DH(vent)

[ez]

We need to have our porch tiled. I know my DH hates to shop for anything so I have spent several hours this week at the tile store picking out tile.(we both work full time...me fuller!) On Tuesday the installer is coming over with a proposal, but he already said it will be around 2,300. So yesterday, while home on a break from work, I asked DH if he would take a ride with me to the tile store(10 minutes away) on Sunday just to have him look at the different tiles and verify my 2,300 decision. Well to say he went off would be an understatement. He was yelling at me and using bad language while my dd9 had friends over. He says I am obsessed with this tile and I am driving him crazy. I think it is an expensive investment and worth as much time as it takes to make the right decision. I really think there is something mentally wrong with my dh that he needs to go ballistic over something like this. Mind you, we were having a perfectly nice conversation before I dreadedly asked him to take a ride to the tile store. I was just wondering, do other women have husbands that go off over stupid things like that, and I mean OFF, at the drop of a hat. He seems to handle complicated situations much better than simple ones. Thanks for letting me vent!

 

[doxdogy]

I am sorry to hear that he got so upset. Thankfully, my DH doesn't do that to me. But, my son-in-law does have tendency to that to my DD.

 

[crazyme5kids]

My husband knows better LOL. What will happen if he doesn't like the tile?

 

[Alex]

OH boy.... I'm pretty sure I would NOT be getting away with that.....

 

[jwsqrdplus2]

Unfortunately, I am the one more likely to go off on DH for "silly" things. But not to the extreme that DH went off on you.

From the other point of view, I will say that DH does pick inopportune times (in my opinion) to have those conversations. Like when I am trying to get dinner on the table, or I am trying to work the phones (I do sales out of my home), or when both DDs are having major meltdowns. Now having said that, I normally apologize and listen at a later time. Although, he has gone ahead and done something without my input. Of course, I have done the same when he is ignoring me too!

I also handle more complicated situations better than simple ones. Your DH must be an extreme Type A. Most times I cannot handle a simple choice, but I can solve complex problems in the blink of an eye.

I guess in my ramblings that I am not trying to stick up for you DH because he went way over the line as far as I am concerned. But, since I appear to be of a similar personality, maybe ask his when will he be ready to discuss tiling the porch. Let him know that it is important to you, and you feel it should be a joint discussion/decision. In other words, give him the illusion of having control of the decision. DH has mastered that technique with me!! I think I am just realizing that now! LOL.

Anyway, IMHO, your DH stepped over the line using bad language period, much less in front of DD. I am not trying to defend him; I guess am just trying to help you understand the personality type.