I cancelled Le Cellier and I booked Yachtsman. The CM said "You're going to cancel this? Are you SURE?" Yep. I'm sure.
Bernadette - The thing is, with DS and me flying on miles and DH paying for his ticket trying to coordinate the flights was turning into a huge headache. Even if we wanted to go home early I don't think we could have all gotten on the same flight for much cheaper. And most of the flights available with miles now are connecting, not non-stop. So it's done. We ended up paying about $324 for DH round trip, and we paid $150 to transfer miles from DH to DS, so still under $500 for all 3 of us.
I just talked to my mom. Now the behavior I expected to see is coming out. She didn't call the oncologist today, she hasn't scheduled an OB/GYN appt, she hasn't talked to the social worker at the hospital. She is griping that it is just too inconvenient for her to call these people because she has to WORK, and she can't answer her phone during working hours. I don't know if it is denial or if she feels overwhelmed or what, but she is really letting the balls drop. She said she has been having headaches but she doesn't know which pain relievers she can take. She hasn't gotten the calcium, vitamins, or baby aspirin she is supposed to be taking. (I wanted to go to Sam's and get all of that while I was there, but I didn't have my Sam's card. When she figured out WHY I wanted to go she said no. But I also didn't have my debit card or any checks so I wouldn't have been able to pay for the stuff, and that was my whole intent.

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I understand that having cancer could easily become a full-time job in itself, but the thing is, she HAS to take care of herself! She prefers to avoid unpleasant things, like getting divorced, or moving from her house, or completing her tax returns. But avoiding these calls is going to have a VERY bad outcome. DH said I can get mad at her all I want, she won't budge. And he is right. Because this is how she gets.