Broken Promise

[grumpy101]

His friend also borrowed some of his money to get some fishing stuff. So his friend ended up paying him back what he had borrowed from my fiancee.

 

[kamik86]

I don't know why everybody is getting hung up on the fact that it's a 9 month anniversary. Whether or not you personally recognize it or "get it" or give a rat's patootie about it is completely irrelevant. Pretend it wasn't an anniversary. Pretend that it was simply a date, and he promised her they'd go to a movie Friday night. And then he came back and said "Sorry, can't do it because I went fishing." Wouldn't you be annoyed and hurt? I would. And I think that's the bottom line - the fact that he blew off something she was looking forward to because he'd spent money on himself instead. One time? Maybe no big deal. But I'd want to see if it's part of a pattern.

Also, how can he afford roses and chocolates if he can't afford two movie tickets?

This is kind of my point as well. This wasn't an expensive dinner, that got toned down to something cheaper, or a concert or major event. This was a movie which as I said if you don't buy alot of extras is like $20. I would be more worried about the fact that as an adult this person can't budget for a $20 event that they promised to attend.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

Good grief, some of you people are awfully harsh. I'd like to say I was surprised

I'm pretty sure jumping to conclusions doesn't count as aerobic activity.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

This is kind of my point as well. This wasn't an expensive dinner, that got toned down to something cheaper, or a concert or major event. This was a movie which as I said if you don't buy alot of extras is like $20. I would be more worried about the fact that as an adult this person can't budget for a $20 event that they promised to attend.

It was a 3D movie, which is usually at least $3 more per ticket than a regular movie. And who wants to go on a date night to a movie and not get something to eat and drink?

You can get chocolate and flowers from the grocery store for less than $10. Of course, I'm sure that wouldn't be good enough for some of the people on here.

So let's see what I've learned today:
- People who are struggling financially aren't good enough to get married
- If we don't "get" it, that makes it wrong (whatever "it" is)
- Mocking people is okay (scratch that... I already knew that)
- Some people can determine a person's entire character based on two sentences

 

[Praying Colonel]

I'm sure the poster was ignorant, but she was rude, too.

She was responding to me, and I guess I'm a little slow on the uptake, but I didn't take it as her being rude--just curious.

This whole thread is coming in at a solid 7.6 on a 0-10 weirdness scale.

 

[MichelleVW]

So let's see what I've learned today:
- People who are struggling financially aren't good enough to get married


- Some people can determine a person's entire character based on two sentences

-yes people struggling financially are good enough to get married, but their needs to be communication about such and expectations before the marriage.

-not just from 2 sentences, but you can determine a lot about people from their previous posts.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

...-not just from 2 sentences, but you can determine a lot about people from their previous posts.

If you amend this to say that you can learn a lot about a person's posting style from their previous posts, I would agree. The fact is that you learn very little about people from their posts on an anonymous internet forum.

 

[grumpy101]

Yes money is tight for my fiancee and I cause he is still living at home with his mom so he can take care of her because she has cancer again. I live on my own work a part time job and trying my best to watch what I spend so I can pay my rent and my other bills that I have. I know im not in school anymore I dont see anything wrong with celebraing a monthly anniversary with my fiancee since he dosen't mind celebrating it either. To me that shows that he truly does love me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Also he did promise me to take me to see a movie and spent what he was saving for him and I on fishing. He admited that he messed up and he felt bad cause he messed up. But did make it up to me by getting me a Rose and some chocolate. His friend ended up paying him back money that he borrowed from my fiancee. I actually liked reading what everyone on posted I need a little construtive Critizum.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Yes money is tight for my fiancee and I cause he is still living at home with his mom so he can take care of her because she has cancer again. I live on my own work a part time job and trying my best to watch what I spend so I can pay my rent and my other bills that I have. I know im not in school anymore I dont see anything wrong with celebraing a monthly anniversary with my fiancee since he dosen't mind celebrating it either. To me that shows that he truly does love me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Also he did promise me to take me to see a movie and spent what he was saving for him and I on fishing. He admited that he messed up and he felt bad cause he messed up. But did make it up to me by getting me a Rose and some chocolate. His friend ended up paying him back money that he borrowed from my fiancee. I actually liked reading what everyone on posted I need a little construtive Critizum.

You guys are young and love. You are both going to make mistakes along the way. Try not to blow them out of proportion.

 

[crashbb]

I'm sure the poster was ignorant, but she was rude, too.

As your post proved, one can be rude without being ignorant (well, ignorant of the specific question at hand).

I saw nothing rude (or ignorant, for that matter) about the PP's post.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

Sorry you were disappointed.

Honestly, I can't imagine not having enough in my checking/savings account saved for occasions like this. I mean, a movie for both of you can't be more than $20 total.
I understand he went out and had a great time with his friends, but that doesn't excuse his lack of financial planning. Is he always cutting it this close?

 

[Magic Mom]

Sorry you were disappointed.

Honestly, I can't imagine not having enough in my checking/savings account saved for occasions like this. I mean, a movie for both of you can't be more than $20 total.
I understand he went out and had a great time with his friends, but that doesn't excuse his lack of financial planning. Is he always cutting it this close?

According to her, she doesn't have the money for a movie either.

 

[Magic Mom]

I honestly don't see what the big deal is. It's a monthly anniversary. It is nice to celebrate little things (like a 9 month anniversary) but in the long run, that isn't what makes a relationship. Celebrate your 9 month 1 week anniversary instead and see the movie then.

 

[m&m's mom]

My mom and dad were engaged after 6wks... hey when ya know, ya know... I guess.. It took me and dh 14yrs and 4 kids to get married...

OP I'm sorry you weren't able to see the movie tonight... Hopefully he'll make it up to you soon.

Ha! I'm close behind you. Dated 11 years and 2 kids before we finally got married.

 

[doxdogy]

She was responding to me, and I guess I'm a little slow on the uptake, but I didn't take it as her being rude--just curious.

This whole thread is coming in at a solid 7.6 on a 0-10 weirdness scale.

Count me as slow on the uptake too. I read it several times and still didn't see it as being rude.

 

[MichelleVW]

If you amend this to say that you can learn a lot about a person's posting style from their previous posts, I would agree. The fact is that you learn very little about people from their posts on an anonymous internet forum.

I disagree...but it's all good.

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

I have been married, to a wonderful man, for a 13 years (not as long as some I know). Here is what I have learned. Men don't always think. Men hardly even think will my wife/girlfriend be upset if I choose A instead of B (unless it's has to do with another woman but that's a whole other thread). Men don't realize that many of their actions will hurt. What does count is a man that is willing to realize he hurt his SO's feelings and make up for it...even if he can't understand what he did that was so bad that caused such hurt. To tell us that you have a man that realizes he made a mistake and wants to make up for it (instaed of calling you nuts) tells me you have pretty good guy. Money is important...it pays for all the things we need and want in life but it is not the most importanat thing.

 

[MrsPete]

Tomorrow is mine and my Fiancee's 9 month Anniverseary he told me a couple of weeks ago that he was gonna take me to see Lion King in 3D 2day to celebrate. So a couple of days ago while I was working sent me a text saying that he didnt have enough money to take me to see Lion King. The only reason he didnt have enough money is because he has been fishing the whole week with one of his buddies. Im very upset because he promised me we were gonna go see it 2day.

Off-topic, but a fiancee' is a she.
A fiance' is a he.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Off-topic, but a fiancee' is a she.
A fiance' is a he.

Wow - never knew the difference. Thanks.

 

[grumpy101]

Off-topic, but a fiancee' is a she.
A fiance' is a he.

Thanks I never knew that