. No matter what you think about WDW's current policies, it's still a fun escape from reality and a great chance to spend time together, if you approach it with that attitude.