Can you wear a baseball cap to a restaurant?

[Anewman]

But WHY is it disrepectful???

Because some were brought up that way, they were taught that only their way is the correct and respectful way. They were taught that if they could find faults and defects in everyone else they would feel better about themselves.

I was brought up to mind my own business, and that everyone deserves respect(even if they are wearing a hat).

 

[metalis4ever]

But WHY is it disrepectful??? My thoughts are if the restaurant wants you to dress or not dress a certain way, they can instate a dress code. I just don't understand the weird "rule" about hats indoors. I had never even heard of it until I started seeing threads about how rude it is on here
I mean, someone wearing a hat indoors isn't changing the quality of service, quality of food, etc. Once again, if the restaurant wishes you to not do something, they can instate a dress code and people who choose to dress differently can just not go there. I mean I think of myself as a very respectful person. please, thank you, may I, holding the door for people( and yes I"m female) but I just really don't get this one at all...

I agree 100% if there is no dress code then everything within reason is fair game..

Also we live in a Free Country only bound by our Constitution and Laws if you want to live in a Country that is bound by Social Norms and Values move to a Theocratic Nation such as Saudi Arabia....This is America and our Constitution and Laws do not say anything regarding the rudeness of wearing a hat indoors or specifically at a Restaurant......I hold the door open for people not because it is polite or a Social norm but because I want to, if I didn't I wouldn't. If I want to wear a hat indoors while enjoying a nice juicy American made burger that's what I am going to do

 

[Mouse House Mama]

But WHY is it disrepectful??? My thoughts are if the restaurant wants you to dress or not dress a certain way, they can instate a dress code. I just don't understand the weird "rule" about hats indoors. I had never even heard of it until I started seeing threads about how rude it is on here
I mean, someone wearing a hat indoors isn't changing the quality of service, quality of food, etc. Once again, if the restaurant wishes you to not do something, they can instate a dress code and people who choose to dress differently can just not go there. I mean I think of myself as a very respectful person. please, thank you, may I, holding the door for people( and yes I"m female) but I just really don't get this one at all...

Because hats were designed to protect you from the elements. Inside there are no elements. It is a sign of respect, especially towards a lady. It is like opening a door for someone. It shows respect for others. What if every person that came to your home was wearing a winter coat and never took it off for the visit. While I don't care what you chose to wear I would find it quite rude that you came to visit and you couldn't even take your parka off. It's not like it is going to snow in my house. You come into a home you take your coat and hat off. You come to the dinner table you take your hat off. It is a sign of respect. There is no sun beating down on you at the table.

I would not have approached the OP's dh but I would think that he had no manners. But then again, I am old fashioned as I won't even let my kids wear their baseball hats cocked to the side or backwards. I personally feel that our society as a whole is way too lax when it comes to manners and respect for others in general. Everyone is out for themselves and it is all about "me". I can't lie, I find it completely disgraceful.

 

[claudia]

for me it's rude. Gentlemen remove their hats. IMHO it is just good manners....it just looks tacky for a grown man to have a baseball cap on while he is eating. I am curious as to why your DH found himself unable to finish his meal?

 

[GeorgeG]

But WHY is it disrepectful??? My thoughts are if the restaurant wants you to dress or not dress a certain way, they can instate a dress code. I just don't understand the weird "rule" about hats indoors. I had never even heard of it until I started seeing threads about how rude it is on here
I mean, someone wearing a hat indoors isn't changing the quality of service, quality of food, etc. Once again, if the restaurant wishes you to not do something, they can instate a dress code and people who choose to dress differently can just not go there. I mean I think of myself as a very respectful person. please, thank you, may I, holding the door for people( and yes I"m female) but I just really don't get this one at all...

I suppose it can be difficult to understand if you've never known anything different. Society has gotten away from a lot of things once considered proper and respectful. We rarely here adults addressed as Mr., Mrs., or Miss these days and people show up to social functions dressed in what could only loosely be called casual attire. I'm all for being comfortable, but I'm from an era where good manners and respect meant the same thing.

 

[Minnesota!]

I am raising my kids to know that hats at the table are rude. It's how I was raised, too. My dad had a VERY impressive hat collection (baseball hats) - probably 400 of them. He wore one every minute of every day...except for sleeping, showering and EATING. He would take his hat off and put it on top of the fridge as soon as he came in the kitchen.

So yes, I think it's rude.

 

[KiminChicago]

For the poster who was asking about hats off for the National Anthem --

We were at a minor league baseball game yesterday, and even though the announcer asked gentlemen to remove their caps, there were at least one or two men around us who did not. Unfortunately, they were too far away for me to discreetly ask them to remove their caps, but had they been closer, I probably would have said something.

