DVC Sadie said:
I was just raised that the first shower was to completely help furnish the needs of having the baby. Every 1st shower I have attended completely furnished a nursery. Including cribs, rocking chairs, deluxe strollers, furniture styled changing tables basically everything new parents would need all from A to Z.
I guess that maybe why the difference in opinions on "only the 1st" or every baby. The only *big* thing I got with my first shower was my car seat (which I am still using 12 years later - even though I don't think you are supposed to use car seats that long anymore.), baby swing and diaper pail. That was it. I had to go get my own rocking chair, stroller, dresser, etc... My mom did buy us our crib. However, everything else at the shower was diapers, wipes, outfits, lotions, etc... which when baby #2 was born, I still needed diapers, wipes, etc...
I have yet to be at any baby shower where many major items are supplied. It's always the onesies, blankets, rattles, cute little things but usually only 1 or 2 big items - I don't think I've ever seen furniture given. Usually a stroller & car seat are the only 2 big items I have ever seen.
I guess that's why I never think of having a shower for the 2nd, 3rd, 15th child is any big deal. My favorite thing to give is diapers in NOT the newborn size and wipes. My kids were always hefty when they were born - my 3rd was over 9 pounds when he was born so didn't even wear the newborn diapers.
Maybe it's a regional thing or probably just what is typical in a family.