Can you wear a baseball cap to a restaurant?

[DisneyFan32WI]

Good morning everyone-
Hubby has now read all 90 some responses today....thanks for all of your insight.
I know that if I post a thread, I can count on truthful opinions.

 

[TheZue]

I think most of the time it's because they know they can get away with it. If the OP had said that a 30 year old man had came up out of the blue and scolded her husband, people wouldn't be so quick to applaud his actions. For the poster who said it was probably because of a stroke or something, I don't think it's reasonable to assume that every elderly person walking around has had a major medical issue. My grandmother was one of those people who would just say anything to anybody her whole life. However, when she had a stroke, she started using that as an excuse for what came out of her mouth.

I don't think anyone was thinking what the elderly man said was any less rude than the hat (I personally think it was more rude) but I'm betting most people who said that older people lose their ability to censor themselves have witnessed it first hand. I had many relatives in my family and on Dh's that were absolutely the most polite lovely people until they got older and started having cognative problems. It's quite heartwrenching, and embarrassing, to watch. I think that's why elderly people get a pass on this, because it is quite possible this isn't something they would have done when they were younger and I would hope people would be as patient with my family members when their inner censor leaves.

 

[bgirldeb]

So, now the OP's DH learned something new as did I. I didn't know that people were so offended by men wearing hats in restaurants that do not have a dress code. This was obviously an unintentional offense.

I believe that the older man was not a gentleman, and way more wrong in intruding into the family's dinner to point that out (in front of the man's wife, for that matter).

Do any hat wearers follow the etiquette as far as tipping hats as was detailed in the link from the previous post?

http://www.bcvc.net/hats/

Just curious...

 

[kaytieeldr]

VERY few people in this thread consider the older man in the incident to be a gentleman... and it appears those who refer to him as one are doing as a result of good manners

As for tipping the hat? I think, no - because so few people know, or knew. I bet a lot more gentlemen related to this thread - spouses, offspring, relatives, non-posting viewers - will start.

 

[Ciao Mickey]

My husband and I went to Bravo Italian restaurant this evening for dinner. It is located at a popular shopping mall near our home. Halfway through our meal, an older man in his 70's walked past the aisle and told my husband to take his hat off. He kept on walking...out the door. We were so shocked. My husband was so upset by his comment that he didn't even finish his meal! It was a navy blue cap that said ADIDAS on it.
What is your thought on wearing baseball caps to a restaurant?????????

I agree with the man, your husband shouldn't be wearing a hat inside of a restaurant.

 

[ilovejack02]

No hats in restaurants, but very rude of the gentleman to point it out.

 

[I loveStitchnippyjon]

It's not as though the older man got in your DH's face and started a tirade...he pointed out to DH on his way past him that hats should not be worn in a restaurant. That is a simple fact, and your DH sulking about is pretty immature IMHO.

 

[ksjayhawks]

Rude to wear hats indoors and especially at restaurants.

However, your husband allowed that one comment to ruin his evening? Yikes!

 

[hentob]

We're having a discussion. We're not putting anyone in an awkward or uncomfortable position in a public place.

Well said.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

Well...I guess you would have to be there to see how it all happened. It just came out of nowhere........very quick and very unexpected.

It wasn't just WHAT the older man said to hubby, but the WAY he said it. He pointed his finger, told him to take off his hat (more like commanded it), shook his head and then briskly walked out the door. The two tables in front of us looked at both of us as if we just committed a crime. It was embarrasing AND enough to ruin his dinner which in turn ruined mine because hubby was unhappy.

At least hubby got a doggy bag and he will be enjoying his pork chops at home tonight....

 

[dolcezena]

It wasn't just WHAT the older man said to hubby, but the WAY he said it. He pointed his finger, told him to take off his hat (more like commanded it), shook his head and then briskly walked out the door. The two tables in front of us looked at both of us as if we just committed a crime. It was embarrasing AND enough to ruin his dinner which in turn ruined mine because hubby was unhappy.

Oh wow - that's beyond rude. That's downright ignorant

 

[Youarehere]

It's not as though the older man got in your DH's face and started a tirade...he pointed out to DH on his way past him that hats should not be worn in a restaurant. That is a simple fact, and your DH sulking about is pretty immature IMHO.