I honestly think we're on some kind of slippery slope here -- each generation seems to think manners are less important than the generation before them. For example, my parents would have been mortified had I as a child addressed their adult friends by their first names, yet my children's friends are always calling me by my first name. I've asked them to call me Mrs. XXX, but if their parents don't care, neither do the children. My children still use Mr. and Mrs. for their friends parents, but that's because I've told them that I consider it respectful. I shudder to think what society will be like in a few more generations.

 

[KSchwagg86]

Yeaa...hats off at the dinner table

 

[PghLybrt]

So, how do you feel about belching out loud just because it is Bravo

Not really apple to apple is it?

 

[Vixen]

God why dont people mind thier own business!! its nobody's problem if a person that is not included in your party has a hat on!

 

[~disneydiva~]

God why dont people mind thier own business!! its nobody's problem if a person that is not included in your party has a hat on!

Seriously! I don't let what other people are wearing bother me.

 

[Chicago526]

DH is bald and wears a ball cap as much as possible. Less formal restaurants he will wear his hat, fancier places and dinners with my family, he'll take it off. As it's just DH and I at home, I don't care that he wears it while we're eating, but likely I'll have him remove it once we have kids, to teach them proper manners.

That said, pointing out the bad manners of other people is also rude. Had he said that to my DH, I would have told the gentleman that he was being rude himself for saying anything.

 

[scrapquitler]

Wearing a baseball cap inside is rude. Especially sitting at a table to eat.

 

[kaytieeldr]

We rarely here adults addressed as Mr., Mrs., or Miss these days

Funny you should mention that. I work for a fairly small company - one large office, everybody knows everybody, we all use first names.
A couple of months ago, I ran into the president and his family. He introduced his wife and me using our first names, but he introduced me to his pre-teen daughters as Ms "Elder" (not my real name).

 

[kaytieeldr]

I honestly think we're on some kind of slippery slope here -- each generation seems to think manners are less important than the generation before them. For example, my parents would have been mortified had I as a child addressed their adult friends by their first names, yet my children's friends are always calling me by my first name.

Another "funny" story, speaking of respect. The people across the street from us moved to Florida when I was in my mid teens. We were introduced to the new young homeowners as Mr. and Mrs. Newowners .
Twenty-five years later - they're still there, and my sister bought my parents' house, so I'm in the neighborhood occasionally - I was still calling them Mr. and Mrs... and they're only about six years older than me

 

[ZephyrHawk]

Wearing a hat in any restaurant is gauche. I can think of only one instance where it might be permitted...an outside cafe...and only then on women.

Not that my husband is into baseball caps, but if he were, he would be obliged to take it off inside a McDonald's were I present.

All that being said, other people's ignorance of what is proper is not anyone else's problem. If you see someone not adhering to traditional mores, well, that's their problem. Make fun of them in private, it's your right.

 

[Stacerita]

Personally, I would much rather see someone with a decent hat on their head, than having to look at that person with gnarly hat hair while I ate.

Sure you DH could have taken his hat off and the fact that he didn't some might find rude, but for that man to point it out was very rude.

And was this place really at the mall? or was it a nicer place?

 

[MouseLover]

Went to a casual restaurant tonight, similar to Golden Corral. I kept a tally of men with hats and men without hats. It was a tie -- exactly! I counted 17 men with hats (16 of these were baseball caps) and 17 without hats.

I guess we're pretty "rude" around here.

 

[ms.yt]

Went to a casual restaurant tonight, similar to Golden Corral. I kept a tally of men with hats and men without hats. It was a tie -- exactly! I counted 17 men with hats (16 of these were baseball caps) and 17 without hats.

I guess we're pretty "rude" around here.

Yeah, I guess we are. My husband ate dinner at a restaurant tonight wearing his baseball cap, and there were several other men in there with caps on as well. There was a guy making balloon animals and shapes for each table, and several people had balloon hats on, so I guess they fall into the "rude" category, too.

 

[challer]

For the poster who was asking about hats off for the National Anthem --

We were at a minor league baseball game yesterday, and even though the announcer asked gentlemen to remove their caps, there were at least one or two men around us who did not. Unfortunately, they were too far away for me to discreetly ask them to remove their caps, but had they been closer, I probably would have said something.

You probably would have said something to me, because I don't remove my hat for the Nat'l Anthem. It's not because I hate the US, Nat'l Anthem, or hat head. As a Jew, it is considered respectful to keep one's head covered, whether with a skull cap or hat of any sort. I frequent baseball games alot, usually with a ball cap on. Removing my hat is considered a sign of disrespect in Jewish culture. I stand and sing with the rest of the crowd, but my hat stays on - out of respect.

...and my father (Fmr. Major, US Army) and grandfather (US Army, fought in WWII in France) agree wholeheartedly.

I continue to pray for our President, Vice President, and officers of the USA, as well as the safety of those fighting on our behalf, every single week on the sabbath... with my head covered.