Broken Promise

[Eeyore98]

She was questioning the other poster's veracity and the possibility of being a lawyer AND in the military. I took that as "the military doesn't have professionals, like doctors, lawyers, etc." Of course, it does.

Ah. Ok. See, I take it so much for an obvious fact that they DO, that it didn't even register with me that she could be questioning that. I mean, hello? Was JAG not a television show for like 10 years?

 

[crashbb]

Ah. Ok. See, I take it so much for an obvious fact that they DO, that it didn't even register with me that she could be questioning that. I mean, hello? Was JAG not a television show for like 10 years?

To be fair to the poster, sparklynails23 has made the *assumption* that that is what the post was about. Doesn't mean that that is actually what the post was about.

 

[Ember]

OP, I'm glad everything worked out! Ignore all the people who don't "get" celebrating a nine month anniversary. People around here seem to really enjoy putting down anything they can claim they don't "get." They are clearly much more sensible about life for their lack of understanding about whatever the topic is.

If you and your future husband both enjoy celebrating a day together, who cares if other people "get" it. You both do. My DH and I just went out for a nice date because... wait for it... we had lived in Australia for 6 weeks! Yep, we celebrated our 6 weeks of living in a new country. We even toasted the event! And we've been together almost 15 years, and are most definitely not in high school. Now, we haven't celebrated every week, and won't do so in the future. But I noticed it, said, "hey, we've been here 6 weeks!" and he said, "You're right, let's go celebrate!" So we did.

Life is as much fun as you make it, and no one has to "get" your relationship. By the way, if you ever see a strange couple dancing on the sidewalk to no music, that might be my husband and I. Feel free to shake your head at our silliness and not "get" it.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

Ha! I'm close behind you. Dated 11 years and 2 kids before we finally got married.

My parents got you both beat, they got married after 24 years together. I was 23 years old and the Maid of Honor, my brother was 20 and the Best Man.

If the rules at my dad's work hadn't changed I don't think they would have ever got married.

 

[LUVMYTINK]

LOL--I am more confused by getting engaged to someone you have only known for 9 months!!

I knew my DH for 2 1/2 weeks when we got engaged. Got married about 9 months later and in Jan. will be celebrating our 17th anniversary.

 

[onelilspark]

This whole thread is hilarious. Obviously many people have different opinions on relationships. But to be honest, what works for one couple doesn't always work for another.

My fiance and I had our 3 year dating anniversary on August 24. It was 5 days later when I finally realized that our anniversary had passed. We laughed, kissed, and shrugged it off. Next year that date won't mean anything anyway. Obviously to us we don't put a lot of stock in anniversaries. But there will be times when one of you will forget something that is important to the other, life will go on.

And to those who think it's ridiculous to have a year + engagement...we got engaged 9/11/10 (he didn't realize what day it was until afterwards...the ring was burning a hole in his pocket!) By the end of September, we picked our date for 10-29-11. We wanted earlier in the month, but many places were already booked! I'm sure if we didn't want a certain kind of wedding we could have found a place on shorter notice, but why compromise when you don't need to? Plus I <3 the Fall!

ETA: My parents met, were engaged, married, & pregnant within 9 months of meeting each other! ...not necessarily in that order

 

[Swan4Me]

FOUR MONTHS ?? Wow, you can't even get a hall here without a years notice!

It was almost 30 years ago-back then weddings weren't the big production they are now

Called the Church-had to settle for the Saturday after we wanted. Back then people had daytime weddings We chose 10am. Our reception was 11-2 at the smaller room of the most popular reception venue-we had to be out of there by 3 for the next wedding.This is the South-had heavy Appetisers, wine and beer. We then drove to the shore for our 3 day honeymoon.

 

[Conservative Hippie]

This whole thread is hilarious. Obviously many people have different opinions on relationships. But to be honest, what works for one couple doesn't always work for another.

My fiance and I had our 3 year dating anniversary on August 24. It was 5 days later when I finally realized that our anniversary had passed. We laughed, kissed, and shrugged it off. Next year that date won't mean anything anyway. Obviously to us we don't put a lot of stock in anniversaries. But there will be times when one of you will forget something that is important to the other, life will go on.

And to those who think it's ridiculous to have a year + engagement...we got engaged 9/11/10 (he didn't realize what day it was until afterwards...the ring was burning a hole in his pocket!) By the end of September, we picked our date for 10-29-11. We wanted earlier in the month, but many places were already booked! I'm sure if we didn't want a certain kind of wedding we could have found a place on shorter notice, but why compromise when you don't need to? Plus I <3 the Fall!

