Broken Promise

[disneychic2]

I can't believe this thread has well over 200 posts! I only read about 5 pages, but it just floors me!

 

[Nancyg56]

Twitter!!!

I don't know, it seems to me that the DIS should be a pretty friendly place. It is okay to suggest that the OP let the small stuff go, I agree. It is not okay to pile on her because what was clearly a letdown to her would be a little thing to you. I realize most folks are giving her some life experience here and that is what she would benefit from. It is clear that there are posters here who find her circumstances hard to comprehend and have made some pointedly meanspirited remarks.

I am not one who digs too deeply here but on this thread I would not add intentionally post for entertainment. I really would not. What a tough skinned woman could handle may not be the case here.

 

[DebIreland]

Where did she say this was the worst disappointment ever? Why jump to that conclusion simply to make her look bad? Are we not allowed to gripe a bit about life's little disappointments? Do YOU personally only complain about the very worst imaginable problems?

Well said. I absolutely hate that argument that just because someone is venting, they must consider their issue to be the worst thing in the world. I've had deaths in my family, illnesses etc (like most people have) so yes, there are nightmare scenarios we all go through which break our hearts but that doesn't mean I'm not gonna complain and moan when my printer gets jammed or my ds takes the last piece of chocolate.

 

[MIGrandma]

Well said. I absolutely hate that argument that just because someone is venting, they must consider their issue to be the worst thing in the world. I've had deaths in my family, illnesses etc (like most people have) so yes, there are nightmare scenarios we all go through which break our hearts but that doesn't mean I'm not gonna complain and moan when my printer gets jammed or my ds takes the last piece of chocolate.

I agree with you.

I read several pages here and really feel sorry for the OP, after reading some of the replies to her. I just don't understand people who belittle others for how they feel. It must make them feel superior or something. Even though I have developed a thick skin from posting here, I have learned that even the smallest gripe or complaint or opposing view is going to bring out some pretty nasty replies from some posters on here. It's sad, really. This is supposed to be a friendly community but quite often it sure isn't.

 

[Jeafl]

I don't remember when my husband and I started dating. I think it was mid May 1982. On our second date we went to a mall shopping and we bought a little ming tree. It was probably about 6" tall. Now 29 years later we still have it and it's big and thriving.

A little OT but a fun story. We always tried rooting cuttings from it but could never get them to take. About 4 months ago a small branch busted off it and my husband just left it laying in the planter. It turned yellow and shriveled up but then it started turning green again. My husband gave it a little tug and lo and behold it had rooted! We calculated back and it started growing right around the same time our first grandchild was conceived. We have since re-potted it into it's own planter and we are giving it to our son and (F)DIL. It's about the size now of the one we originally bought. Isn't that cool.

LOVE that story!

OP, do yourself a big favor and just stop stop stop. You really need to stop explaining yourself because it's not helping the cause.

Obviously you were disappointed that your finacee' did not keep his promise as frivolous as some think it is. However the constant explanations isn't helping anything. Honestly it just makes things sound worse.

I'm sorry the promise was broken. I do hope you both can get yourselves straightened out before your wedding. I certainly would not be marrying a man with no job. I did marry a man in the military and still is and it is not the life for everyone. Please think long and hard about if you are both prepared for the crazy lifestyle that the military can bring. Marriage can be very hard without the other stresses the lifestyle throws at it.

I do still remember the fuzzy blue birds singing, everything is gorgeous and sweet first waves of new love. Enjoy it just be realistic about what you can expect right now.

Excellent post Tina! (as usual!)

 

[superdiz]

DD11 declared her intention to get married at WDW when we were there last Christmas. We were on the monorail near The Grand Floridian and I spotted the coach....I assume it's the Cinderella coach or something......which was on its way to a wedding venue. I pointed it out to DD and her eyes sparkled. It was then that she matter-of-factly stated she would get married at WDW. I turned to DH and said, without missing a beat, "Start saving now. RIGHT NOW."

Good luck Mama!! We had a DFTW and I have to say, we would have spent the same at home, but we would have had double the guests. So yeah, start saving... NOW! hahaha We paid for our own wedding but it sure would have been nice if Mom and Dad footed the bill haha

 

[grumpy101]

My Ex-Fiance and I are no longer getting married he and I broke up at the end of 2011 because I found out he was cheating on me with my Ex-Best Friends sister.

 

[Donaldswife]

My Ex-Fiance and I are no longer getting married he and I broke up at the end of 2011 because I found out he was cheating on me with my Ex-Best Friends sister.

After all the trouble people gave you in this thread, why would you could back over a year after the two of you broke up and post this?

 

[Ceila]

My Ex-Fiance and I are no longer getting married he and I broke up at the end of 2011 because I found out he was cheating on me with my Ex-Best Friends sister.

I hope things are going better for you now. Although, I do wonder why you are updating now when you broke up over a year ago.

 

[BearcatsFan]

My Ex-Fiance and I are no longer getting married he and I broke up at the end of 2011 because I found out he was cheating on me with my Ex-Best Friends sister.

Is it just me, or does this sound like an episode of Jerry Springer?

Seriously, OP, I read the entire thread over ... why come back and resurrect it just to post something like this if not to stir up more controversy?

 

[grumpy101]

Celia things are better for me now I have taken time for myself and been hanging out with my work friends and I'm even trying to plan a Disney Vacation for next year as Birthday Present for myself

 

[grumpy101]

I know after all the comments I have seen on this over a year ago I realized that it shows I was not ready to be married. But I have taken time for myself and just been concentrating on work and hanging out with friends just enjoying life.