Rude to wear hats indoors and especially at restaurants.

However, your husband allowed that one comment to ruin his evening? Yikes!

You know- this wasn't even the point of the OP, but it was my first thought too. I would be ticked at my SO if he let something like that ruin our night.

If something similar was said to me I would pout for a few minutes, call the guy rude and nosy to my SO so that I wouldn't have to self- examine and be done with it. DBF wouldn't even blink.

I also think the older gentleman was right, it is rude. Back in his day more so than today, so a respectful nod to his time and on with the dinner, no biggie. You are a very patient woman.

 

[Stephanie218]

I think the man was a little out of line in saying something to your husband.

That being said, I'm surprised as a former Marine your husband thought it would be OK to wear a hat inside. The Marines are very particular about where covers are to be worn, and where they are not worn - and even as a Marine wife, I can tell you that covers are put on and taken off at entry-ways.

I'm just surprised he didn't carry that over into the civilian part of his life.

 

[hentob]

I think the man was a little out of line in saying something to your husband.

That being said, I'm surprised as a former Marine your husband thought it would be OK to wear a hat inside. The Marines are very particular about where covers are to be worn, and where they are not worn - and even as a Marine wife, I can tell you that covers are put on and taken off at entry-ways.

I'm just surprised he didn't carry that over into the civilian part of his life.

I am actually surprised that a Marine would be so distraught over an elderly man telling him to take his hat off

OP--Will your DH continue wearing a hat in restaurants

 

[onelilspark]

I've only read the first and last page of this, but yes, it's considered bad manners to wear a hat inside, especially at the table. Sorry, but I side with the elderly man, there have been many times I have wanted to point out simple table manners to people. Could he have minded his own business, yes. (And him interrupting your dinner was rude as well.) Should it have ruined your husband's night? No. Time to grow up IMO.

ETA: My Mom always says she would have a ball working at 50s Prime Time Cafe because she could walk around knocking hats off of guys and wouldn't get in trouble for it!

 

[npmommie]

wow all that over a hat? whether its rude or not to wear a hat in a restaurant, it was rude of the man to say something. and i am shocked your hubby got so upset over it.
me........i would probably have laughed and said to the man " and i suppose you should myob "

 

[Buckalew11]

Only looked at page one but my take is the old man was trying to teach your DH good manners. Years ago it is what your elders did whether you knew them or not. A hat inside is bad manners.

My DH wears a ball cap all the time. He will even wear on in a restuarant nowadays. Years ago, he always took it off and left it off for the meal. Now, right after blessing the food it tends to go back on. He seems to have let *rule* go out the window. I think nowadays he's afraid he'll forget his hat if he takes it off and leaves it off. He's old. haha
He has reminded young men at the college to remove their caps during the National Anthem.

 

[Tinijocaro]

I've been raised that it is gauche and rude to wear a hat indoors, especially in a restaurant. i'm raising my sons the same way.

Now whether or not there is anything truly offensive or awful about wearing a hat indoors, IMO no there isn't. It's just tradition, custom. However, when I see someone in a restaurant wearing a hat, I tend to think they haven't been taught properly.

My husband and I went to Bravo Italian restaurant this evening for dinner. It is located at a popular shopping mall near our home. Halfway through our meal, an older man in his 70's walked past the aisle and told my husband to take his hat off. He kept on walking...out the door. We were so shocked. My husband was so upset by his comment that he didn't even finish his meal! It was a navy blue cap that said ADIDAS on it.
What is your thought on wearing baseball caps to a restaurant?????????

 

[GeorgeG]

I'm a little dismayed at the comments about it being okay to wear a hat if the restaurant doesn't have a dress code. Given the way we see some people dressed at WDW we might wonder if they even understand how to at least be presentable in public. This isn't rocket science, folks. You don't need to be stylish, you don't need to wear designer clothes, but you do need to be dressed and it is considered disrespectful to wear a hat in any restaurant. However, you should keep your shoes on.

 

[Nagle]

Why is it considered rude to wear a hat at the dinner table? My parents and their siblings also feel this way. Personally, I think there are real things to be concerned about, not whether someone wears a hat indoors. I think that if the man had approached me and commanded me to take off my hat, my reply would probably have been to tell him to $&^%# off and mind his own *^*&% business.