Depressed......long and frank ( a "me" UPDATE on pg 5 )

[snoopy]

{{{Kristi}}}

Lots of good advice here.

I'll pray that your days get brighter.

 

[JerseyJanice]

Ducklite's post was absolutely filled with the best advice.

By all means, Kristy, get the help you need to pull yourself out of this funk. I bet you've been trying for a long time on your own. Time to throw up a white flag and put yourself in the hands of professionals.

Start wherever you feel the most comfortable. Your primary care physician would probably be the best person to start with, but if for some reason you're not comfortable talking to him/her, see your OB/GYN, a doctor at work, your pastor, or call your employee assistance plan.

You have a family who relies on you to care for them. How can you continue to do that effectively if you sink further into depression? It's not going to go away on your own; you know that by now or you wouldn't have posted this. You have to get help.

Hang in there, babe. Life will get better once you get some help.

 

[twinmomplus2new]

 

[birdiesunshine]

I am so sorry to hear you are going through such a rough time. I would contact a psychologist and talk to him/her before you decide if you want to see a psychiatrist and start taking meds!!
Talking about your problems will make you feel better than you are feeling now!!

 

[tiggersmom2]

Major hugs to you Kristy I truly believe things will get better. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

 

[delswife]

I wish I had something great to say.

I am sorry you have to deal with so much. I think you are doing a great job from what I have read. You seem to me to be a very strong person and a very loving mom.

I hope things turn around for you. I will say a prayer for you and your family. (((Hugs))) Sending much love.

 

[yourtravelpro]

6 Time Momma...I will say a prayer for you. I am so sorry that you lost your baby. I can't even begin to imagine the pain.

...and to bubbleprincessmom...I am sorry for your loss too. I can't imagine any amount of years easing a pain like that.

I am so sorry

 

[kathyk2]

Are you involved with any support groups? There is a well known group called Compassionate Friends that might help. You mentioned that you are having money issues as well. Perhaps a meeting with a credit counselor could help you find some peace of mind. I have a very good book called Surviving Debt which deals with all types of financial problems.

 

[DoeWDW]

When my depression hit, I wanted to hide under the covers and avoid the world. My body was always tired and my mind was always overwhelmed - I basically would shut down emotionally and physically.

My doctor put me on an anti-depressant to help me function while I started counseling. The combination of the two helped me immensely. The 2 hardest parts were talking to my doctor and seeing the counselor for the first time. Once those two steps were over I felt so much relief, like a weight had been lifted from me. I knew I still had a long way to go, but for the first time in a while I had hope that things would get better.

Please get the help you need. Do it now. You'll be so thankful once you've got a team (your doc, a counselor, etc.) helping you. You are not alone - come here to vent and to sort things out.

I'm sending you a and some for the brighter days ahead.

 

[grinningghost]

I know how you're feeling. I've suffered from severe depressive disorder for years now. I've actually been on anti-depressants constantly since 1991. Everytime I tried to go off them, another huge wave of depression hit me.

My best advice to you is to contact your primary physician, and tell him you've been feeling overwhelmed and think you might be clinically depressed. Then you can get in to see him/her and possibly be referred to a counselor or psychiatrist. Counselors can only offer advice and well, counseling. A psychiatrist can prescribe meds which can be absolute lifesavers. I'm not kidding. Just when you feel like you're at the end of your rope and don't feel you can function anymore, those meds can lift the black cloud and you can think clearly again.

If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me. Good luck.

 

[soccerchick]

My words seem so inadequate. I am so sorry that you are hurting and am saying prayers that things will be better for you.

 

[KimOhio]

dont know really what to say but hang in there it will get better it always does sending hugs and pixie dust your way

 

[tigercat]

Sending you lots of If you need to talk please pm me. I know a couple of weeks ago I was really having problems dealing with the anniversary of my ds's death. It was 25 yrs. ago but it really hit me this year. Sometimes talking helps so if you need an ear I am here.
tigercat
Also, what got me through it was all the posts here. It was amazing how everyone picked me up, so hope this helps

 

[Pop Daddy]

hey

 

[Jungle Skipper]

Haqng in there kiddo...if you ever need anything everyone here on the DIS is surely willing to help...if you ever need to talk...feel free to drop me a line.

everything will work out for the best! I'm sending pixie dust and prayers your way!

Jungle Josh

 

[mtblujeans]

If you don't have insurance, you need to seek out a Community Mental Health Center in your area. They should have a counselor you can talk to. The counselor will refer you to the proper medical personnel to assist you with prescription medications if he deems them necessary. Whether you have insurance or not, you need a family counselor - in your struggle, you may not be noticing others in your family may be struggling, too. Keep all of your counseling appointments. This you need to do for yourself. It sounds like you have legitimate issues going on that you should have no shame in needing guidance with. Not all education or life experiences prepare us for some things we come upon as adults. Grief can throw a double whammy our way and our bodies can seem to take off on their own adventure. Counseling can help your mind and emotions catch up. I know everything will be OK. Be patient and let the appropriate people help you with some of your burden!

 

[Octoberbeauty]

Please seek counseling asap. It really helps to just talk about how you're feeling. When you keep it all bottled inside it becomes a sickness eating away at you. Saying prayers for you!
Sherry

 

[hockeymom7691]

I don't know what I can say that hasn't already been said.

Please talk to your doctor. You would be amazed at how many people are on antidepressants and/or seek counseling.

Everyone here on the Dis boards are your friends and we're here anytime you need us.

Sending you a few hugs to make you feel better.

 

[C.Ann]

Getting help is SOOOO easy - the HARD part is in "allowing" yourself to do so!

I'm sure you read my posts here a few weeks ago - when my DD was hospitalized for severe depression.. She has been fighting depression on and off for years and for many reasons (what would "people" say; a husband and in-law's that saw depression as nothing more than weakness of character; embarrassment; a sense of failure; etc.) she kept putting off truly dealing with it until she hit rock bottom - pretty much where you are right now.. It took TREMENDOUS courage on her part to take that huge step and agree to be hospitalized, but she knew in her heart that there would be a tragic ending to her depression if she didn't.. She spent 7 days in the hospital and sees both a pscyhiatrist and a therapist once a week - in addition to taking an antidepressant.. Now she's literally KICKING herself for not having done this a long, LONG time ago! She feels much, MUCH better and is now moving forward with her life - rather than treading water and trying to struggle back up every time she goes "under"...

I had my own bout of severe depression a number of years ago when my DH's cancer returned and we learned there was nothing more that could be done for him.. Not only could I not get out of bed, but I couldn't leave the house unless I absolutely had to (and then someone else had to drive me); I couldn't make the simplest decision - such as should I have milk or orange juice; and I was FURIOUS with the people on t.v. because they felt "good" and "normal" and "happy" and I didn't! Eventually I realized that I just couldn't go on like that and I made an appointment with my regular doctor.. I told her what was going on and she took it from there.. Set me up with a counselor, got me started on an antidepressant (in my case it was Prozac) and in a few months I was back to my old self again..

I have to say - with ALL that you have been through I think it would be "abnormal" if you DIDN'T eventually suffer from depression!

Just go to your doctor and explain everything JUST as you have here and the doctor will take it from there..

There is NO shame in getting help.. The shame is in NOT getting help when you know you need it.. There's NO reason to suffer like this.. You are entitled to be happy and content - just like everyone else..

PLEASE don't put this off.. See your doctor.. You'll be glad you did!

I'll be praying for you - Garrett - and the rest of your family.. It's going to be okay - I promise.. You just need to take that BIG step!

 

[browneyes]

Go to your GP and tell him/her how you feel. Good luck, Kristy.