ETA: My parents met, were engaged, married, & pregnant within 9 months of meeting each other! ...not necessarily in that order

I couldn't even tell you the exact date of our first date. I know it was the last Wednesday before the first day of classes in August, 2000! We got engaged 1 1/2 years later, and we were engaged for almost 1 1/2 years before we got married (I wanted to graduate first!). Personally I think it's a little juvenile to celebrate "month-a-versaries," particularly 1) when you are engaged, and 2) when money is tight. You should go see Lion King because you want to spend time together, then instead of buying whatever for 10th and 11th month-a-versaries, have a special night for your FIRST anniversary.

 

[grumpy101]

I really don't think it is juvenile for my Fiance' and I to celebrate being together 9 months. It's the longest relationship either of us has been in without breaking up. What I mean by that both of us have had our hearts broken in the past by our ex's. So for him and I its a reason for celebration.

 

[HelenePA]

Ha! I'm close behind you. Dated 11 years and 2 kids before we finally got married.

WOW so soon?

 

[Ember]

I really don't think it is juvenile for my Fiance' and I to celebrate being together 9 months. It's the longest relationship either of us has been in without breaking up. What I mean by that both of us have had our hearts broken in the past by our ex's. So for him and I its a reason for celebration.

I don't think it's juvenile, either.

Here's a story for you: DH and I celebrate Valentines Day. (Yep, that commercial holiday meant to sell cards! And we do it all out, too!) When I was at university, I took painting. DH had someone help him sneak into my painting studio, and he covered it in children's valentine cards, each handwritten with a reason why he loved me. Then on my stool were a dozen roses. The display caused a bit of a fuss and just about everyone felt the need to put me down or make a nasty comment. How juvenile, how over done, what a stupid holiday to celebrate, etc. I didn't care a bit what they thought. Then later I went to get some tea, I stood in line behind one of the people who had made a mean comment, asking her boyfriend why he never did romantic things for her.

I don't think relationships need to be a certain way, there's no right and wrong. Some people don't care about celebrations, and that's great. I would never feel the need to tell them their relationship was inferior, because it works for them and that's what matters. Why these people can't extend the same courtesy is beyond me.

 

[Swan4Me]

I couldn't even tell you the exact date of our first date. .

I definitely know ours-Oct 13-it was a Friday the 13th

 

[npmommie]

I dont see anything wrong with celebraing a monthly anniversary with my fiancee since he dosen't mind celebrating it either. To me that shows that he truly does love me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me.

Take it from someone who has been married a long time, this is not the litmus test for showing your love for another.

 

[Conservative Hippie]

I definitely know ours-Oct 13-it was a Friday the 13th

I just looked up August 2000 on my computer's calendar - our first date was either August 16 or August 23!

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

Our first date was at a U2 concert in September 1992. I have the stub somewhere so if I really wanted to I could determine the actual date. We knew each other for years before that though.

 

[jc040404]

Take it from someone who has been married a long time, this is not the litmus test for showing your love for another.

No, but it's not going to hurt anything. Is it? I think it's kinda sweet. I tracked and celebrated month anniversaries when dh and I were first together. My intent was to be silly though. I had quite a few placing bets on when we would end, so that could've played a part, too.

Sorry your plans didn't quite work out, OP. Hope your ten month anniversary is fantastic!

 

[onelilspark]

I just looked up August 2000 on my computer's calendar - our first date was either August 16 or August 23!

The only reason I know ours is because I had it on my Google Calendar

 

[phorsenuf]

I don't remember when my husband and I started dating. I think it was mid May 1982. On our second date we went to a mall shopping and we bought a little ming tree. It was probably about 6" tall. Now 29 years later we still have it and it's big and thriving.

A little OT but a fun story. We always tried rooting cuttings from it but could never get them to take. About 4 months ago a small branch busted off it and my husband just left it laying in the planter. It turned yellow and shriveled up but then it started turning green again. My husband gave it a little tug and lo and behold it had rooted! We calculated back and it started growing right around the same time our first grandchild was conceived. We have since re-potted it into it's own planter and we are giving it to our son and (F)DIL. It's about the size now of the one we originally bought. Isn't that cool.

 

[John VN]

Glad things worked out but the following came to my guy mind...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WwRrKaq0IyY

 

[Octoberbride03]

Glad things worked out but the following came to my guy mind...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WwRrKaq0IyY

Ever hear him tell about making the video? He said Kim had entirely too much fun smacking him in the head They'd just met