OMG, this is WHY I LOVE THIS BOARD!!! You know.. She'll get to see the castle sooo, I think I'll do the 1900 Park Fare dinner. That sounds amazing!!!
I think she would get a kick out of seeing them dance as well as seeing the evil stepmother/sisters.

Thank you so much for this idea!!
What's your experience with seeing the characters (mickey, minnie, etc.) within the park? I don't want to get too overwhelmed with character dinners. Figuring that we can still meet them in the parks.
We didn't really stop to meet Mickey, Minnie, Pluto, etc. in the park b/c we did do a character meal where we got to meet them all. So I would not be a good one to advise you on that. If you did do one more meal, I would do one where all the main characters are presesnt: Chef Mickey's (we liked) and Tusker House in the Animal Kingdom (we also liked this one and they are dressed is Safari gear). The best would have to be Mickey's Backyard BBQ--great food, good entertainment, they have a band/singers that perform country music. There is a dancefloor, last year, again our girls were 4 and 2, ate very fast so they could dance the rest of the time. And we could sit in our seats or get up and dance with them, the characters danced. My little one held Mickey's hand while he led the kids around the pavillion in a dance train. I cannot remember if they did autographs at this, but the other memories/photos I got are way better than an autograph! It is a two meal credit, but way worth it!!
So as far as waiting in line at the parks it's hard for me to say, we got the main people at the meals and then at the parks I waited in line 45 min for Tiana/Naveen and then 1-1.5 hours for Tinkerbell (only did that b/c it was raining and we had nothing else to do). We waited a little while for other characters, Pinnochio, Mary Poppins/Bert, etc. But to me these are more obscure characters that you won't necessarily see in a character meal, so I didn't mind waiting on them. But I really think if you waited in line for every character you've never seen, you could lose a whole day of play getting autographs. That's why I like character meals, knock out two things at one time: eating and greeting!
As stated elsewhere, the stepsisters at 1900 Park Fare are very funny, they really get into character.
If you are going at Christmastime they will have the Mickey's Very Merry Christmas Party. I would highly recommend that too, we haven't done it but we did the Not So Scary Halloween Party two years in a row--it was awesome. Alot of character interaction there are dance parties set up in different areas, my girls danced with Woody and Jesse from TS, Daisy and my oldest did the "twist" when she was 3. So much fun, and they will have special character meetings at these--Minnie and Mickey in Christmas clothes, and then other obscure characters. Last year at the Halloween party they had characters from the Jungle Book and Lion King, I had never seen a Jungle Book character.
Good luck, so excited for your family. It brings back great memories for me to retell all this, I cannot wait myself!!